Oh, the whole way through "Smaug", I was running VERY unflattering commentary in my head. It was all I could do to restrain myself from screaming "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and running out. I very nearly left several times, but had hubby with me, so didn't.
Magpie - next time your mother undermines you, say sternly to her "NO! In THIS house we go by the parents rules. You are not to undermine that, ever. You are not raising this child - we are." Then go on with activity, and ignore any attempt to engage - simply repeat "we have our rules - you don't get to change them."
Believe me, it will be addressed as soon as it happens again. A lot of times, it's just a little thing, where we've said no to something and she just rolls her eyes and/or tries to "soften the blow" of us saying no.
Now she is currently coming in to a conversation halfway through it without knowing fully what we're talking about. Then she proceeds to question every thing even though it has just been explained. I love her, but I cannot wait for her to go home tomorrow.
Here is an example:
Me to boyfriend: I washed your suit separately but I dried it with some other clothes so now it has fur all over it and is wrinkly. I'll wash it again later.
Her: Don't you have to dry clean that?
Me: No, it says you can wash it.
Her: But you washed it with other stuff, didn't you?
Me: No, I -
Her, interrupting: Then how did it get fur all over it?
Me: I dried it with other stuff, like I just said.
Piratelvr1121, nothing like someone laughing at you to take away your authority.