Repeated friend requests

[PeasNCues]

Just short and sweet -

I've gotten three friend requests from the Meowing Mail Man on facebook. I've rejected him all three times.

Just went online again - another request.

Is it rude to friend request more than once?

[ShadesOfGrey]

yes it is. Just leave it hanging - dont ignore, dont accept. 

Or, ignore and block. that might be better.

[Bethalize]

Just short and sweet -

I've gotten three friend requests from the Meowing Mail Man on facebook. I've rejected him all three times.

Just went online again - another request.

Is it rude to friend request more than once?

It's not rude per se - but it is annoying, showing you can't take a hint and frankly bordering on the delusional. Does he think the world is going change around him to become what he wants? Ignore, block.

[greenleafmountain]

I would say so.  I wonder if he just automatically adds every suggested friend that facebook sends him, and doesn't keep track of whether these are people he's attempted to add before.  He's the mail man?  That's really strange.  Do you have any personal relationship with him outside of him delivering your mail?  I would just block him, and then he won't ever know you are on facebook.  If he says anything to you, you can just say you deleted your account.  He'll have no way of knowing otherwise...

[PeasNCues]

I would say so.  I wonder if he just automatically adds every suggested friend that facebook sends him, and doesn't keep track of whether these are people he's attempted to add before.  He's the mail man?  That's really strange.  Do you have any personal rel@tionship with him outside of him delivering your mail?  I would just block him, and then he won't ever know you are on facebook.  If he says anything to you, you can just say you deleted your account.  He'll have no way of knowing otherwise...

He's from work - he works in the mail office and is the courier. He used to meow to get my attention.

As a general rule, I do not friend anyone I currently work with.

[alegria]

Ignore and block.  I've done that with a few people at work that I don't want to be social with, for whatever reason.  I essentially have three categories for coworkers:
-actual friends, who have full access to my page
-work friends, who I'm sociable with and enjoy their company but don't see outside of work, who have partial access to my page
-coworkers, who do not have access to my page

It's good to have an internal policy, IMO - makes these decisions easier. 

[greenleafmountain]

I would say so.  I wonder if he just automatically adds every suggested friend that facebook sends him, and doesn't keep track of whether these are people he's attempted to add before.  He's the mail man?  That's really strange.  Do you have any personal rel@tionship with him outside of him delivering your mail?  I would just block him, and then he won't ever know you are on facebook.  If he says anything to you, you can just say you deleted your account.  He'll have no way of knowing otherwise...

He's from work - he works in the mail office and is the courier. He used to meow to get my attention.

As a general rule, I do not friend anyone I currently work with.

Ah, well that makes a little more sense.  I was picturing the local mail carrier taking down the names of the people on his route and then friending them on facebook or something, lol.  I still say block him, he sounds like someone who has very little in the way of social grace and probably isn't getting the hint.

[TootsNYC]

I would say so.  I wonder if he just automatically adds every suggested friend that facebook sends him, and doesn't keep track of whether these are people he's attempted to add before.  He's the mail man?  That's really strange.  Do you have any personal rel@tionship with him outside of him delivering your mail?  I would just block him, and then he won't ever know you are on facebook.  If he says anything to you, you can just say you deleted your account.  He'll have no way of knowing otherwise...

The changes in Facebook make this possible, actually, if you have any other "friends" in common.

[hobish]

If not rude per se, i agree that it is annoying. An old friend of mine keeps sending friend requests. To my work email. I am not on Facebook. I have never been on Facebook. Chances are i will never be on Facebook, and if i was it certainly wouldn't be hooked up to my work email. It is very frustrating that i can't even email him back to tell him that because it doesn't how his email address and i don't have his contact info - i haven't even seen him in years. I really don't need that stuff coming into my work email.

[something.new.every.day]

I would say so.  I wonder if he just automatically adds every suggested friend that facebook sends him, and doesn't keep track of whether these are people he's attempted to add before.  He's the mail man?  That's really strange.  Do you have any personal rel@tionship with him outside of him delivering your mail?  I would just block him, and then he won't ever know you are on facebook.  If he says anything to you, you can just say you deleted your account.  He'll have no way of knowing otherwise...

If it's for a reason like the one bolded above--not rude.  Annoying, yes, but not rude.

However, if he knows you did not friend him and won't take no for an answer, that is very rude.  He's basically trying to get you to friend him by wearing you down/making you uncomfortable. 

But, as my grandma always said "consider the source".  We're talking about a man who meowed at you.   

[bah12]

I would say he probably doesn't realize that you have rejected him.  He may not take the time to look at who he's already requested so as not to send repeat requests.  Can you send him a PM that tells him that you have a personal rule about friending people at work?  Is that even considered ok?

Something similar happened to me, but from the opposite.  I was actually friends with a girl I knew from my first duty station.  We weren't best friends, but I do recall that she sent the original request to me.  Then one day, I noticed her on my suggested friends list and confused, sent her a friends request with the note "I thought you were already on my list."  She did not respond, nor did she accept my request.  I forgot all about it and then noticed her on my suggested friends list again a few months later and sent her a PM that just said "how's it going?"  She never responded to that and now she appears to not be on FB at all, which makes me think that she both defriended and blocked me.  I'm not sure why exactly, especially since I had not spoken to her since my last day on station.  I was not intending to be rude by sending a second request to her, I just honestly didn't know what happened and I would have been ok if she had written me and said that she was tailoring her list down to people that she is actively in a relationship with.  But also know she wasn't required to. 

I would give this guy the benefit of the doubt that he's not trying to harass you.  maybe a short note back to him will give him the clue, but if not, then block.

[Fi]

I looked up the past stories, having remembered some of them. This is the guy who has a crush on you, right?

In some ways, that's irrelevant. Facebook has an annoying feature where you can tell it to spam your addressbook - it's not necessarily clear what it does.

I had multiple invites from a friend who I have already friended on Facebook. The system automatically sends out those emails - it may not be Mr Meow doing so at all. Check one of the emails you got and there should be a "do not contact me again" option at the bottom.

The fact that he has your email address is a different one, of course.

[Azrail]

He's from work - he works in the mail office and is the courier. He used to meow to get my attention.

I would ignore and block because this is really weird.

[TiredMum]

I say BLOCK the meowing mail man.  He made you feel uncomfortable enough to post previously about his behaviour, don't engage further with him.

[Surianne]

I've done this before because I'll notice someone on Facebook and think "Oh look, it's Casey from undergrad, I wonder what she's been up to!" and friend request her.  Then a month later, I'll see her again and think "Oh, I meant to friend request Casey but I guess I forgot!" and friend request her. 

I think I did it three times to one poor girl before I remember I'd friend requested her before, and realized that she wasn't accepting.  I know that some people like to keep their lists smaller and not add casual acquaintances, and I completely respect that--I just had a terrible memory!

So I don't think it's actually rude--to me it's not quite the same as actually spamming them, or sending email after email that isn't replied to.  However, I *also* think you're perfectly fine to block him, especially if he's making you uncomfortable (or even just annoying you--you can block him for whatever reason you like.)