News: IMPORTANT UPDATE REGARDING SITE IN FORUM ANNOUNCEMENT FOLDER.

  • May 24, 2018, 01:28:27 AM

Login with username, password and session length

Author Topic: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?  (Read 5499848 times)

0 Members and 5 Guests are viewing this topic.

Giggity

  • Member
  • Posts: 8342
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10410 on: January 18, 2013, 10:47:57 AM »
The word "gift."

Where I'm from, this is a noun. If you give someone something, you GIVE. You don't "gift." GRRRRRR.
Words mean things.

snowflake

  • Member
  • Posts: 1482
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10411 on: January 18, 2013, 11:38:04 AM »
I also am cheap about cars. mine is 11 years old, but still chugging away. I plan on dirving it into the ground, but my limit for a new one is 20K or under. Yet I still have people saying "how about this one or that one" when it comes up in conversation. Nope, sorry, while i have no issue with others paying a lot more for something nicier and fancier than what I'm willing to get, I just can't bring myself to do it.

*Raises hand*  That's me.  I've got a 14-year-old sedan that is just starting to be high maintenance.  It has over 200K miles on it and serves me well.  I got a terrific deal on it when it was 6 years old and I was able to pay cash for it.  With gas prices being out of control the past few years I'm not exactly wanting a car payment so I'm probably going to look for another 5-7 year-old car in good condition with a good recommendation from consumer reports that I can drive for a decade.

My father is horrified by this mindset.  Yes, he has complained about not having enough money all his life and now his big thing is that I need to buy a brand new SUV just to prove that I can.  Because what if someone sees me drive home in a "new used" car and thinks that I'm not making much money? 

Besides, what else would I do with the money?  He has pointed out that some of my other purchases are somewhat frivolous and not as important as a car.  (That is a valid point.)  Well, maybe I want to afford my silly scrapbooking stuff, my vain shoes AND a car?  I can have both if I do it my way!  Besides, my silly purchases are not as expensive as the payments on a brand-new SUV so I'm leaving some of the "extra" money in the bank.

Oh, and also speaking of car things that drive you up the wall: When it's really foggy and people think it's a good idea to turn on their brights and drive around and that the extra light is beneficial to all - especially for those other drivers coming from the opposite direction.  Thanks!  Now I REALLY can't see.  Yep, I nearly drove onto the sidewalk last night a couple of times!
« Last Edit: January 18, 2013, 11:41:32 AM by snowflake »

Kendo_Bunny

  • Member
  • Posts: 2618
  • I'm inquisitive!
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10412 on: January 18, 2013, 11:40:43 AM »
Facebook debates where you're the only person on your side, and the person hosting sees nothing wrong with this. I am all for debate - I love debating, in fact. But it is very annoying to get asked specifically into a political debate when you're apparently the only person of your political persuasion that the person knows. So you get ganged up on, with everyone else patting themselves on the backs that they're all so right, when all they're doing is saying "I don't agree with the one person who is disagreeing, so all of us are obviously way smarter!"

I thought the purpose of polite political debate was to educate and inform about all sides of an issue, not to gang up on the one person who dares to disagree. In one of these, someone called me stupid and brainwashed as her only contribution, and the original poster actually gave it a thumbs up. If you want to be educated about all sides of an issue, then I am fully in support of that, and I will do everything I can to provide my viewpoint. But if you just want everyone to fawn over how right and righteous you are, and how stupid everyone else is, then don't even pretend that you're open-minded.

Seraphia

  • Member
  • Posts: 1816
  • Unabashed cat person
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10413 on: January 18, 2013, 12:06:03 PM »
Facebook debates where you're the only person on your side, and the person hosting sees nothing wrong with this. I am all for debate - I love debating, in fact. But it is very annoying to get asked specifically into a political debate when you're apparently the only person of your political persuasion that the person knows. So you get ganged up on, with everyone else patting themselves on the backs that they're all so right, when all they're doing is saying "I don't agree with the one person who is disagreeing, so all of us are obviously way smarter!"

I thought the purpose of polite political debate was to educate and inform about all sides of an issue, not to gang up on the one person who dares to disagree. In one of these, someone called me stupid and brainwashed as her only contribution, and the original poster actually gave it a thumbs up. If you want to be educated about all sides of an issue, then I am fully in support of that, and I will do everything I can to provide my viewpoint. But if you just want everyone to fawn over how right and righteous you are, and how stupid everyone else is, then don't even pretend that you're open-minded.

