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siamesecat2965

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10860 on: February 14, 2013, 02:53:26 PM »
I'm getting to that age where anytime I say something such as "I'm tired," "I have things to do," "I'm busy," etc., I'm getting met with "But you don't have kids." As though not having children means I should have some bright party life where I never feel ill and never get tired.
It's not everyone, certainly, but enough to drive me nuts.

YES! However, the fact that Iím also single, and therefore have to do everything myself, seems to escape some people. Yes, its great I have no one to answer to or cook dinner for, etc. but, it also means I am the one who cooks for myself, cleans, grocery shops, runs errands, does laundry, etc etc etc with NO help from anyone else.

Iím tired because I work close to 60 hours a week at 2 jobs, with ONE day off. As for the busy, well, I do also have a life. While most of my free time is spent at home, as I am not all that social, sometimes I do like to go out and see friends, etc.

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« Reply #10861 on: February 14, 2013, 02:58:40 PM »
You have my sympathy for that, as it does annoy me when I hear other people imply that people with children have the hardest lives imaginable.  It makes me wonder what they think single people do for a living? I guess they imagine it's just like tv sitcoms like Friends, where you see maybe 5 minutes of them at work and anytime out of work is spent just hanging around their perfect, immaculate homes or apartments doing nothing but watching tv and chatting. Or going shopping for expensive stuff, or what have you.

I have a few childless friends, some by choice, some not, but they all work and have quite a bit on their plates without having kids to add to it.  Some days they have a great deal more stress than I do of a daily basis. 

My bff is single and childfree and works full time and thus her few days off are often spent doing things around the house that need doing since there's no one else but herself to do them, nor is there anyone but her earning the income so she has to use her personal and sick days wisely.  I'd never dream of implying my life is harder because I have kids.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10862 on: February 14, 2013, 03:17:26 PM »
Yes Shalamar - that's exactly what my body's saying!

It's been going on most of this week.  I'm fine at work but when I get home I suddenly decide I must eat all the things, even though we don't have anything in the house because I shop for what we need for the week.  I've just gone through my cookery books to decide what to bake this weekend so if I'm like this next week I'll have tasty munchies.  Which leads me onto something else which drives me up the wall - when recipes don't tell you if common allergens (like nuts and alcohol) can be left out or offer substitutions.  I've got a recipe for some butterscotch bars but the recipe calls for peanut butter, I'm guessing I can't just leave it out but I have no idea what to substitute in.

Are you allergic to all nuts or just peanuts?  My grocery store carries a cashew butter that is just delicious and would probably work as a substitute.

I'm not allergic, I just don't like nuts (just to be clear I never claim to be allergic to nuts) and alcohol in a cake ruins it for me.  It just surprises me that they don't offer alternatives because I don't run a single event with Girl Guides where we don't have at least one nut allergy so I know that nut allergies are common.

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« Reply #10863 on: February 14, 2013, 03:33:36 PM »
I once had someone ask me "What DO you do all day?  You don't have kids."  Uh...I pull money out of my unused uterus and go shopping with it!

A few years ago someone to me said, "If you want tired, you should try being a SAHM.  We can't leave our jobs."  Well, lets see.  I leave my job and then I go do exactly what you do.  I won't deny that adult interaction is a perk.  But I was a little annoyed that they pretty much told me that my life after work was "resting."

I also had someone (who has two teenaged kids in high school) tell me that I was lazy because I didn't have kids.  She didn't have a job and she freely admitted to going back to bed for a few hours after they left in the morning.  I know the kids and I'm sure she put in some good, hard work when they were younger.  I know she had a whole lot of juggling getting them to sports/music lessons, etc. in the evenings.  But I sort of wanted to brain her then.

Because of this I've made it a policy not to comment on other peoples' ease of life.

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« Reply #10864 on: February 14, 2013, 04:03:43 PM »
I once had someone ask me "What DO you do all day?  You don't have kids."  Uh...I pull money out of my unused uterus and go shopping with it!

That's it, my next pair of shoes will be bought with funds from my uterus bank :)

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« Reply #10865 on: February 14, 2013, 04:45:01 PM »
I once had someone ask me "What DO you do all day?  You don't have kids."  Uh...I pull money out of my unused uterus and go shopping with it!

That's it, my next pair of shoes will be bought with funds from my uterus bank :)

Help, EvilTraska's trying to get me to be naughty by telling me the nomenclature of the location of items kept fore safe-keeping in a bank...
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« Reply #10866 on: February 14, 2013, 05:27:59 PM »
I once had someone ask me "What DO you do all day?  You don't have kids."  Uh...I pull money out of my unused uterus and go shopping with it!

That's it, my next pair of shoes will be bought with funds from my uterus bank :)

Speaking of the uterus bank, my dear mother is going to drive me to drink even more than normal.  I have 2 sisters, both of whom have children. 

Since I am childfree, there should be no reason why, according to her, that DH and I canít help out with cheerleading/braces*/expenses/life for my nieces.  Since, according to Momís constant rants, Iím selfish for not having kids   ::)  what makes her think that Iím suddenly unselfish????  There is a reason why I didnít have kids.  Please respect it.

*okay, Iím willing to help out on the braces.  The poor kid really needs them and her father is an unemployed bum (thank god sis divorced him).  But donít expect it for everything!
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« Reply #10867 on: February 14, 2013, 06:07:39 PM »
That sounds like a brain hurt, too. Course I'm sure she'd call you selfish if you said you wouldn't spring for something the girls didn't need. 

