When PD snowflakes collide:
Mr 16 Years (from this post: http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=74341.msg2948446#msg2948446) has run face first into Little Miss Needy (from this post: http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=74341.msg3006519#msg3006519).
Yesterday I got to sit in one of the most uncomfortable team meetings ever. The last 15 minutes were tied up in a very tense conversation between Miss Needy (legitimately) asking why it was taking Mr 16Y so long to get his act together and get this darn project moving. Mr 16Y spent it accussing Miss Needy of not understanding how Mr 16Y works, what the necessary tasks are, and very nearly flat out stating that Miss Needy doesn't know how to do her job. It was all icy politeness and gritted teeth, but I suspect Miss Needy will be on Mr 16Y's silent treatment naughty list, which is going to make this project all kinds of awesome.
The rest of the team spent the last 15 minutes of the meeting staring at their notepads or laptop screens and studiously ignoring the venomously polite argument going on.
Then my coworker with the female-dog-dar mentioned that Mr 16Y had grabbed Boss later that day to complain loud and long about having his proffessionalism insulted.
Little Miss Needy is proving to be living up to her nickname.
Every conversation or meeting I have with her somehow involves her telling us about what's gone wrong in her life that day. In the last two weeks we've had:
"I was in a car accident yesterday and my back is so sore!"
"I've got such a headache from my eyes today!"
"My daughter is so sick, I have to take her to the doctor again!"
"My daughter has gone AWOL after she wrote her exam this morning!"
The other women in the office (all middle aged matronly types) are all about making sympathetic noises. I'm just so fed up with her constant whining I either keep my mouth shut (if there are other people there to make the sympathetic noises she wants) or change the subject to something work related (if it's just me on the receiving end). It can get a little odd when we're having two different conversations at once.
Her: My daughter went AWOL after writing her exam.
Me: Sooo should I go ahead and do that change or wait for client approval?
Her: She drives me so mad sometimes!
Me: I guess waiting for client approval is a better idea at this point in time.
Her: Oh, yes, I'll phone them this afternoon and ask.
Since she doesn't get much reaction or sympathy from me, she spends very little time around me.
On the plus side, she took yesterday off sick and sent an email saying she'd be off sick for the next three days as well. Phew, less attention seeking in the meetings for a few days.