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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15495 on: April 19, 2014, 06:50:05 AM »
The expression "reached out to", especially in a media setting.  You don't "reach out to" someone for a comment, you CONTACT them.


Oooh, yes, I am so sick of "reach out."

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15496 on: April 19, 2014, 07:09:50 AM »
When someone at work changes a password, doesn't tell anyone, and is then surprised when other people (like me) ask WHY he didn't tell anyone.  "I didn't know that you use it!"  Our operations guys use that password to download a very important file very day, sport, and you cost me two hours of my precious time while I was trying to figure out why it wasn't working.

I'll hold his legs and you can swing the bat. >:D


I would like to add people who take a family member with dementia out in a T-shirt and adult diaper. Not so big a deal if they're sitting in a wheelchair, but this man was walking around. I'm well aware it can be difficult to get someone dressed when they don't want to cooperate, but at least put a robe on him or wrap something around his waist rather than let him walk around in chilly weather dressed like an infant! When I saw that this morning, all I thought about was how horrified that man would be were his mind all there.

Ohhh man...when I worked with seniors, in our training we were always, ALWAYS told that we were to treat them with dignity and respect because even if their minds weren't all there and they aren't aware of it, they still deserve to be treated with respect.  I'm sure if it were in a home someone would get fired for that. Or at the very least, written up.

Least I hope so.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15497 on: April 19, 2014, 08:32:21 AM »
When someone at work changes a password, doesn't tell anyone, and is then surprised when other people (like me) ask WHY he didn't tell anyone.  "I didn't know that you use it!"  Our operations guys use that password to download a very important file very day, sport, and you cost me two hours of my precious time while I was trying to figure out why it wasn't working.

I'll hold his legs and you can swing the bat. >:D


I would like to add people who take a family member with dementia out in a T-shirt and adult diaper. Not so big a deal if they're sitting in a wheelchair, but this man was walking around. I'm well aware it can be difficult to get someone dressed when they don't want to cooperate, but at least put a robe on him or wrap something around his waist rather than let him walk around in chilly weather dressed like an infant! When I saw that this morning, all I thought about was how horrified that man would be were his mind all there.

Ohhh man...when I worked with seniors, in our training we were always, ALWAYS told that we were to treat them with dignity and respect because even if their minds weren't all there and they aren't aware of it, they still deserve to be treated with respect.  I'm sure if it were in a home someone would get fired for that. Or at the very least, written up.

Least I hope so.

To me, that borders on abuse.  Not only is the person being humiliated (even if they're unaware), it's not safe/healthy for them, any more than it is for a child.

My mom worked for a time in a small, private Alzheimer's care home.  She had huge arguments with another of the caregivers over this very topic.  One lady would get out of bed and sleep on the tile floor at night - pretty cold and hard.  Mom would help her back into bed and stay with her til she was well asleep again so she wouldn't climb back out.  The other caregiver would let her stay, in the name of 'giving her respect and letting her make her own choices'.  No, sorry, that's not a choice that this lady is equipped to make any more.  Does she want to wear the same dress every day for a week?  No problem (if you can get it away to wash now and then).  But something that is harmful to her physically?  She can't make that choice, and you're not doing your job of protecting her if you let her.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15498 on: April 19, 2014, 08:43:57 AM »
Just thought of another one.  I've just gotten in to Game of Thrones; I've only seen season 1 and a few episodes of season 2 so far, so I carefully avoid discussion boards, articles, etc that could contain spoilers.  DH is very considerate (he's up to date on it) and doesn't discuss it with his friends when I'm around.  So yesterday I'm on a totally unrelated humor site, and there's an ad on the side that contains a MAJOR spoiler.  And the event they're referring to only happened an episode or two ago, so it's not something that happened so far back that everyone interested could be reasonably expected to have seen it.  Arrgh.

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« Reply #15499 on: April 19, 2014, 08:47:51 AM »
My son is 4, and he is beginning to demonstrate advanced math skills. It came up at church, and several people said, "wow, he is a smart little boy; he must take after his dad." Grrrr.
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« Reply #15500 on: April 19, 2014, 08:57:08 AM »
I once got scolded for doing an activity with the seniors in a day care center that involved coloring, or maybe it was a puzzle of some sort. At any rate, it was something that was bought with the idea of keeping their cognitive or motor skills going.