I hate political discussions online in general. I have had several discussions about *very* hot topics with my co-workers on our way to lunch or in the break room, and we've all managed to continue speaking to each other as rational human beings for the entirety. But online? The limit for rational discussion seems to be about 15 comments. After that, somebody will feel compelled to jump in with a wall of illogical, generalized, insulting, confused slogans. The most laughable was a very polite conversation among some teachers I know about the costs/benefits of year-round school, torpedoed with one comment from a student which boiled down to "You stoopit &*%% how dare you take away my sumer vaycayshion!"
Ancora Imparo - I am still learning

BabyMama

  • Member
  • Posts: 1953
    • Jamberry Nail Wraps
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10414 on: January 18, 2013, 01:32:32 PM »
People with no personal bubble. I stopped by a new place for lunch today--it's a wait in line, order at the counter type of place. It was pretty busy. I got in line and started reading the menu. Then I sensed someone really, really close to me. Then that person whispered something in my ear. It was loud enough where I didn't hear what they said. At first, I thought I had maybe by chance stopped for lunch at the exact place and time my husband was at, because he was honestly that close, but my husband very rarely eats out so the chances were really slim. I stepped away from him and pretended I hadn't noticed anything (who knows, maybe he was pushed, or stumbled, or something, right?)

Then he did it again. The entire time we were in line, he kept stepping up directly behind me, so close that if he had put his arms out he would have hugged me. I kept stepping away, and he would drift back in. He seemed like a nice older gentleman who simply seemed unaware of how close he was, and made some small talk with me and seemed polite, but honestly the touching really creeped me out. I don't think there is anyone out there who wants to be spooned by a stranger at a counter BBQ place on their lunch hour  :P

Morticia

  • Member
  • Posts: 1764
    • Stepmonster's Travels
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10415 on: January 18, 2013, 01:38:05 PM »
Is anyone else thinking, "Back off! Get your own sandwich!" 

Just me? Okay.

Just because he's a nice older gentleman, doesn't mean he wasn't behaving inappropriately. That doesn't necessarily go away with age.  It's fine to request he stay out of your space.

And yes, that drives me up the wall, too.
Now our mom says she's changed her mind about the devil's brood, they may be evil so she thinks, but at least they're never rude...
                                        -- Big Rude Jake

My travel blog: http://www.stepmonster.ca

diesel_darlin

  • Member
  • Posts: 1313
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10416 on: January 18, 2013, 01:44:45 PM »
On the car thing, I have a 99 Nissan Frontier. When the engine blew in June, it had 222,000 miles on it. I bought it used in 2002. People were always telling me I needed a new truck. Well now I have one. I have a 94 Chevy Silverado with 318,000  miles on it that my Daddy gave me.   :D

perpetua

  • Member
  • Posts: 1922
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10417 on: January 18, 2013, 01:55:54 PM »
People who complain about the direction a thread is taking because other people are posting things they're not interested in reading, but without contributing anything of value themselves. Like "Please can we get back to talking about purple people eaters?" Surely the most polite and efficient way to get a thread back on track is contribute a post about purple people eaters yourself? If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem, is how I view this.  I used to mod a large forum and this used to drive me insane.
« Last Edit: January 18, 2013, 01:57:30 PM by perpetua »

Diane AKA Traska

  • Member
  • Posts: 4704
  • Or you can just call me Diane. (NE USA EHellion)
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10418 on: January 18, 2013, 03:08:27 PM »
People who complain about the direction a thread is taking because other people are posting things they're not interested in reading, but without contributing anything of value themselves. Like "Please can we get back to talking about purple people eaters?" Surely the most polite and efficient way to get a thread back on track is contribute a post about purple people eaters yourself? If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem, is how I view this.  I used to mod a large forum and this used to drive me insane.

I hate to admit it, but "this".  Threadjacks are a normal part of a conversation, a parenthetical aside if you will.  Seeing someone request that the threadjack material (especially if it's relevant to the thread) be taken to its own thread doesn't give me more material to post about in *that* thread.  And most of these topics aren't interesting enough for their own thread, anyway.  It's more of a "oh cool, I have an interest in this thing that the conversation drifted toward too!"
Location:
Philadelphia, PA

perpetua

  • Member
  • Posts: 1922
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10419 on: January 18, 2013, 03:17:14 PM »
People who complain about the direction a thread is taking because other people are posting things they're not interested in reading, but without contributing anything of value themselves. Like "Please can we get back to talking about purple people eaters?" Surely the most polite and efficient way to get a thread back on track is contribute a post about purple people eaters yourself? If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem, is how I view this.  I used to mod a large forum and this used to drive me insane.

I hate to admit it, but "this".  Threadjacks are a normal part of a conversation, a parenthetical aside if you will.  Seeing someone request that the threadjack material (especially if it's relevant to the thread) be taken to its own thread doesn't give me more material to post about in *that* thread.  And most of these topics aren't interesting enough for their own thread, anyway.  It's more of a "oh cool, I have an interest in this thing that the conversation drifted toward too!"

I don't mind the new thread requests so much; they make sense to me. It's when someone asks people to stop talking about what they're talking about, without contributing anything themselves to get the conversation back on track.

