Who is the rude one

[MerryRaven]

Grace is a college girl that lives with us on her college breaks as her mother died last year.

She has a friend, Jake who asked her to pick him up from college and bring him home this last week.

She had been home for a week already and would have had to drive 90 miles in each direction to pick him up and bring him home.  The weather was bad with snow and ice, she didn't feel well and she told him she was not able to do that this weekend.

He kept calling her up over and over again telling her she had to come and take him home. 
Because: a) he had wrecked his car the week before.
              b) he had written checks and had no money in his account and he needed to get home over the weekend so he could get money to put money in the bank to cover it.
             
So Grace said that she could not and why didn't he get his parents to get him.

It was because he didn't want the parents to know about the wrecked car and the checks.

Grace felt that as she didn't feel well and the roads were bad she just could not do it.  He said, "Well then I guess you really don't want a Christmas present from me."

Well, Jake called today demanding that she pay his check fees because "it was her fault his checks bounced and he had nothing to eat except frozen pizza and cookies all weekend."  He finally called his parents and of course they came to get him. 

He told her she was so rude for not getting him. 

Okay they used to date and have had a friendly relationship for several years, but this kind of broke the back of that.  I guess he said some terrible things about her personally.  Because they had dated he knew just how to hurt.

I told her it was time for some tough love and he was just mad because she wouldn't be convenient for him. I don't think she was rude. 

[Clara Bow]

Jake was beyond rude!!! HE wrecked his car, HE overdrew his savings account, both of which are reasonably preventable. To ask someone to drive 180 miles in dangerous weather conditions and then harrangue them when they aren't stupid enough to risk their lives because you can't handle your finances like a big boy is RUDERUDERUDERUDE, above and beyond rude!
By the way, how was he going to keep them from finding out about the car anyway? Was he going to conjure a new one out of the ground? Poor Grace...thank heavens she got rid of this entitlement prince!

[sammycat]

WHAT??!!!  JAKE totalled HIS car, JAKE spent all HIS money, and yet he has the hide to call Grace rude!!  I can see why he is her EX-boyfriend.  Is this the first time someone has said no to him?  And kudos to Grace for having the backbone to stand up to him.

(Sorry about all the yelling, but this guy's attitude ticked me off!).

ETA:  Please tell us that Grace will not be paying his bank fees?  They are in no way her fault or responsibility.

[Sirius]

No sympathy for Jake here.  He wrecked his car, he should suffer the consequences.  He bounced checks, again he should suffer the consequences.  And Grace should tell him to take a hike as far as the check charges go; had he not bounced them in the first place, he wouldn't have had the charges. 

[ItZWhoUKnow]

I can see the episode now...This is the type of thing that ends up on Judge Judy....

In this case I would love to see ol' Judy call Jake stupid and then have Burt agree with her.

[MineralDiva]

So let me get this straight:

He wrecked his car and bounced some checks.  So now it's up to her to risk wrecking HER car, in bad weather, when she's ill and not at her best ability to be in control of the vehicle in the first place, to go get his deadbeat butt, so he can get to the bank before his parents find out what she already knew years ago?  (That he's an idiot?)

How did that clueless wonder of an ex even make it into college?

She was wise not to risk the trip...and even wiser to have dumped him long ago!

[kckgirl]

Well, Jake called today demanding that she pay his check fees because "it was her fault his checks bounced and he had nothing to eat except frozen pizza and cookies all weekend."  He finally called his parents and of course they came to get him. 

What an idiot! Whose fault is it that he had bank fees for overdrawn checks? Right, it was Jakey's fault. Who owes the money for being an idiot? Right, Jakey does.

[Twik]

Why did he have to leave college and come home to put money in his account? If he had money to deposit, I've heard there's this new concept called "interbranch banking", even strange new contraptions called ATMs which will allow you to deposit money even if you're not near your actual branch.

Or was he planning on hitting his folks up for money once he got home?

[Alida]

There's even a question here about who is rude?

Jake needs to be an adult and 'fess up to his parents and not guilt someone else into covering for him.

Besides, frozen pizza and cookies I thought were staples of young men of that age (or maybe that's just my brother *G*).

[Suze]

frozen pizza -- I hope he had to eat it frozen. 

If he had EVER cared about Grace (which I doubt) he would have looked outside and told her to stay where she was and called his folks regardless of the "trouble" he was in.

My two pence - let him eat his pizza cooked over the fires of E-Hell

[freakyfemme]

Jake was definitely the rude one....and to threaten withholding Grace's Christmas gift on top of that was just beyond the pale.  By the way, as an interesting side note......frozen pizza and cookies aren't really cheap "student food."  I don't buy frozen pizza when I'm away at school, because (besides the fact that most frozen pizza tastes like cardboard), have you seen what it costs?  A frozen Delissio pizza is about $8.99 at the Provigo.  And of course, cookies are a luxury food that I *might* purchase after buying healthy food first.  Jake would do far better to buy some cans of generic tomato soup, some pasta/rice/potatoes (some kind of carb), a few cans of mixed beans, and then mix that up with whatever vegetables are on hand around his house, and thicken it with leftover tomato sauce and sour cream to make a stew that'd last him for a few days. 

[FoxPaws]

Jake is:

Immature - He kept calling her up over and over again telling her she had to come and take him home...........because he didn't want the parents to know about the wrecked car and the checks.
Manipulative - He said, "Well then I guess you really don't want a Christmas present from me."
Rude - He told her she was so rude for not getting him.
Vindictive - I guess he said some terrible things about her personally.  Because they had dated he knew just how to hurt.
Fiscally Irresponsible - he had nothing to eat except frozen pizza and cookies all weekend Yeah buddy. Call me when you get down to Ramen Noodles and store brand mac-n-cheese and then maybe I'll shed a few tears.

I hope that Grace does not allow this to ruin her holiday. Even though I don't know her, I'm grateful she's not still dating this loser. He has a lot of growing up to do before he's fit for polite society.

[IndianInlaw]

Never mind Jake, he's an idiot.  Grace, however, is very wise at such a young age.  If she's concerned, tell her he should be grateful to her for giving him the change to GROW UP! 

You wreck your car and overspend, well, you'll have no way to get home and have to eat frozen pizza and cookies (Pizza and cookies sound pretty good to me!)

By the way, I went through a time when all I had to eat was grape jelly sandwiches.  I ate them and was glad I had that much, but I cannot bear to even look at a jar of grape jelly to this day.

[willow08]

I think Jake just showed what kind of friend he is and Grace is lucky to be rid of him. He's a spoiled, irresponsible, unreasonable jerk.

There's a lot of things wrong with this scenario.

She doesn't HAVE to do anything. She was driving him home out of friendship and demanding the ride smacks of entitlement.

Demanding that she pay his check fees because it's her fault he bounced checks is just ridiculous. He wrote checks KNOWING he didn't have the money. That's illegal. He was just trying to guilt her because he didn't want to get into trouble with Mummy and Daddy.

Dangling the Christmas present as some sort of bait is just idiotic and insulting, as if Grace can be bought off with some trinket.

Telling her she was the rude one is just another manipulative ploy. It sounds like emotional abuse.

Grace needs to lose this guy's number and find some new friends who appreciate her.

[willow08]

frozen pizza -- I hope he had to eat it frozen. 

My two pence - let him eat his pizza cooked over the fires of E-Hell

You've seen Ehell Dame's roasting spit for rude people right?