An umpteenth thread on Facebook etiquette – viewing access

[Glaceon]

Honestly, it does seem a little confusing and weird to me for someone to friend people, but not allow them to see your wall. That is pretty much the main part of FB – why would you friend someone in the first place if you didn’t want to allow them access to your wall? If I don’t feel comfortable with someone viewing my wall for whatever reason, then I don’t feel comfortable enough to friend them in the first place. And it leads to awkward situations like mine, where I’m confused because I don’t know if I’m just being denied access to a certain part, or if there is genuinely a problem with someone’s settings.

For me, it's because there are people I really can't just ignore when they send a request.  I have relatives who are annoying and I don't involved in my personal life.  But, because they friended me and I have to see them at every family event, it would be awkward to ignore them and I know they would demand to know why.  This way, I can accept the request but they don't see anything I find too personal.  Same with my in-laws, who are not annoying, but I know would be uncomfortable with links or language in my posts, therefore I keep them from seeing all but the most plain stuff.

I wouldn't ask, because the fact that she's unfriended you before indicates that she doesn't really want you to see her page anymore.  It's not easy to accidentally unfriend someone.

[MadMadge43]

Wow this thread is timely!

I have a friend who is a little mad at me right now. She's pretending she's not, but she is.

I noticed that I can't see her wall anymore either. Well, then I don't think she should be able to see my wall either. So I'm trying to figure out a way to do the same thing she did. (oh my I sound like an 8 year old, I get that).

So I'll check out the privacy settings to figure out how to do that. Thanks for the heads up on this guys.

By the way, I kind of feel the wall is the whole point of FB.

[GirlyGirl]

On Facebook, I've got about 30 people that I know, and 500+ that I've friended so they can be in my mafia (Mafia Wars).  I'm okay with everyone that I actually know seeing my wall and everything else.  I want the Mafia Wars group to only see some stuff, like the Mafia Wars updates.  I had it set right, and now that they've changed the privacy settings, it is messed up.  I spent more than an hour last night trying to figure out which setting to change so that group could see the Mafia Wars updates again.  They can see my wall, and when I look at my own profile, I see that the application updates are there.  I still can't figure it out.

My point is, when you've got different groups of people who've got different access levels, it can be tricky.

[kingsrings]

MadMadge, I'll admit I've also sometimes been guilty of doing the behavior-of-an-8 year-old thing on FB too. 
I swear, those settings can really encourage such behavior sometimes out of adults, ugh.