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Evil Duckie:
This morning my sister called and told me that I am rude and out of date because I do not have a facebook account.

I asked how and she told me that facebook is how families keep in contact anymore because calling or write letters or email is passe so not to have it is terribly rude because it is telling everyone that I do not want to keep in contact.

When did it become rude not to have facebook? Or is this just my sister complaining.

For what it is worth DH (I can use his if I wanted to) and the boys have facebook accounts but I have not so far seen the need to add myself to facebook.

Hushabye:
It's just your sister complaining.  You're not being rude at all not to have a Facebook account.  Heck, I often lament the day when Facebook went from being a way to keep in touch with your college buddies and transformed into this massive, open social network.  :P  I would just ignore her or just say, "No, I'm not."  What I'd like to add ("The only thing stopping you from picking up the phone or a pen and paper is laziness, and I'm not rude to refuse to cater to it.") is definitely rude, so I'd just go with "No" or ignoring it altogether.

MrsJWine:
Was she joking?  I mean, I've jokingly needled friends who haven't joined Facebook yet, but it's never been serious.  If she was serious, then she's out of line.  That's just silly.

Queenie:

--- Quote from: Evil Duckie on January 09, 2010, 02:07:40 PM ---This morning my sister called and told me that I am rude and out of date because I do not have a facebook account.

I asked how and she told me that facebook is how families keep in contact anymore because calling or write letters or email is passe so not to have it is terribly rude because it is telling everyone that I do not want to keep in contact.

When did it become rude not to have facebook? Or is this just my sister complaining.

For what it is worth DH (I can use his if I wanted to) and the boys have facebook accounts but I have not so far seen the need to add myself to facebook.

--- End quote ---

It's not rude just because she thinks it is.  Some people will go to their grave never having had a FB page for whatever reasons, myself among them. 

Yes, it is just your sister complaining and being a nuisance.

camlan:

--- Quote from: Evil Duckie on January 09, 2010, 02:07:40 PM ---This morning my sister called and told me that I am rude and out of date because I do not have a facebook account.

I asked how and she told me that facebook is how families keep in contact anymore because calling or write letters or email is passe so not to have it is terribly rude because it is telling everyone that I do not want to keep in contact.

When did it become rude not to have facebook? Or is this just my sister complaining.

For what it is worth DH (I can use his if I wanted to) and the boys have facebook accounts but I have not so far seen the need to add myself to facebook.

--- End quote ---

What your sister really told you was that she doesn't want to take  the time to call or email you. She wants to be able to notify everyone all at once, with one message, of anything she thinks is important. The underlying message she's sending, that you aren't worth her time, is far more rude than what she said. This happened in my family, when everyone but my parents got email. Some of my siblings complained a lot that our parents needed to get email. What they really meant was that they didn't want to take the time to print out the email on paper and snail mail the news to our parents.

I got a Facebook account a year ago, just to see what it was all about. None of my friends are on it, so it isn't very useful to me. Some of my younger relatives are on it, but I highly doubt they want their aunt friending them on Facebook. So I don't use the account at all.

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