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Emmy

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10515 on: January 25, 2013, 12:44:03 PM »
Another thing. When people try to talk you into something and don't take "we can't afford it" for an answer. It's like to them "can't afford it" means "I'm too cheap to splurge".  The same couple, the CG buddy and his wife, go to Disney World so often that they purchased some sort of membership or something which means they get great deals and apparently even own a square foot of the whole park or something, I don't remember.  She said "Oh you and your DH should get it!"

I told her "Well it sounds nice but we can't afford it."  "But it's a great deal! You get this and this and this!" I gently said "Hon, do you remember my husband lost his job earlier this year and just started a new one? Now is not the time for us to be buying theme park memberships when it's going to be a challenge to afford Christmas presents." She dropped it.

I think trying to talk anybody into buying anything after they say 'no' would drive me crazy.  I don't feel I should have to explain why I choose not to buy something.  Even if I can technically afford something, it doesn't mean I am 'cheap' if I choose not to spend money on an item I don't particularly wish to purchase.

Oh I agree!  There are many things people I know spend money on, that I could care less about. And there are things I'm ok on splurging on, once in a while, that others have no use for. For example, I had a former CW try and convince me every day to get an iphone. Nope, sorry, not going to happen. Its not the cost of the phone, but the service! I barely use my phone, really have it more for emergencies, etc. and the fact I drive alone 8 hours to my mom's. So I have a nice prepaid smart phone I pay $25a month for, where the same service with a big carrier, would cost me about $100.

I also am cheap about cars. mine is 11 years old, but still chugging away. I plan on dirving it into the ground, but my limit for a new one is 20K or under. Yet I still have people saying "how about this one or that one" when it comes up in conversation. Nope, sorry, while i have no issue with others paying a lot more for something nicier and fancier than what I'm willing to get, I just can't bring myself to do it.

This happened again.  I went maternity shopping with some of my female in-laws.  I saw a dress I really liked, but the only one we could find was size XL and I am a size M.  They convinced me to try it on, and as expected it was way too big.  It was a sleeveless dress and the area under the arms had a huge gap.  I showed it to them told them it was way too big and I did not wish to purchase it and they starting arguing that it looked great and I could just keep my arms by my side.  ::)  So basically, they thought I should just buy the dress and not move or lift my arms in it.  I didn't buy that dress.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10516 on: January 25, 2013, 02:08:59 PM »
Now that I live up north my relatives are freaking out about all of the 5" of snow on the ground. They keep calling me and saying "Oh, that's unfortunate, you must be hunkered down, don't get out and try to drive."  ???

I know they've heard of snowplows and salting the roads before. I guess they just assume everything in the north has to stop when snow hits the ground?

Mine do that too. Not that I like driving in snow, but it has to be pretty bad before our plows and salt trucks canít keep the main roads clean.

ETA: I still find it amazing how much snow it takes to close down schools here. Back home in KC, it seems an inch will get you a snow day sometimes. Less in the Lake of the Ozarks area where my sisters went to school. Here, thatís just an annoyance / fun thing to play in while waiting for the bus.

Mine did the same thing during the years I lived in North Dakota.  They were horrified the first year after I posted pictures of my children getting on the school bus with a substantial amount of snow on the ground and  more coming down...quickly.  Fargo, however, has some of the best road crews on the planet.  They are really one of the best, most dedicated group of people I've ever met, and that includes most of the cops and firefighters I know.  During one blizzard (the second one in as many days) these guys were out plowing the street in front of my complex in 60mph winds, every half hour because that street had a curve on it and the road kept getting clogged with snow.  The driver and two auxiliary people stayed out there all night directing traffic and plowing the road so everybody who lived down that road could get home. About midnight, I walked out with coffee and cookies for them to thank them for their hard work. I've never seen Fargo shut down, and the only time I remember them delaying school was because of the temperature.  They had to wait for it to get warm enough for the buses to start.

I'm on the other side of that. I live in a desert. We don't get much rain, and I've never seen it snow here. I actually have a tomato plant in my front yard that has made it through this winter. Over the Christmas break, I wanted to take the kids on a day trip to the mountains to visit a deer farm. It's a petting zoo where they have tame deer that you can feed, reindeer, llamas, etc. I had been looking forward to the trip, but the night before we were supposed to go, the forecast said there was a 40% chance of snow. Since we're not used to driving in the snow, or on icy roads, and our kids don't have heavy, snowy weather coats, (they do have big, thick jackets, but not waterproof, so no good for snow) DH and I decided not to go. This came up in conversation with MIL and SIL who could not believe that we would call off our trip for a measly 40% chance of snow. They went to the zoo with 3 inches of snow on the ground, etc. The difference is that they get a lot of snow, every single year. They have appropriate snow clothing, and experience driving in snowy/icy conditions.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10517 on: January 25, 2013, 04:10:28 PM »
About a week ago I got a smartphone and installed the pinterest app, which a friend suggested would be great for pulling up recipes at the store so I could get the ingredients.

That would be great but for some reason, most stores around here only have a half decent signal at the front of the building which is convenient if the area where the ingredients are is further back. ::) I couldn't pull a recipe up and came home without what I needed. :P
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10518 on: January 25, 2013, 06:39:56 PM »
Some friends and I were planning a girls' night out.  Everyone in the group is busy with jobs, kids, ect.  So we planned a date, one person M asked to have it changed because she couldn't make the original date.  Fine, so we have a new date, things were set up a few weeks in advance.  Now the date arrived and several people can't make it including M who requested that particular date.  Now there are suggestions of completely changing the time and the day, which of course will make it less convenient or impossible for me.