It's like walking up to a group of people talking at a party and saying "I don't like what you're talking about. Talk about something I want to hear". Well, no.

snowflake

  • Member
  • Posts: 1482
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10420 on: January 18, 2013, 03:21:36 PM »
People who complain about the direction a thread is taking because other people are posting things they're not interested in reading, but without contributing anything of value themselves. Like "Please can we get back to talking about purple people eaters?" Surely the most polite and efficient way to get a thread back on track is contribute a post about purple people eaters yourself? If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem, is how I view this.  I used to mod a large forum and this used to drive me insane.

I hate to admit it, but "this".  Threadjacks are a normal part of a conversation, a parenthetical aside if you will.  Seeing someone request that the threadjack material (especially if it's relevant to the thread) be taken to its own thread doesn't give me more material to post about in *that* thread.  And most of these topics aren't interesting enough for their own thread, anyway.  It's more of a "oh cool, I have an interest in this thing that the conversation drifted toward too!"

It depends.  I don't mind it if say the special snowflake thread has turned into a discussion of how awesome an old TV show was.  But sometimes it is a discussion about how the old TV show was full of special snowflakes.  I'm never sure why people object to that.

Piratelvr1121

  • Member
  • Posts: 9123
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10421 on: January 18, 2013, 05:07:51 PM »
I was just on fbook and one of the items on my feed was a photo album Ellen shared of "rude" babies and little kids that people have sent her, like little babies inadvertantly giving the finger, one small child doing it on purpose and stuff like that.   She joked "Portia and I are not having kids but this made me reconsider."

Followed was a bunch of "You and Portia should have kids!!"  ::)  Though there were a few who said "Being an auntie is good, you can hand them back!" or "You two have each other, that's enough!"

I have 3 boys I love dearly but wouldn't dream of trying to talk someone into having kids.  Especially someone I only know through a tv show.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

CrochetFanatic

  • Member
  • Posts: 739
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10422 on: January 18, 2013, 07:25:20 PM »
YouTube pontificators.  Actually, pontificators in general.  I'm not talking about people who simply argue with you (because who knows, they might be right), but people who insist they're right despite mountains of evidence to the contrary, and who just cannot let it go.

I normally don't participate in these debates, but I take exception to being aggressively told that my opinion is wrong.  I pointed out that they were right about A, B, and C, but that most of what they presented as fact was really a matter of opinion.  I finally just threw up my hands and backed out of the argument, which was pretty much at a stalemate.  You can't get anywhere with someone whose responses pretty much boil down to, "No, I'm right!  I'm right, I'm right, I'm right!"

Piratelvr1121

  • Member
  • Posts: 9123
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10423 on: January 18, 2013, 07:49:40 PM »
People on youtube that I see "liking" a page and then getting their knickers in a knot over every single post the page puts up.  I'm thinking mainly of George Takei.   I have just made it a point to not read the comments anymore because my eyes start to hurt from rolling them so hard.

I guess I don't get it because if I don't care for a page, I just don't "like" it so I won't have to see the things they post that I might not agree with.  I don't see the point of working oneself into a lather and bringing unneeded drama into one's life.

I mean if one is completely offended by homosexuality, why would they "like" the page of a celebrity who is very openly gay? Yeah, yeah, I know, to troll.  ::)
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

Adelaide

  • Member
  • Posts: 676
Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10424 on: January 18, 2013, 10:55:39 PM »
People who complain about the direction a thread is taking because other people are posting things they're not interested in reading, but without contributing anything of value themselves. Like "Please can we get back to talking about purple people eaters?" Surely the most polite and efficient way to get a thread back on track is contribute a post about purple people eaters yourself? If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem, is how I view this.  I used to mod a large forum and this used to drive me insane.

I hate to admit it, but "this".  Threadjacks are a normal part of a conversation, a parenthetical aside if you will.  Seeing someone request that the threadjack material (especially if it's relevant to the thread) be taken to its own thread doesn't give me more material to post about in *that* thread.  And most of these topics aren't interesting enough for their own thread, anyway.  It's more of a "oh cool, I have an interest in this thing that the conversation drifted toward too!"

It depends.  I don't mind it if say the special snowflake thread has turned into a discussion of how awesome an old TV show was.  But sometimes it is a discussion about how the old TV show was full of special snowflakes.  I'm never sure why people object to that.

I'll admit that I'm on the other side of the fence with this one, but only for certain things. Usually when I'm posting just to post/tell people about something then I don't mind if the thread gets derailed. But when I'm asking for advice it's a whole other story. For example, I post in a forum requesting dating advice/input about what my BF said, because he and I had a big argument in the kitchen about the blender. If I log on to see thirty replies on what type of blender to use, which one's better, which one holds more, etc., then I'm NOT happy. And in that case I really feel like I have no choice but to request that the thread get back on topic. I don't have anything to add because I started it and nothing's changed since.