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Piratelvr1121

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10560 on: January 28, 2013, 07:43:26 AM »
As my screen name would imply, I love the Pirates of the Caribbean movies.  Except for the second one, Dead Man's Chest because of what happens to Jack at the end, being eaten by the Kraken and taken to Davy Jones's Locker.

I don't talk about it all that much but there have been a few times people have said "Oh DMC is my favorite of the movies, it's great, don't you think?" I tend to say "Well honestly it's not my favorite because of what happens to Jack, though I do love the scene with Jack running away from the cannibals."

At this people say "Well he comes back in the third movie so it's silly to get upset about it!"  ::) It's not like I bawl over it like I do in Les Miserables or Steel Magnolias, I just don't like watching it.

The other reason is that there is a scene in which Will Turner's father is forced with the choice of either whipping his son himself or letting the bo'sun do it, and thus allowing his son to get injured even worse.  I cannot watch whipping scenes, they bother me too much.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10561 on: January 28, 2013, 08:29:50 AM »
When someone on a forum dedicated to a particle topic (cars, hiking, dogs,etc) tells someone with an honest question to "Google it" >:(

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10562 on: January 28, 2013, 08:47:03 AM »
I found a recipe for homemade Irish cream that calls for 4oz of sweetened condensed milk.  It comes in about 14 oz cans. Um, what am I to do with the rest?  ::)

triple-and-a-half the recipe and share with friends!


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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10563 on: January 28, 2013, 08:57:19 AM »
People who join a forum without understanding its focus and then complain that they are ignored.

I belong to a jewelry and gems forum (I call it market research :D). It is focused on fine jewelry and gems. I would say that the least expensive rings shared there are around $250 and some of the people looking for engagement rings have budgets of over $20,000 (eekk!). Even on the lower end, the posters are looking for great craftsmanship and good valued stones (perhaps not the finest but a good balance of quality and price). Some posters have a lot of disposable income and spend a good chunk on gems each year. Others don't have much but save, plan and research to get one good piece, perhaps. Being on a budget is not a problem at all (posters are very good at telling someone their budget is unrealistic and pointing them to more affordable alternatives).

Last month, a new member joined. Her main interest is sharing string and bead macrame rings she made. They aren't ugly or badly made, but very out of place. I know a lot of craft forums that would love her work and would rave about it. It is almost like someone went to an elegant beach wedding wearing a Hawaiian shirt and flip-flops.

To top it off, there is no PM function there, so no one wants to say something publicly.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10564 on: January 28, 2013, 12:31:04 PM »
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When someone on a forum dedicated to a particle topic (cars, hiking, dogs,etc) tells someone with an honest question to "Google it"

I work in I.T., and every so often I have a work problem that leaves me stumped, so I Google it to see if there are any websites with the answer.  9 times out of 10, I'll find a forum in whcih someone had a similar problem to mine, and the "answer" is "Are you a moron?  Why don't you know how to do that?  That's Programming 101!"  Stop being so rude and just answer the ever-lovin' question!

Many years ago, I got into it with a guy on a forum (Usenet, probably) for giving that kind of response to a newbie. Got blasted for my troubles. I think that's where my utter contempt for anyone who describes themselves as a "guru" in their signature line comes from. Dude -- gurus teach other people.
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Piratelvr1121

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10565 on: January 28, 2013, 12:36:30 PM »
Not etiquette hell approved but I'd be so tempted to say to those sorts "Why can't you tell me? Unless you don't know yourself and are hiding behind your arrogance."
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10566 on: January 28, 2013, 01:58:24 PM »
Background:  My youngest son was born 16 weeks early and has neuro-sensory issues.  He is easily overwhelmed and can shut down quite quickly. He also has a genetic bone disease, and one of the issues he's had is a large tumor in the wrist of his dominant hand that has made it extremely difficult to write.  I have made accommodations for his disabilities, to allow him to do the work required and learn what he needs to do, but he still must do the required assignments.  Most of the time that means he has to work harder, or things will take longer, or that we need to take frequent breaks, but the work must still be done.

So, I've moved back in with my parents.  The schools here are awful.  There was no question that I would be homeschooling my kids.  My parents also homeschool my youngest two siblings.  Both of those two kids also have issues.  Little bro has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and lil sis has issues from physical, sexual and emotional abuse suffered in the first 4.5 years of her life before my parents got custody of her.  Both children were foster children first, then adopted. 

My mother tells me that I have to take over all math and science education for all the kids.  Fair enough.  They're letting me live here rent free and paying some of my expenses.  It's the least I can do.  Now, I've been a teacher and worked in a very, very poor area.  A "normal" student would have been the exception.  I'm quite good at teaching math and getting through to students with issues.  Again, sometimes it takes more work, or a different approach, but the work still has to get done.  End Background.

