But, the homeless shelter people started to get pissy. Saying things like "We budgeted you to give us Y number of donuts, and you only donated X number. You need to make us some more NOW" This happened more than once and got heated, so they just stopped donating the donuts at all.
And it's this level of entitlement that causes people to not donate anything at _all_ and go sour on all charities!
I really really try. But, excluding drop-offs at goodwill, etc, over half my donations to charity have left a bad taste in my mouth. Nothing like the homeless shelter/donuts though. I think something happens to people's mind that get enmeshed in that world. Look at the threads we've had from people that volunteered and then been abused and overworked and totally un-appreciated. I keep trying different groups, methods.
My family used to really enjoy doing the Angel Tree program every Christmas, picking two kids every year to shop for. My children (now 6 and 10) would spend days planning just what they wanted to give the kids on the tree and shopping for extra little stocking stuffer type items. Then we would load the presents into the car and drive them to the local donation center, where you walked in and got to see the volunteers wrapping the presents for the families. The room was filled with toys and people in santa hats and you could NOT convince my son that it wasn't the North Pole. Afterwards, "Santa" sent our family a thank you note for helping him fulfill his Christmas list. My kids looked forward to it every year.
Then three years ago, local management for the charity changed as did the policies for handling the donations. Instead of dropping them off at 'The North Pole' we have to drive to the charity's regional thrift store about 45 minutes away. No toy room. No elves. And instead of being thanked for our donation by smiling staff members, we get a sullen store employee who jerks her chin toward a pile of bags in the corner and says, "Over there."
I know you shouldn't do things to be thanked, but the total lack of gratitude on the part of the organization's staff, not to mention last year, when my kids were told "Don't TOUCH ANYTHING" by the store employee before we even managed to get through the door* have led to my kids losing all enthusiasm for participating. We've decided to send the charity's national office a check and spend our time/resources on some other local holiday charity project.
*I usually don't get offended on behalf of my kids, but seriously, we hadn't even walked through the door all the way and my kids were too busy hauling in big bags of toys to touch anything in the store. My kids felt unwelcome and hurt. That was the final straw.