People, who upon hearing you are meeting up with a friend of the opposite gender, immediately think there is a spark, when there isn't.
BG: I had a neighbor, who I saw around my complex, and chit chatted with, on and off for a couple years after I moved in. I'd see him in the laundry room, etc. and we'd exchange pleasantries, talk about football, etc. So one day I realized i never knew his name, and introduced myself. ANd he did the same. Also, my team was in the playoffs that day, and lost. Came home to find a note saying sorry about the loss, and giving me his email.
Ok great, so i emailed him, general stuff, and he asked if I'd be interested in having dinner sometime. ok, sure. so over a couple more emails, i ask how long he'd lived in the complex. he then tells me he and his WIFE had been there x years. Oh no, sorry, no dinner, I don't go there. over time, come to find out its not a happy marriage, and he is interested in some extracurricular scrabble. nope, sorry. I don't play that game.
FF a few years, he moves out, they get divorced. we still keep in touch via FB, and an occasional email. we've tried to meet up before for dinner, but never worked out, so today we had brunch. end BG
I had several people who knew about his prior advances, tell me i should a. keep an open mind that you never know what might develop, and b. not to be so sure that i'm not interested. because I'm not. I might have been, at one time, before i knew he had a DW, but now, none at all. yet i was all but chastised for thinking that way.
I think I'm old enough to know what I like and don't. And for the record, we had a nice time catching up, and a nice brunch, but that was it.