What's driving me up a wall is every time things get "tough" my siblings revolt and my mother makes excuses for them.  "Oh, he has FAS", or "She has Reactive Attachment Disorder", and "That's just how they are".  Um, no.  They've been taught that they can throw a tantrum and not have to work.  For example: today I just wanted to see what they knew of their multiplication tables.  I printed out a worksheet and asked them to "do whatever problems they could and leave the rest blank."  My 10 year old and my sister do so happily.  Lil bro lays of the floor kicking and flailing that "he can't do this."  Now, since some of the problems were the 1's and 0's, and I know for a fact he knows how to do those, I didn't buy it.  My mother intervened before I had a chance to do so.  In the end, he got out of the assignment. I've dealt with kids like this before and have several tricks up my sleeve that would likely have helped, but I never got the chance.  Ugh.  How does making excuses for him help him?  A similar incident happened with lil sis and a writing assignment yesterday.  *sigh*
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10567 on: January 28, 2013, 02:07:30 PM »
Background:  My youngest son was born 16 weeks early and has neuro-sensory issues.  He is easily overwhelmed and can shut down quite quickly. He also has a genetic bone disease, and one of the issues he's had is a large tumor in the wrist of his dominant hand that has made it extremely difficult to write.  I have made accommodations for his disabilities, to allow him to do the work required and learn what he needs to do, but he still must do the required assignments.  Most of the time that means he has to work harder, or things will take longer, or that we need to take frequent breaks, but the work must still be done.

So, I've moved back in with my parents.  The schools here are awful.  There was no question that I would be homeschooling my kids.  My parents also homeschool my youngest two siblings.  Both of those two kids also have issues.  Little bro has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and lil sis has issues from physical, sexual and emotional abuse suffered in the first 4.5 years of her life before my parents got custody of her.  Both children were foster children first, then adopted. 

My mother tells me that I have to take over all math and science education for all the kids.  Fair enough.  They're letting me live here rent free and paying some of my expenses.  It's the least I can do.  Now, I've been a teacher and worked in a very, very poor area.  A "normal" student would have been the exception.  I'm quite good at teaching math and getting through to students with issues.  Again, sometimes it takes more work, or a different approach, but the work still has to get done.  End Background.

What's driving me up a wall is every time things get "tough" my siblings revolt and my mother makes excuses for them.  "Oh, he has FAS", or "She has Reactive Attachment Disorder", and "That's just how they are".  Um, no.  They've been taught that they can throw a tantrum and not have to work.  For example: today I just wanted to see what they knew of their multiplication tables.  I printed out a worksheet and asked them to "do whatever problems they could and leave the rest blank."  My 10 year old and my sister do so happily.  Lil bro lays of the floor kicking and flailing that "he can't do this."  Now, since some of the problems were the 1's and 0's, and I know for a fact he knows how to do those, I didn't buy it.  My mother intervened before I had a chance to do so.  In the end, he got out of the assignment. I've dealt with kids like this before and have several tricks up my sleeve that would likely have helped, but I never got the chance.  Ugh.  How does making excuses for him help him?  A similar incident happened with lil sis and a writing assignment yesterday.  *sigh*
I know you're venting and not asking for advice but if I may: I would put on my "teacher's hat" and have a parent-teacher conference (sans kids) with your mom.  I can imagine it's not easy when the parent is also your parent, but I'm sure she wants her kids to do as well as possible with their issues.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10568 on: January 28, 2013, 02:09:33 PM »
Background:  My youngest son was born 16 weeks early and has neuro-sensory issues.  He is easily overwhelmed and can shut down quite quickly. He also has a genetic bone disease, and one of the issues he's had is a large tumor in the wrist of his dominant hand that has made it extremely difficult to write.  I have made accommodations for his disabilities, to allow him to do the work required and learn what he needs to do, but he still must do the required assignments.  Most of the time that means he has to work harder, or things will take longer, or that we need to take frequent breaks, but the work must still be done.

So, I've moved back in with my parents.  The schools here are awful.  There was no question that I would be homeschooling my kids.  My parents also homeschool my youngest two siblings.  Both of those two kids also have issues.  Little bro has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and lil sis has issues from physical, sexual and emotional abuse suffered in the first 4.5 years of her life before my parents got custody of her.  Both children were foster children first, then adopted. 

My mother tells me that I have to take over all math and science education for all the kids.  Fair enough.  They're letting me live here rent free and paying some of my expenses.  It's the least I can do.  Now, I've been a teacher and worked in a very, very poor area.  A "normal" student would have been the exception.  I'm quite good at teaching math and getting through to students with issues.  Again, sometimes it takes more work, or a different approach, but the work still has to get done.  End Background.

