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Ugh... family gifts
Alida:
Every year, we go through the same thing. I go crazy trying to find the perfect gifts for my husband's side of the family (okay, I enjoy that part of it ;)), but there's never any consideration in what is sent to our family. Is it wrong of me to want to just throw my hands up and call it done?
This year, I spent hours sorting through photos of my husband and his sisters and their families and uploading them to a digital photo frame for my mother in law and her husband (cost: $140 plus a day's worth of work). I was so thrilled with what we sent and I hope they enjoy it, I even set it up so all they have to do is plug it in and the photos will begin.
What did they send? Mom sent food stuff (we know, the dog went crazy when we put the packages under the tree). Cookies. Candy. Snacks. Would almost be thoughtful if her son wasn't diabetic!
I guess it just frustrates me to try to make sure things are perfect, but a health issue is ignored. I'd almost rather they didn't bother sending anything, since what I 'hear' is "your family isn't worth the time to actually bother looking for anything that might actually be suitable." His mom can't claim senility - she's only in her early 60s and she's done this all the years that he and I have been married.
Am I wrong to be unhappy?
sammycat:
No, I don't think you're wrong to be unhappy. I know gift giving is meant to more focused on the giving than the receiving but sometimes it hurts when it seems that the other party doesn't appear to be putting any effort into it.
The evil side of me says that maybe in future you could just give them food baskets in return seeing as your in-laws consider them the perfect gift. Have you mentioned to your in-laws that your husband can't eat some/any of the foods that you receive?
blue2000:
--- Quote from: AlidaDmed on December 21, 2006, 02:00:28 AM ---I'd almost rather they didn't bother sending anything, since what I 'hear' is "your family isn't worth the time to actually bother looking for anything that might actually be suitable." His mom can't claim senility - she's only in her early 60s and she's done this all the years that he and I have been married.
Am I wrong to be unhappy?
--- End quote ---
No, that's perfectly understandable. It's the thought that counts. And they obviously were not thinking of you when they bought these things. :(
Clara Bow:
I always get "goat-gifts"....I know I shouldn't be ill about it, but I hunt every year for the perfect gifts and I get a little hacked when I get "dash in and grab" presents...I shouldn't but I do a little...it's human...
Alida:
--- Quote from: sammycat on December 21, 2006, 02:21:14 AM ---Have you mentioned to your in-laws that your husband can't eat some/any of the foods that you receive?
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They already know. That's what annoys me so much.
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