The years to come will most likely be different on their own due to (most likely) SO and I spending Christmas together (either at/with his or my parents) but this year I got blindsided. Well, no more.
Didn't get an answer until I was already in the car about when we would come back (from traveling 4h to extended family like we do every year), learned at the same time that we would also go to Other-city (3h or so one way) to see even-more-extended-family.
I don't mind going to see them, I mind not having been told anything when I sent multiple texts and email to know what was going to happen and never getting an answer from either of my parents. (They came to pick me up in Mycity, I learned the night before when they were going to come by).
I'm pretty sure that's because they don't see me as an independent adult yet, but at 25 and living with my (serious) SO that's bound to change.
So in light of this I also put my foot down on another thing, going to the restaurant tonight (25th) without a reservation. I told them I wouldn't go if they didn't set up a reservation on the 23 when I first heard about the plan. They didn't, so I'm staying home while they're out in the rain.
This is following an accident when they wanted to pick me up after my shift (at 8pm) without having made any plan whatsoever in Mycity and never contacting me with approximate plans so that I could tell SO to meet us somewhere/sometime. We spent a good hour and a half driving around and finding every good restaurant we could think of that wasn't full to the brim on a Friday night. I had not eaten well all day, had spent several hours on my feet and it was not a pleasant night. Even more when I had to call SO at 8 to tell him to get ready to go "I don't know where, but you know, get ready"
When they got up tonight with the "OK, get ready we're leaving soon to go find some diner" I reiterated, for the twentieth time, that nope, told them two days ago, I'm not going out and trying every da*n restaurant in an unfamiliar city to find them either closed or full. Thankfully my mother only said something like "you're being stubborn, have it your way" and they left (under the rain I might add).
We'll yeah, I did wanted to have it my way, and I do, I'm the one winning here. I don't care if they find the perfect place right away, I have the fire place and the internet, and a quiet night by myself in the middle of the holyday craziness.