Facebook and Work *Final Update in Op*

[siamesecat2965]

*Update*

I have been called to a meeting with my boss tomorrow. Another co-worker saw it and reported it to him. I do have a screen shot as well.
I'll let you know how the meeting goes.

I hope all goes well, but the one thing on YOUR side, is that you did not write any of these comments, nor did YOU participate in any of these FB discussions, which I hope your boss can see and will realize.  It sounds like one person in your office started something, others got involved, your name was mentioned as you were part of the "issue" that began the FB discussion, but you honestly didn't do anything wrong. 

It was the CW you had the "disagreement" with who was unhappy, and posted it about it where others in your office could see.  SHE is the one honestly, who should be punished, as well as the others who jumped in and made inappropriate comments.

[LadyClaire]

I really hope the meeting goes well. Your co-worker was way out of line to post about what happened, and to use your name, and then to allow other comments that questioned your relationship with your boss to remain on her page. Especially since her profile is public and anyone could find those comments by searching your name.

[hobish]

*Update*

I have been called to a meeting with my boss tomorrow. Another co-worker saw it and reported it to him. I do have a screen shot as well.
I'll let you know how the meeting goes.

I hope all goes well, but the one thing on YOUR side, is that you did not write any of these comments, nor did YOU participate in any of these FB discussions, which I hope your boss can see and will realize.  It sounds like one person in your office started something, others got involved, your name was mentioned as you were part of the "issue" that began the FB discussion, but you honestly didn't do anything wrong. 

It was the CW you had the "disagreement" with who was unhappy, and posted it about it where others in your office could see.  SHE is the one honestly, who should be punished, as well as the others who jumped in and made inappropriate comments.

...and on top of all that, it was reported to HR/boss/company by a third person, so you don't look like you are just whining about co-worker being mean to you. Not that it would be right if that is how the company viewed it, but realistically it happens.

[siamesecat2965]

*Update*

I have been called to a meeting with my boss tomorrow. Another co-worker saw it and reported it to him. I do have a screen shot as well.
I'll let you know how the meeting goes.

I hope all goes well, but the one thing on YOUR side, is that you did not write any of these comments, nor did YOU participate in any of these FB discussions, which I hope your boss can see and will realize.  It sounds like one person in your office started something, others got involved, your name was mentioned as you were part of the "issue" that began the FB discussion, but you honestly didn't do anything wrong. 

It was the CW you had the "disagreement" with who was unhappy, and posted it about it where others in your office could see.  SHE is the one honestly, who should be punished, as well as the others who jumped in and made inappropriate comments.

...and on top of all that, it was reported to HR/boss/company by a third person, so you don't look like you are just whining about co-worker being mean to you. Not that it would be right if that is how the company viewed it, but realistically it happens.

Very true.  I'm hoping that the powers that be are sensible enough to realize you were only mentioned in this whole debacle, and didn't actively particiapte.   You were sort of dragged into it unwillingly by your CW making the first post.

[TootsNYC]

*Update*

I have been called to a meeting with my boss tomorrow. Another co-worker saw it and reported it to him. I do have a screen shot as well.
I'll let you know how the meeting goes.

I hope all goes well, but the one thing on YOUR side, is that you did not write any of these comments, nor did YOU participate in any of these FB discussions, which I hope your boss can see and will realize.  It sounds like one person in your office started something, others got involved, your name was mentioned as you were part of the "issue" that began the FB discussion, but you honestly didn't do anything wrong. 

It was the CW you had the "disagreement" with who was unhappy, and posted it about it where others in your office could see.  SHE is the one honestly, who should be punished, as well as the others who jumped in and made inappropriate comments.

I agree with this!

And I would suggest that you say to your boss, "I am being libeled by this other guy who posted this on her wall, and I want you to address this, since you are being libeled as well."

And honestly, now that you have the screen shot, I'd report the libel to Facebook. Get it off there as quickly as you can; you don't need nasty, untrue things about you lingering on someone's Facebook wall!