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« Reply #10519 on: January 25, 2013, 07:34:01 PM »
Some friends and I were planning a girls' night out.  Everyone in the group is busy with jobs, kids, ect.  So we planned a date, one person M asked to have it changed because she couldn't make the original date.  Fine, so we have a new date, things were set up a few weeks in advance.  Now the date arrived and several people can't make it including M who requested that particular date.  Now there are suggestions of completely changing the time and the day, which of course will make it less convenient or impossible for me.
If you're working with a large group, you just can't please everyone every time. Set the date that the most people can make, and don't cater to people like M who want to change it every time.  If it was really important to M and she  knew about it for weeks, she wouldn't have chosen to do something else that day. (She gets a pass if the "something else" was the flu or unexpected workload or some other unforeseen reason.)
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10520 on: January 26, 2013, 01:21:27 PM »
Some friends and I were planning a girls' night out.  Everyone in the group is busy with jobs, kids, ect.  So we planned a date, one person M asked to have it changed because she couldn't make the original date.  Fine, so we have a new date, things were set up a few weeks in advance.  Now the date arrived and several people can't make it including M who requested that particular date.  Now there are suggestions of completely changing the time and the day, which of course will make it less convenient or impossible for me.
One lesson I've learned is that Every. Single. Time someone requests a date change, that person will never show up on the new date. So I've stopped changing dates once they're set. My attitude now is  that it's your choice to make the date or not.

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« Reply #10521 on: January 26, 2013, 03:05:48 PM »
People who constantly complain about the weather bug me to no end.

We were vacationing in Texas and it was at least warmer than here even if it was gloomy. So we put  on appropriate jackets and happy faces to have once in a life-time tour. We were fine trying to enjoy the precious moments and all the other people on the tour did was complain. It wasn't ideal, but it was better than home and look where we were! Wow! (The Alamo! The Space Center! and lots of great stuff in between!)

Also, in July it is hot and muggy and generally icky. That's the way it has been for centuries here. Expect it and just keep quiet and maybe we can get our minds on other things. In January, expect cold and maybe snow. Take precautions and live life. Or at least hush up and let me deal and enjoy my life.

Using the term "ridiculous" when talking about the weather is weird, too. No one is controlling it (except God, in my belief system), so how can it be ridiculous. Weird, unusual, extreme, unpleasant -- OK, but not ridiculous.

I guess I had better get used to this, but I think it may be too late, so up the wall I go.

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« Reply #10522 on: January 26, 2013, 03:16:19 PM »
Re the weather, the local saying is 'if you don't like the weather, wait five minutes'.  Yes - it truly is that variable! 

Tasmania is way down south of Australia.  There's nothing between us and Antarctica.  If the prevailing weather pattern changes we can go from roasting in high 30s C one day to 15C and rainy the next.  We had snow on the higher peaks in early December (summer).  The changes can happen during the course of an afternoon too. 

I never go anywhere without a jacket, gloves, beany and scarf in the car.  Even if it's sunny and hot out.

And yes, we all grumble about the weather!

Out on the patio we'd sit,
And the humidity we'd breathe,
We'd watch the lightning crack over canefields
Laugh and think, this is Australia.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10523 on: January 26, 2013, 04:05:37 PM »
Hypermilers drive me absolutely batty.  Especially if I'm coming up behind them.    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Energy-efficient_driving 

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« Reply #10524 on: January 26, 2013, 04:33:12 PM »
Shopping for swim suits!  I took my little sister swim suit shopping.  She's 11 and just starting to develop curves. She's also toothpick skinny.  The tops of girls' suits aren't lined, which makes things a bit too visible when she gets wet.  She's got a super long torso so one piece suits are a no-go.  My mother's got issues with "modesty" (if she could bring back bathing costumes from the 19th century, she would, but even some of those would be too "immodest" for her).   Most girls' tankini's are loose along the bottom edge of the top, so the get pushed up when she jumps feet first into the water.  My father is the world's biggest cheapskate.   I went to three different malls today shopping for a new swimsuit for the child.  I thought I was going to go bat-poop crazy before it was all over.  I never want to do that again!

On the positive side, we did actually find one that met all the criteria.  And the child thinks it's cute! I pretty much did the impossible with all that.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10525 on: January 26, 2013, 04:50:33 PM »
I hope you live in Autstralia, because one growth spurt could mean you'd be stuck doing it again before actual swimsuit season.
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« Reply #10526 on: January 26, 2013, 05:08:48 PM »
I hope you live in Autstralia, because one growth spurt could mean you'd be stuck doing it again before actual swimsuit season.

I live as far south as you can get and not leave the Florida Mainland.  It's about half an hour to the northern most of the Florida Keys.  It's always swimsuit season.  Actually, my sister, brother and one of my sons are all in the pool at this very moment. :)
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« Reply #10527 on: January 26, 2013, 05:14:19 PM »
I know where you are! Never mind then... I just really hate swimsuit shopping. Glad you have more time  ;D
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« Reply #10528 on: January 26, 2013, 05:18:28 PM »
Actually, now that I think about it,  growth spurt might not be a bad thing.  If she gets an inch taller and develops actual curves instead of "the slightest hit of curve", she could fit into a Jr.'s size 0 or 1, which might make things easier. Of course, then there's the problem of finding something that's more modest than a string bikini...*sigh*
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10529 on: January 26, 2013, 05:33:57 PM »
I hate swimsuit shopping too. I don't like wearing two pieces unless they are tankini's, as I have been self conscious about my midriff since I was 13 and I've had 3 kids since then so I'm no more comfortable with baring it. 

But most one pieces I see in stores are either really loud prints or they look like something my grandmother would have worn.  Heck, I've just started wearing capris made of material that dries quickly and t-shirts. 

But congrats on succeeding in finding something that met all the criteria! :)
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata