My husband has another one - he'll ask me what he's doing, rather than asking if I'd like for him to do something.
Like this: "Am I giving you a ride to work?" or "Am I picking you up tonight?"
After several years of "I don't know, are you?" and a few very agitated "I don't know. Don't ask ME what YOU are doing!" he's getting better, but it still happens.
Or he'll ask what we're doing, of if we're doing something a certain way, thereby forcing me to make a decision than he can then criticize.
Example - we were going out to dinner one night, but beforehand I needed to get something at the mall. I was new to the area and didn't really know my way around, but he had lived around there all his life. So . . .
Him: "Are we getting dressed up first, then going to the mall, then to the restaurant, or are we going to the mall first, then coming back to get changed?"
Me: "Oh, it doesn't really matter. How about we go to the mall first, then come back and change?"
Him.: "Oh. Ok. I guess."
Him.: "Nothing. Nothing. It's just . . . . Nothing."
Him.: "No, it's ok, it's just that the mall is on the way to the restaurant, so if we go there and then come back, we're backtracking, and it would be easier the other way."
Me.: "Ok, that's fine, then, we'll change first and stop at the mall on the way."
Now, you see, that whole conversation could have been avoided had he just said, "Since the mall is on the way to the restaurant, why don't we just stop there on the way rather than making two trips?"