A manager scolded me for doing "babyish activities with them" even though I was talking to them in a normal tone of voice and carrying on a nice conversation and letting them talk about things they enjoyed, like music.

The woman led one of the seniors away talking to him as one would a baby and making him do something even more infantile and using a baby voice the whole time.  ::)
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15501 on: April 19, 2014, 09:31:05 AM »
My son is 4, and he is beginning to demonstrate advanced math skills. It came up at church, and several people said, "wow, he is a smart little boy; he must take after his dad." Grrrr.

That is a grrr, unless your DH has a math-y job and they were referring to that.  If you're the one with a math-y job, or it was "he's better at math because he's a guy", double grrr.



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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15502 on: April 19, 2014, 09:53:01 AM »
My son is 4, and he is beginning to demonstrate advanced math skills. It came up at church, and several people said, "wow, he is a smart little boy; he must take after his dad." Grrrr.

That is a grrr, unless your DH has a math-y job and they were referring to that.  If you're the one with a math-y job, or it was "he's better at math because he's a guy", double grrr.

DH's family will say things to me like, "Oh you guys will have such smart children.  *DH'sName* is such a smart guy, you just know he'll pass it along to his kids".  ::)  Apparently my intelligence (which is about equal to DH's, so far as we know, if focused on different interests) is not in the equation somehow.  Grrrr! 

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« Reply #15503 on: April 19, 2014, 02:17:24 PM »
Oh that would tick me off.  Mind you, I am often the first person to say that my oldest gets his head for math from DH because it's just not my strong subject.  But it's one thing if I say it, totally different if someone else did.

My thing driving me up the wall (there are so many today, really) We had our pictures taken for a church directory a few weeks ago and they arrived. We'd ordered a nice photo in a frame and it arrived bent and the photo damaged. GRRR The box had been bent despite there being a CLEAR sign on the box saying "DO NOT BEND! PHOTOS!"  ::)

I contacted the company who took the pictures, Lifetouch, hopefully they'll resend the picture. The other ones that were in a cardboard envelope within the bigger box seem fine, thankfully.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15504 on: April 19, 2014, 03:49:01 PM »

I would like to add people who take a family member with dementia out in a T-shirt and adult diaper. Not so big a deal if they're sitting in a wheelchair, but this man was walking around. I'm well aware it can be difficult to get someone dressed when they don't want to cooperate, but at least put a robe on him or wrap something around his waist rather than let him walk around in chilly weather dressed like an infant! When I saw that this morning, all I thought about was how horrified that man would be were his mind all there.

Wow, that is just cruel! I don't think it's right to do that to an infant either, but doing it to an adult is just awful. Even dementia patients and infants deserve their dignity.

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« Reply #15505 on: April 19, 2014, 06:37:40 PM »
FIL.  ::)   DH's dad has some form of senile dementia.  He's called DH several times tonight, saying that he can't contact DH's sister.  DH has explained, several times, that Sis has a cell phone, and will see that he has tried to call her.  That she'll get back to him when she gets a chance.  That she can't always talk to him right then. I suspect that when this happens, she's already talked to him today (maybe more than once) and he just doesn't remember it. 

Nope, not good enough.  DH is supposed to call her and MAKE her answer her phone when Dad calls!   DH finally got impatient and told his father to stop calling her.  And not to call HIM any more this evening, either.  :-\
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15506 on: April 19, 2014, 08:38:08 PM »
People that keep telling me something is "just my imagination" or something altogether different from what I am experiencing.

BG: Growing up,  I spent most of my life living very near active railroads (like within a few hundred yards). I relocated recently,  both my  home and work office hub. I am not really familiar with the area yet,  except for a few places on main stretches of road. I've gotten lost a lot lately it seems.

So, I keep hearing and feeling trains pass. Obviously in the distance,  but close enough that I can feel the vibrations through the floor at both my home and office and the sounding horn occasionally.  Everyone I've asked about it has sworn up and down that there are absolutely no train tracks anywhere near here and I must be hearing or feeling large trucks, airplanes flying low, or AC units /air handlers. No dang it,  I'm feeling a freaking train. I have been sure of it,  though I have no explanation why no one else can feel it or hear it.