[Shopgirl]

Good luck tomorrow. I can't see how you can be blamed on any of this. I have a strict no coworkers policy on my facebook for similar reasons. I sometimes complain about work but never mention coworkers/the company by name.

[MariaE]

Good luck! Let us know how it goes?

[Azrail]

Good luck! Your co worker sounds like a real peach. I really hope she is properly dealt with.

[Stoneway]

Good luck MayHug.

Any update yet?

[familyfun]

Will he be signing a complaint too or at least indicating that the firing or resignation is the result of his problem with it too?  Or will you just be left on your own as the person complaining.  You have every right to complain by the way.  She was totally in the wrong.

But just one possible scenario.  She may try to play the "I was on vacation, I didn't see the comment" game.  If she does, she may try to paint you as the bad guy.  Which would be completely unfair and wrong.  But since the boss has been libeled just as much as you, perhaps he should take the heat for this one?

But I know this could be delicate.  Wonder what others think about this. 

[Auntie Mame]

Oh congratulations and good luck.  So happy boss is taking this seriously.

Familyfun: I don't think the "I was on vacation card and didn't see the comment" would work because the coworker named the OP by name while complaining about her job in her post, which probably violates an employee code of conduct rule.

[Hushabye]

Will he be signing a complaint too or at least indicating that the firing or resignation is the result of his problem with it too?  Or will you just be left on your own as the person complaining.  You have every right to complain by the way.  She was totally in the wrong.

But just one possible scenario.  She may try to play the "I was on vacation, I didn't see the comment" game.  If she does, she may try to paint you as the bad guy.  Which would be completely unfair and wrong.  But since the boss has been libeled just as much as you, perhaps he should take the heat for this one?

But I know this could be delicate.  Wonder what others think about this. 

I don't think she'd have a leg to stand on with that because she responded to several of the comments.  I think the OP just mentioned that she was on vacation to show why she wouldn't know the results of all this until the end of the week.

OP, I'm very glad your boss took this seriously -- it could have/have had some severe negative impact on your reputation.

[Reika]

Judging from the tone of some of the comments, it could also affect the boss's reputation, so I don't blame him for handling it the way he is.

[familyfun]

Judging from the tone of some of the comments, it could also affect the boss's reputation, so I don't blame him for handling it the way he is.

Yes, but I do wonder if he's going to put himself out there or just leave the OP out there alone. If May Hug has a chance to speak with an employment lawyer, I'd suggest doing so just to cover herself.  It's not right or fair that she should have to, but the reality is the CW and her buddies may be twisting reality on this as they've shown they're capable of doing.  Which IMO, is all the more reason for the boss to leave MayHug out of it as much as he can possibly do.

Apparently, it was one of the co-workers friends, mutual former co-worker who made the inneundo that the OP & the boss were an item.  While MayHug's post says there was back and forth, it doesn't specify the co-worker made the back & forth.  If it was the co-worker, then yes, she can't use the "I was on vacation".  But if it was people other than the co-worker, she could use the "I was on vacation & didn't have internet access" line.  Or "I was so busy getting ready I didn't have time to read every comment."

I agree the CW's post was unprofessional and a cause for firing.  If she participated in the inneundo that the boss was conducting an affair, even more so!  Which makes the question of why the boss is requiring MayHug to file a complaint to persuade the CW to resign all the more relevant.  The man has the authority to fire this woman, not pressure her to resign.  And her behavior certainly merits a firing.  Even when it comes to unemployment, he may still be in the clear if it was for something obvious like lack of judgment and insubordination.

I don't want to turn this into  a legal thing, but I wonder why her boss is requring her to make a complaint when he could easily take car eo fth situation.  HOw wil that play with the rest of MayHug's coworkers?  Hopefully, they'll be sensible, but if CW didn't directly make the affair comments, this could really blow up

[vTenebrae]

It seriously boggles my mind that adults behave so childishly on the internet.  It almost seems as though, the moment they get online, they become 13 years old.