Honestly, it does seem a little confusing and weird to me for someone to friend people, but not allow them to see your wall. That is pretty much the main part of FB – why would you friend someone in the first place if you didn’t want to allow them access to your wall? If I don’t feel comfortable with someone viewing my wall for whatever reason, then I don’t feel comfortable enough to friend them in the first place. And it leads to awkward situations like mine, where I’m confused because I don’t know if I’m just being denied access to a certain part, or if there is genuinely a problem with someone’s settings.
I think this is part of a much bigger question about what FB *is* and what it means to different people. Already, the website has been through a lot & changed HUGELY from when it was just a private sort of yearbook for college students.
FB to me is a place to keep up with my close friends, an easy way to plan outings & share photos, a place to make notes about what I'm up to, or share links that I'm interested in. It's a good place to find groups of people in my area that share the same interests & possibly lead to meeting & making new friends. It's also a place to reconnect & feel out old friends, or even acquaintances. I know a few people that I barely talked to in HS, but since reconnecting on FB, we now have a lot more in common than we used to, & have become genuine friends. Then, there are other people that were my BBFs in highschool, that I fell out of touch with & having reconnected with them....well, I'd just as soon stay out of touch, because it's clear from their postings & opinions that we don't have much in common & I don't wish to engage with them anymore.
FB is NOT to me a place to play games, take every friggin quiz out there, & cover my profile with bling. While I respect the fact that other people love that, it's not for me, and no I WON'T go join farmville with you, or put a platinum-plated set of faerie wings with iridescent purple sparkles that signify unity with the Eternal Consciousness on my wall no matter how many times you ask me.
In the case of what I let people see re: my wall & stuff, I have coworkers that are friends, I restrict their access to certain things. I've had some "friends" that I was never too close to & they clearly wanted to get too close for my comfort, so I restricted their access too. & after some though, I decided that, while I don't mind Joe Shmoe from high school having a broad overview of what's going on in my life (just like, if I ever see Joe at home when I'm visiting my parents & make some small talk with him), I'd rather not have him know that I'm debating sneaking out to central park tonight with friends to make naked snow angels.
So that's what FB means to me.
I bet everybody here has a different way of looking at it. And we're all tweaking our profiles & our privacy according to what we want to get out of it. & we're trying to (politely) wade through what all those different viewpoints being displayed with different degrees of openness towards friends, acquaintances, & random people mean. It really is a brave new world.