I'm not sure if this subject has already been discussed. I did a search, but may not have used the correct keywords.
I have a FB account and have friended many people from my past, who at one time I had a close relationship with, but today really only keep in touch through FB.
One such friend, Kelly, is an old college friend. She and I have been FB friends for a while now, but do not regularly talk or post on each other's walls. I have seen on my home page that she has recently developed a baby/children's product and is actively selling it on the web. She has posted status updates, create a fan site, and posted the links on her wall and I really don't have a problem with small business owners using the accessibility of FB to advertise, as long as it's on their page.
I announced the birth of my DD on my page and posted a couple of pictures of her. Kelly commented on one of the pictures and then sent me a pm that congratulated me and asked how things are going. In her email, she included a short update on herself and her family and included a link to her product website in case I wanted to check out what she has been doing. I did check out the link, but I am not interested in her product. It is not something I believe my child needs and if it was something that I wanted for her, I could easily make it myself.
I wrote Kelly back and let her know that my family and I were all fine and that I was happy to hear from her. I told her that I was glad she was doing well and left it at that. I did not comment specifically on her product outside of a short note congratulating her on becoming the entrepreneur she always dreamed about.
Kelly then posted a link to her website on my wall with a comment about how I and my other friends with small children will appreciate this great new product. I saw it as spam and removed it. I did not say anything to Kelly about it.
Kelly then sent me another PM that asked why I had removed it and if I had something against her company.
I want to respond to Kelly without sounding too angry (I am). I have nothing against personal advertising on FB, but I do have a problem with her advertising on my wall without my permission. I also do not want to be pressured into purchasing anything from her just because we are old friends (and in her defense, she has not come out and asked me to).
So, my questions are:
1. Was it rude of Kelly to include a link to her website in a PM, even though she presented it as a "we haven't talked and this is what I do now" sort of thing.
2. I am sure that it was rude, or at least presumptuous, of her to post an advertisement on my wall, but how do I respond to her inquiry without sounding harsh and angry? I want to remain friends with her and I honestly don't think she was intending to cross any lines, but she did, and I want to make it clear to her how I feel about that.
3. How do others feel about this? If I can say that I am not offended by advertising on their own walls (which in turn ends up on my home page anyway), is it hypocritical of me to say that I don't want anything posted on my personal wall?
Some more background that may be relevant. In the last few months, Kelly has been pushing hard to get her product out there. I've noticed that the latest pictures posted of her own children are with them posing with and using her products. She has rarely posted a status update that doesn't include something about her product, whether it be her using it, something cute her DD said about it, or how humbled she is by all the good feedback she's gotten about it. And again, while I don't have a huge problem with her using her site to advertise, I almost wonder if it really is a friend site to her, or just a means of advertisement...and if it's the later, I am considering defriending her, because I no longer feel she is actually trying to keep in touch with me more than she is trying to sell me something.