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mrsbrandt:
So this morning I was on our public transportation system during rush hour.  I got onto a train car and looked for a seat.  There was one seat on 2 seater bench open and it was one of the "priority seats".  (I'm currently 5 mos. pregnant, so I qualify for those seats.)  I went to sit down and in the second seat on the 2 seater bench, was another woman.  Her coat was on top of about half of my seat, but I figured she would move it when she sat down.  She saw me eyeing the seat and scooched over.   I didn't quite put two and two together, but she was a larger woman so there wasn't much scooching she could do.  I sat down on less than half the surface area of my seat, with my shoulder digging into one of the other metal bench tops.  I thought it would be rude to not sit after she had scooched over to "make room" for me, but I was horribly uncomfortable. 

After a few stops another seat opened up, I went ahead and switched seats and wound up being more comfortable sitting next to another woman.  I noticed that the woman I was seating with previously had been glaring at me for quite a while.  I didn't think I had done anything wrong, but the way this woman was looking at me, I must have offended her.  I feel really bad for hurting her feelings, was I rude for moving?  I'm fairly petite but being pregnant and all, I need atleast 2/3rds of my seat.  Should I just not have sat down in the first place, even though she had scooched over for me?

Lisbeth:
You didn't need her permission to switch seats.  You didn't owe her an explanation, either.

I'd ignore her dirty look.

fklwmn:

--- Quote from: KeenReader on December 21, 2006, 09:54:31 AM ---You didn't need her permission to switch seats.  You didn't owe her an explanation, either.

I'd ignore her dirty look.

--- End quote ---

will I get in trouble if I say...

POD!!!

Nekolove:
I also think you did nothing wrong. I've seen people move on trains lots of times for no apparent reason. I'd just shrug this one off.

ShadesOfGrey:
much agreed. no problem moving at all.  not rude at all either.  It sounds like she got  offended that you moved, and of course, was assuming it was because she was large.  She could have smelled bad/had dog hair on her/etc. 

The way I see it, you were moving because you were uncomfortable, no matter what the reason.  I just dont get people that get upset over things like this.  Limited space+larger than average person=no room for average person, Why the heck is she mad over that? It is a fact of life.

If she wants to take you moving seats as a commentary on her size, so be it.  It's not your problem. 

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