Negative status updates about you

[Wavicle]

Strange stupid issue came up in my apartment and one of my roomates is mad at me.

She posted about it on Facebook twisting the situation completely.

I don't plan on commenting because it would make it worse in this situation. Is it rude to say something like "I never said that" in general situations like this?

What if other people end up commenting on it and it gets out of hand?

[Drunken Housewife]

It is really passive aggressive of her to do that.  I would stay away from it... far away... 

If someone responds to it in a way that bothers you, I would send that person a private message saying, "There's another side to the story, and I hope you won't just judge me offhand" or something like that.  I wouldn't respond on the roommate's page, though.

[immadz]

If you are old enough to be living on your own, you are way too old to post drama causing comments. Show her you are above her by not engaging.

[familyfun]

I wouldn't waste the energy.  I might put her on hide until the situation simmers down.  If it becomes a habit, I would take her off my friends list.  If anyone asks you about it, then feel free to give your side.

[Nurvingiel]

If you are old enough to be living on your own, you are way too old to post drama causing comments. Show her you are above her by not engaging.

This. And I'd find another roommate when possible/convenient for you. Unless this is a totally isolated incident and completely out of character for her.

Back away from the wall drama. Hazardous material. Do not touch.

[Wavicle]

I know it is probably a bad idea to respond and it would probably take something really terrible for me to bring it up (and I would go talk to her in person in that case). It just seems like a strange situation to me. Obviously she is discussing me, and in a public area where I can see. She could have blocked me from it, but she didn't. I was wondering to myself if it would be rude for me to respond outside of the drama issues, and I thought I would ask here.

This is in a dorm apartment, so switching roommates is tough. I actually consider her a good roomate when she isn't being like this, and while it is frustrating who she could be replaced with could be worse. This should be cleared up by tomorrow.  Once she is no longer sick and I can explain she heard me wrong and misinterpreted my frustration, it should be fine.

[Nurvingiel]

I don't think it would be rude to respond. However, it would cause drama in a public place where everything is permanent. I strongly advise not responding on Facebook.

Talking to her about it in person is fine though.

[Mahdoumi]

I don't think it would be rude to respond. However, it would cause drama in a public place where everything is permanent. I strongly advise not responding on Facebook.

Talking to her about it in person is fine though.

I agree. A calm face-to-face discussion is more mature than her angry post on Facebook.  She may delete the status before morning, anyway, after she's had time to cool down.

[NOVA Lady]

Definitely do not respond to her on her wall.

I do think if *want* to respond at all, to talk to her directly and in person.

She did bring the issue up by posting it somewhere public she knows you  would see, so I see you bringing it up to her in person as "continuing the conversation" without taking it to the wall and fueling the drama.

[blarg314]

I'd go with pretending you haven't seen it at all.

When people do stuff like this, it's usually either an attempt get in first and make the other person look bad in front of mutual acquaintances, or a passive aggressive way of letting the other person know just how mad they are and why without being willing to actually speak to you in person.

In the first case, by ignoring it you are generally going to look better by staying out - I know I don't think well of people who spontaneously bring personal fights to something like Facebook. And if you respond, it puts you on the defensive.

In the second case, if you ignore it completely you defeat their original purpose.

[gollymolly2]

I would either ignore it or "like" it. I don't know if the latter is petty though.

[whylime13]

I would either ignore it or "like" it. I don't know if the latter is petty though.

petty, but oh so irresistible.  If it were me there's a pretty good chance that I'd 'like' it, but ignoring the whole mess is a much much better way to avoid drama.

[Mahdoumi]

I would either ignore it or "like" it. I don't know if the latter is petty though.

That's BRILLIANT!!!!