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

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« Reply #10868 on: February 14, 2013, 10:30:59 PM »
I once had someone ask me "What DO you do all day?  You don't have kids."  Uh...I pull money out of my unused uterus and go shopping with it!

That's it, my next pair of shoes will be bought with funds from my uterus bank :)

Speaking of the uterus bank, my dear mother is going to drive me to drink even more than normal.  I have 2 sisters, both of whom have children. 

Since I am childfree, there should be no reason why, according to her, that DH and I canít help out with cheerleading/braces*/expenses/life for my nieces.  Since, according to Momís constant rants, Iím selfish for not having kids   ::)  what makes her think that Iím suddenly unselfish????  There is a reason why I didnít have kids.  Please respect it.

*okay, Iím willing to help out on the braces.  The poor kid really needs them and her father is an unemployed bum (thank god sis divorced him).  But donít expect it for everything!

I get that. My family, I have two siblings, with a combined total of 8 children. So three other households (including my parents) with lots more people, and twice the wage earners, but who brings the most food to family parties? Or the most expensive food? Me, household of one.

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« Reply #10869 on: February 15, 2013, 10:35:18 AM »
Last night I caught the first part of the news where they spent 15 minutes covering the arrival of the crippled cruise ship into Mobile. 15 minutes of which about 1 minute was informative and the other 14 was repeated interviews of passengers saying "There was sewage! I had to wait for a burger and sleep outside!" or of locals saying "My daughter was on the ship! There was sewage! She had to wait for burgers and sleep outside!"

I'm not saying that that wasn't a miserable experience for the 4000 people on board, but there are so many other important things going on in the world that 15 minutes of repeated complaints just sounded superficial.

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« Reply #10870 on: February 15, 2013, 10:40:16 AM »
I don't use this phrase, well, ever... but your luxury cruise liner losing power and forcing you to endure having to wait for your food to be served to you... that's the definition of first world problems.  Those conditions?  That's what a good chunk of the world calls everyday life.
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« Reply #10871 on: February 15, 2013, 10:54:42 AM »
I don't use this phrase, well, ever... but your luxury cruise liner losing power and forcing you to endure having to wait for your food to be served to you... that's the definition of first world problems.  Those conditions?  That's what a good chunk of the world calls everyday life.

I admit, I'd be furious as all get out if I paid for an all inclusive vacation and instead had to contend with sewage and long lines for subpar food. But it definitely wasn't worth a quarter of the news coverage: there's also things like sports, local news, state wide issues, national topics, global events that might actually have an impact on our region or are so much worse than a cruddy vacation.

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« Reply #10872 on: February 15, 2013, 10:58:17 AM »
I don't use this phrase, well, ever... but your luxury cruise liner losing power and forcing you to endure having to wait for your food to be served to you... that's the definition of first world problems.  Those conditions?  That's what a good chunk of the world calls everyday life.

I admit, I'd be furious as all get out if I paid for an all inclusive vacation and instead had to contend with sewage and long lines for subpar food. But it definitely wasn't worth a quarter of the news coverage: there's also things like sports, local news, state wide issues, national topics, global events that might actually have an impact on our region or are so much worse than a cruddy vacation.

Oh yeah, I'd be annoyed if I were *there* too, but not so much that I can find it newsworthy.
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« Reply #10873 on: February 15, 2013, 11:10:48 AM »
I hated it when friends of my parents called each other 'Mother' and 'Father', but I have since learned that was common in that generation in that area, and as bizarre as it is, at least it it respectful and not cutesy.

We have a fair few people in our area who refer to each other this way, and it's not the older generation. It's mostly people with kids under 10, and they also refer to their children as "sister" and "brother" rather than by name. Even when there's more than one child of each gender. It's more common to hear sister and brother for the kids than parents also calling each other mother and father, but both are relatively common.

It doesn't so much drive me up a wall as creep me out in a way I can't entirely put my finger on. I know the biggest thing for me is that it seems to depersonalize everyone in the family. That's not my sister Suzy, that's just "sister," a role that could be easily filled if Suzy were to disappear. I don't believe any of the parents who use these terms intend them this way - not even the ones who creep me out for other, more concrete reasons - but that's what it triggers in me every time I hear it.

My mom often called me "Sissy" growing up, and while I didn't mind per se, I could never figure out why only I got called "sissy" and none of my sisters did, because they were as much "sisters" in the family as I was, and my name doesn't have Sissy as a nickname either. I found out yeeeeaaaaars later that in the South there's A Thing of calling the oldest girl "Sister" or "Sissy" as a title. My mom is an oldest sister herself and probably picked it up from my grandmother, who really was Southern. But no one did that in the area where we actually lived, so it made my head hurt at the time.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10874 on: February 15, 2013, 11:46:54 AM »
I don't use this phrase, well, ever... but your luxury cruise liner losing power and forcing you to endure having to wait for your food to be served to you... that's the definition of first world problems.  Those conditions?  That's what a good chunk of the world calls everyday life.

I admit, I'd be furious as all get out if I paid for an all inclusive vacation and instead had to contend with sewage and long lines for subpar food. But it definitely wasn't worth a quarter of the news coverage: there's also things like sports, local news, state wide issues, national topics, global events that might actually have an impact on our region or are so much worse than a cruddy vacation.

I would be too, but, while yes, it was not at all a nice experience for the people on the ship, they are getting a full refund, $500, AND a a discount for another cruise, should they choose to take one.  Its unfortunate that the ship had issue, but at least Carnival is attempting to do something for the passengers.