So,  I took a wrong turn coming out of a parking lot and drove a few miles west of where I was trying to go.  The tip off I was traveling the wrong direction,  you ask?  I drove over TRAIN TRACKS! You know,  those imaginary train tracks that everyone swore up and down didn't exist here. I don't get it... They are roughly 2 miles from my office and 2.5 miles from my home and yet everyone told me there were none anywhere near here and there was no way I was feeling a train pass by.   Now I know everyone's definition of near might be a bit different,  but 2- 3 miles I think would qualify as near to a good deal of people.

I thought I was losing my mind.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15507 on: April 19, 2014, 08:43:42 PM »
My son is 4, and he is beginning to demonstrate advanced math skills. It came up at church, and several people said, "wow, he is a smart little boy; he must take after his dad." Grrrr.

That is a grrr, unless your DH has a math-y job and they were referring to that.  If you're the one with a math-y job, or it was "he's better at math because he's a guy", double grrr.
Double GRRR if it is the very smart MOM making the comment.

Sis and 2 cousins have made similar comments. While I love BIL and my cousins' DH's (One has been in our family as long as I can remember), it makes me want to spit nails. BIL and cousins' DH's are smart - but Sis and Cousins made it through 3 different top notch HS's in the top half of their classes with undiagosed dyslexia. Then with some accommodations after being diagnosed (being allowed to tape lectures, allowed to skip lines and use 2 blue books on essay exams) made it through 3 highly respected Universities (granted they took more than 4 years) with solid 3.0 or higher GPA's while technically still reading on a upper elementary/JH level. They are smart and have fantastic memories.

Thankfully the I'm not smart stuff stopped on a dime when Loren was diagnosed with dyslexia in Kinder*, because they didn't want to send the message dyslexia = not smart.

*Usually they won't even test till the end of 2nd grade because it is hard to tell the difference between hitting brain development milestones at different rates and the LD. But in Loren's case she had some test (COGAT) results were she was above 95th percentile in almost all the test, but was below the 20th percentile in sections that had to do with processing written symbolic language. Since she had skipped over some gross and fine motor skill milestones (didn't crawl but bear walked then went straight to walking for example), and given our family history they tested her early. She loves reading and is above level due to interventions.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15508 on: April 19, 2014, 09:14:03 PM »
People that keep telling me something is "just my imagination" or something altogether different from what I am experiencing.

I thought I was losing my mind.

I've had similar stuff happen to me. What I can't fathom is people telling me that it's in my head, then when I show it's real but try to agree that it was my perception, THEY GET STROPPY AND ANGRY!!!!

Really, some people won't take yes for an answer! I'm right! It existed! I perceived it different to you! Accept it and move on!
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15509 on: April 19, 2014, 09:38:07 PM »
People that keep telling me something is "just my imagination" or something altogether different from what I am experiencing.

I thought I was losing my mind.

I've had similar stuff happen to me. What I can't fathom is people telling me that it's in my head, then when I show it's real but try to agree that it was my perception, THEY GET STROPPY AND ANGRY!!!!

Really, some people won't take yes for an answer! I'm right! It existed! I perceived it different to you! Accept it and move on!

When I was a kid from 5 till 10 or 11, I would swear up and down, left and right that sounds/voices were coming from a "speaker" in the ceiling of my bedroom. Thing was my parents knew that nothing could come from the "Speaker" because it was just a cover. The teen that lived in my room before had gerryriged a sound system. The wiring was dangerous so Dad and Uncle took it all out and had covered the whole with one of those screens made for that.

Then my parents remodeled. The contractor suggested they add some soundproofing/insulation to my room/the new master bedroom. The air vents were carrying the sounds from the kitchen/family room into what had been my room. The air vent and speaker cover were next to each other. My parents grew up in the depression - when I complained about the voices at night they would turn off the TV, and come to my room. So no noise in the front room to travel to my room.

Years later I complained that the high whine from a transformer brick on the answering machine plug was driving me up the wall. My parents told me there was no whine.

Then I complained that in the same room the cable box would change itself. They didn't believe me. Then one night Dad yells at me to choose a channel and stop flipping through them because the noise was driving him batty. I walked up behind him from my room and pointed out No one was in the room to flip the channels. We stood at the door and watched the channels flip.

So the cable guy came - the problem electromagnetic energy given off by the malfunctioning transformer that was whining was causing a problem with the cable box.
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