Bad bad etiquette - posting it on Youtube

[Yarnie]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

[sammycat]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

Agreed.  It was quite boring really, and not at all funny.  I didn't watch all of it.  I think the still photos sound much worse.

[Red1979]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

Agreed.  It was quite boring really, and not at all funny.  I didn't watch all of it.  I think the still photos sound much worse.

Did you make it to the part where the  woman takes her top off and walks around with just a small chair cover wrapped around her bra?  That's really where it crosses a huge line.

[Gfived5]

I've been following this story elsewhere, and can answer a previous question about the hub--both he and wife are in cutoff from the parents over this and a large variety of other issues, not the least of was these guests photographing their nether regions with the guest cameras.

I see nothing wrong with posting video for the reasons mentioned above--they knew they were on video, they expected people to see it.  I do give the wife credit for not tagging it with their names so it would come up in internet searches.  

[Yarnie]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

Agreed.  It was quite boring really, and not at all funny.  I didn't watch all of it.  I think the still photos sound much worse.

Did you make it to the part where the  woman takes her top off and walks around with just a small chair cover wrapped around her bra?  That's really where it crosses a huge line.

I did, but pretty much everything was covered down to her belly button, and she had her bra on.  It was silly, but it wasn't exactly lewd.  But, inappropriate for a wedding, of course.

[Red1979]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

Agreed.  It was quite boring really, and not at all funny.  I didn't watch all of it.  I think the still photos sound much worse.

Did you make it to the part where the  woman takes her top off and walks around with just a small chair cover wrapped around her bra?  That's really where it crosses a huge line.

I did, but pretty much everything was covered down to her belly button, and she had her bra on.  It was silly, but it wasn't exactly lewd.  But, inappropriate for a wedding, of course.

I think I'd call wearing a small sash and a bra to a wedding reception lewd.  Particularly on someone old enough to know better.  When you remove clothing to the point where you're showing undergarments in a public setting like a formal wedding that's far beyond inappropriate.

[sammycat]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

Agreed.  It was quite boring really, and not at all funny.  I didn't watch all of it.  I think the still photos sound much worse.

Did you make it to the part where the  woman takes her top off and walks around with just a small chair cover wrapped around her bra?  That's really where it crosses a huge line.

No...   My computer has been really slow at downloading things lately and I only got about 5 minutes into the video before I decided to cancel the rest (thankfully by the sounds of it).

[Rivaini]

I found the video, and I honestly expected far worse.  However, given that the guests knew they were being video taped, and were mugging for the cameras, I don't think there's anything wrong with posting it.

I totally agree.

[nolechica]

I think anytime a paid photog is around, one should be prepared for their antics to find their way to youtube.  Slideshows aren't that hard to make and set to music.

As for whether it's etiquettely correct may depend on the people in the video.  If you're likely to hear about it again, not wise, but proving that you won't be made a fool it's necessarily a bad idea.

[Indigosails]

I'm going to say there's nothing wrong with posting it specifically because it is a wedding video.  Wedding videos by their nature are made to be shown to others--people know this.  Normal wedding video clips are posted on youtube and shown at parties.  Not to mention these people purposely set out to make a spectacle of themselves.  In the video the woman takes out joke glasses and teeth and puts them on and proceeds to spend the rest of the evening with them on and doing ridiculous behavior directly at the camera.  It seems pretty obvious to me that this was set up with the way everyone is acting around her.  The woman with the joke glasses even takes her top off and wears a chair sash only.  She spends a lot of time motioning and acting directly at the camera.  Clearly she wanted attention.  Well, she got it.

I see no etiquette faux pas in posting a wedding video.  If grown adults (that are up there in years) don't know how to behave in front of a camera that they are well aware is documenting an event so that it can be shown to others, they deserve any public shame they would get.  I doubt anyone is going to support the MIL vilifying the bride in any way once they see the video. I'd feel differently if it were an embarrassing unintentional clip, but its obvious these people were behaving this poorly and doing it specifically toward the camera.  They were aware they were being taped for the wedding video and purposely behaved that way.  

I agree with this completely. It was obvious the woman planned to act out at the wedding reception as she brought props. She knew the camera was there and spent time acting to it. I doubt this was the first time she has acted this way. Her behavior with the bride appeared to be an attempt to get a reaction, but the bride was polite and gracious. I don't see a problem posting it on you tube.

[Amava]

"Many people left early because they were so uncomfortable"

That is horrible. The offenders should have been kicked out instead of innocent guests having to leave early for being uncomfortable.

[Red1979]

"Many people left early because they were so uncomfortable"

That is horrible. The offenders should have been kicked out instead of innocent guests having to leave early for being uncomfortable.

This is probably one of those times where the people who could do something about the situation were too polite too.  The DJ should have played a slow song--like a waltz or something to clear the dance floor.  If I had been there and was close enough to the bride, I would have spoken to the DJ to come up with some kind of special dance or something just to get those people off the dance floor.  I imagine everyone was probably too horrifed to do much, so I get why it ended up going on as long as it did.

The people that had the authority that should have stopped it were the inlaws, but I'd bet good money the MIL was the catalyst for the whole "show".

[Venus193]

Gadzooks.  I have no other word that would make it through the filter.

Does the mother-in-law have it in for the bride or her family?  There is no other logical reason for something like this to happen.  I also think that someone should have taken action long before this hit the 7-minute mark. 

The bride and groom should demand an apology from his parents for inviting these people in the first place.  They ruined the wedding reception.  As for whether it was rude to post this video on YouTube, I thought so until I saw it.  The one with the goofy teeth and chair sash was clearly mugging for the camera so she was asking for it.  And if this video helps another bridal couple to avoid such a situation, this bride has performed a valuable public service.

[Yarnie]

The other thing I had assumed was that the Bride and groom had already left for the evening when this all occurred.  But from the video, they hadn't.  So, I don't understand why the groom didn't say something to his mother and her guests.  Or, at least the dj, so he's stop playing songs so easily danced to in such a manner.

[Red1979]

The other thing I had assumed was that the Bride and groom had already left for the evening when this all occurred.  But from the video, they hadn't.  So, I don't understand why the groom didn't say something to his mother and her guests.  Or, at least the dj, so he's stop playing songs so easily danced to in such a manner.

The bride said that she was in and out and greeting people so she thought the woman was just goofing off for a minute or two and she didn't realize the full extent of it.  I imagine the groom was probably doing the same.  I can't speak for the DJ, because he really should have played something slow and cleared the floor but it was a lot of people acting out and may not have thought he should stop the festivities.