I think someone needs an explanation on the difference between "posting to [my] wall" and "posting to [my friend's] wall(s)" because there's a big logistical and etiquetical (LOL) difference between the two. That someone went ahead and took the effort to individually post the same note to 30 people makes me "..." -- the fact these people probably share friends in common and so were able to see her mass spammaction makes me LOL.
What's with the second letter? I mean, the guy maybe comes across as a bit judgmental, but Amy sure seems down on the idea of anybody being a virgin before marriage.
The guy came off as *extremely* judgemental to me, so I'm guessing Amy read it the same way. I normally don't agree with her but this is one case where I do. If he had just said "I want a woman who shares my values", that's one thing, but "Maybe I'm wrong, but I just have very little respect for women who have had sex before marriage. It shows little self-respect and low self-esteem" is a pretty horrible thing to say.
That was my take on it, too. My immediate reaction was something along the lines of "Bite me, you self-righteous bacon-fed knave," so I think Amy's reaction was quite civilized in comparison. If he conveys that attitude toward women all the time, it's no wonder he's single. Even if I were a single virgin, I wouldn't want to date him.
Word. (Or POD.) I mean, women who
choose to have sex before marriage for their own
deeply personal spiritual and emotional feelings have little self-esteem or self-respect? Here I thought self-esteem and self-respect were about the confidence to make your own choices, believe and act in a way that fits with how you believe, and to feel comfortable with both your choices/actions and beliefs. What those acts are has nothing to do with whether they're self-respecting or esteeming.
The comment to Amy's advice makes me "..." too. People who choose to associate sex exclusively with marriage are great. Not my boat to float but I know I'm always happy when people make their own decisions and are comfortable with 'em. But that's a far cry from suggesting that anyone who doesn't thinks of themselves as worthless and due no respect (not to mention the shade of "morally inferior" there).
If I ran across a guy who felt the opposite -- say, that women who wait are unable to think for themselves and have no self-worth -- I'd be just as disturbed. Not your body? Not your call, man.
