The (apparently) never ending request for my input/direction into other people's lives, over my specific requests to be left out of their decision making process, coupled with implications and/or direct statements that I am controlling.
My mother would like to vacation with her grandchildren. She first brought this up months ago. Fine, no problem, we'd be happy to join them for some type of local trip. The kids are not ready for big travel. Let us know when and where. After much pestering I conceded that the children have asked to go to the beach at some point, so that would be a good possibility, and we'd like to avoid the littlest one's birthday. The sooner we know the better, so we can block off time at work. There are then weeks, nay months, of pestering - where? When? How? Why did I not just answer these questions, you ask? Because I have three small children, a job and a husband, and they take up all the planning/management energy I have thankyouverymuch. I cannot plan other people's vacations for them. If you would like us to join you, that's fine, but then plan it and tell me the details. All of which I have said to my parents, slightly more gently then more emphatically. The result? My father sent me 3 emails with possible places and called twice in the past week asking for my input, then booked the birthday week, which is short notice for my job and dh's job. So we will go for the couple of days we can make it work, and there will be moans about how little time they get. <insert eye rolling smiley here>
Second aggravation: DD has a special event coming up, which spans two days. I sent out a detailed email with times, costs, plans, et. We will be there both days so when others come doesn't matter to us and depend entirely on their schedule/preferences. I haven't heard back from most recipients, so I sent a reminder today (buying tickets tmw). The one reply I have gotten is "when do you want us to come?"
Argh!!! I am already running 4 lives here (DH is on his own). Handle yourself!!!!