Its always stunned me when people think that commenting on reproductive choices like how many kids to have is OK.
I for one want 0 children, none at all. I get it ALL the time....I am a child hater, I will be lonely, I am a selfish monster who never thinks of others, I will never be a woman because a real woman isn't complete until she is a mother and on and on. I get so annoyed.
But apparently when you do what people say I should and go ahead and have children then they make negative comments. They mock people with just one child (wont she be lonely, she'll be spoiled, she wont know how to share) and then they mock people with a lot (and I dont think 4 is really a lot or unusual, is it?) by asking if you know where they come from, how they're made and on and on and on.
But seriously, let people have have as many or as few as they want and like you said as long as they are paying for them and raising them themselves, who really cares?
And saying "better you then me", really why even say it. I have a feeling some people just like the sounds of their own voices.