Piratelvr1121, nothing like someone laughing at you to take away your authority.
Tell me about it. When DH got out of the USMC, we moved back east to be near family and as we didn't have a place lined up to move into and he didn't have a job yet, we lived with my folks for about 2 months. He thankfully found a job quickly but those two months were extremely unpleasant and reminded me very quickly why we never got along.
It was two months full of being undermined!
Me: Come on boys, it's time for bed
Mom: Really? It's only 8:30! That's so early!!
Me: It's their bedtime, they need their sleep.
Mom: But where do they have to go tomorrow? They can sleep in!
Me: But they WON'T! You could put them to bed at midnight and they'd STILL wake at 6!
Mom: But we want to spend some more time with them!
Me: You live with them, you see them every day. It's bedtime. NOW.
Honestly I still have a hard time getting them to take me seriously.
That would drive me bonkers!
It did, and that kind of stuff (the constant undermining and lack of respect for boundaries) is a big reason they're not a part of our lives anymore.
They'd also try to play DH and I off each other. Once, about a year later, DH was going on a little trip to play golf with a buddy, something I was perfectly alright with. I don't like to play golf, am awful at it so I didn't begrudge him having a short trip with a buddy who does enjoy it and wouldn't slow him down. Course this also meant me being alone with the boys (ages 4 and 2) for a week, I think it was?
After he left my mother told me "Well Dhsname said he thought it would be a vacation for you too, just you alone with the boys for a week!" This was said with a really disapproving tone. I looked at her and laughed, saying "He did not say that, he's not stupid."
He and I talked later that day and we laughed about what she said and he too said "Why would I say that? I'm not that stupid!"