What's driving me up a wall is every time things get "tough" my siblings revolt and my mother makes excuses for them.  "Oh, he has FAS", or "She has Reactive Attachment Disorder", and "That's just how they are".  Um, no.  They've been taught that they can throw a tantrum and not have to work.  For example: today I just wanted to see what they knew of their multiplication tables.  I printed out a worksheet and asked them to "do whatever problems they could and leave the rest blank."  My 10 year old and my sister do so happily.  Lil bro lays of the floor kicking and flailing that "he can't do this."  Now, since some of the problems were the 1's and 0's, and I know for a fact he knows how to do those, I didn't buy it.  My mother intervened before I had a chance to do so.  In the end, he got out of the assignment. I've dealt with kids like this before and have several tricks up my sleeve that would likely have helped, but I never got the chance.  Ugh.  How does making excuses for him help him?  A similar incident happened with lil sis and a writing assignment yesterday.  *sigh*
I know you're venting and not asking for advice but if I may: I would put on my "teacher's hat" and have a parent-teacher conference (sans kids) with your mom.  I can imagine it's not easy when the parent is also your parent, but I'm sure she wants her kids to do as well as possible with their issues.

You know what?  You're a lifesaver.  I didn't even think about doing something like that.  I think maybe we'll head out for coffee tonight.  Thanks!
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10569 on: January 28, 2013, 03:45:02 PM »
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When someone on a forum dedicated to a particle topic (cars, hiking, dogs,etc) tells someone with an honest question to "Google it"
I work in I.T., and every so often I have a work problem that leaves me stumped, so I Google it to see if there are any websites with the answer.  9 times out of 10, I'll find a forum in whcih someone had a similar problem to mine, and the "answer" is "Are you a moron?  Why don't you know how to do that?  That's Programming 101!"  Stop being so rude and just answer the ever-lovin' question!

Many years ago, I got into it with a guy on a forum (Usenet, probably) for giving that kind of response to a newbie. Got blasted for my troubles. I think that's where my utter contempt for anyone who describes themselves as a "guru" in their signature line comes from. Dude -- gurus teach other people.

One of the things I love about e-hell is that we answer these questions, even if it is with a link to a website, and are polite about it.
My thought is that if someone has a question, others do, too. I remember some tittering in a math class when someone asked a basic question and the professor said to please not laugh. If even one person asked, there may be others who don't get it, either, and anyway, the questioner deserved respect. (Long before PCs and the Internet - 1964, actually.) I held that attitude all during my tutoring career, too.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10570 on: January 28, 2013, 07:06:16 PM »
People who join a forum without understanding its focus and then complain that they are ignored.
Or people who join a forum and whine loudly when the forum community  doesn't always stick to topic.  One I remember was for Polish genealogy. One member, perhaps a bit tongue-in-cheek, asked if pink lawn flamingos had some cultural significance to Poles.  Her in-law's community, largely Polish, seemed to be Flamingo Central, because almost every house sported one or two.

And a brand-new member started screaming "I DIDN'T COME HERE TO TALK ABOUT FLAMINGOS!!!!!"  ::)   Same newbie had also complained when someone mentioned that she had just inherited a Polish cookbook, and someone else asked if it had a recipe for X.

Newbie was told that online community standards were determined by the community, and if they chose to discuss things that were peripheral to the main topic, it wasn't the place of a newcomer to complain.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10571 on: January 28, 2013, 07:26:09 PM »


Last month, a new member joined. Her main interest is sharing string and bead macrame rings she made. They aren't ugly or badly made, but very out of place. I know a lot of craft forums that would love her work and would rave about it. It is almost like someone went to an elegant beach wedding wearing a Hawaiian shirt and flip-flops.

To top it off, there is no PM function there, so no one wants to say something publicly.

OT- I've often wanted to start a business where that was my entire job.... Going to a forum and letting people know (nicely) that they would be better suited in another forum. Unfortunately, that would probably end badly.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10572 on: January 29, 2013, 08:42:37 AM »
We should start our own businesses, afbluebelle. I've always wanted to go around to area restaurants and correct all the typos in their menus. Can't say we'd be a very popular place to do business with, but at least you and I would feel better!  ;D

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10573 on: January 29, 2013, 08:50:06 AM »
We should start our own businesses, afbluebelle. I've always wanted to go around to area restaurants and correct all the typos in their menus. Can't say we'd be a very popular place to do business with, but at least you and I would feel better!  ;D

Would you like another business partner? 

I'm so sick of reading about 'salaudes' and the 'vagetable of the day'.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10574 on: January 29, 2013, 08:52:42 AM »
I think you need a fourth one; this problem is too widespread.