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siamesecat2965

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10980 on: February 27, 2013, 09:09:46 PM »
This is probably a thread of its own, but people taking potshots at my parenting choices.  My mother just got all PA on me because I told youngest DS that he could go to the kitchen and get himself a brownie.  Now, I also told him that if he had any trouble, let me know and I'd help him.  He's confined to a wheelchair right now and the entryway to the kitchen is on the narrow side. Anyway, she's commenting on the fact that "he's hurt" and that I should be "waiting on him."  Um, yes, he's hurt, but this is something that's part of his life with his bone disease.  He will be in and out of a wheelchair his entire life, and it isn't outside of the realm of possibility that it could become permanent.  I believe my job as a mother is to equip my children with the skills they need to be successful and independent when they grow up. For the two kids that have the bone disease, one of those skills is managing wheelchairs and other mobility aids.  As such, yes, I will most definitely allow him to go get his own dang brownie!

Discussions like these have been driving me crazy all day.

I like your approach to parenting. I had a younger brother who had muscular dystrophy, and for the last couple years of his life, was in a wheelchair. My parents pretty much had him do what he could himself, and helped with the rest. And now my mom, who is almost 80, and has been in a wheelchair for almost 20 years, is the same way. she is very independent, and won't let anyone help her with things she can do herself. Of course that doesn't apply to me :) - but I don't mind 'waiting on her hand and foot' when I visit since she's my mom.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10981 on: February 27, 2013, 11:53:52 PM »
Anyway, she's commenting on the fact that "he's hurt" and that I should be "waiting on him."  Um, yes, he's hurt, but this is something that's part of his life with his bone disease. 

Eurgh. I have atypical migraines that cause temporary mobility problems (my motion and speech go haywire, and I am physically unable to move during and after a migraine. Before starting migraine medication, the inability to move could last hours). I hate people waiting on me when I'm unable to move and acting like I'm a fragile little flower that needs extra special treatment. I may ask for some water or my migraine medication, or sometimes after a really bad one (where my muscle spasms were bad enough to affect my throat), my inhaler. But just because I have a disability doesn't mean I'm incapable of doing of anything for myself! It's insulting, and it makes the entire thing about 100 times worse to feel helpless.

From the perspective of someone with mobility problems, you're doing it right. Being catered to when it's not needed is not comforting, it's a glaring reminder of what you can't do, and it makes you feel awful.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10982 on: February 28, 2013, 08:36:20 AM »
My director's "need" for us to be first. BG: I work in an industry, for a member service organization, where we look for, use, analyze, etc. documents from a federal government agency relating to our industry.

Sometimes we will get a heads up from their staff that a particular order is being released. Which we then find, do a quick summary highlighting the main points, and disseminate. We also collaborate with other like associations, so if we find something, after its sent internally, it will be sent to them as well. end BG

well, one of the higher ups at another org. is a type A personality, very hyper, and driven. And sometimes he will send my director items he's found, before we do. That irks my director to no end, and he will make snarky comments about how we were "scooped" When in fac,t it really doens't matter who finds it first, since we all share, and the info is public knowledge.  But in his mind, we must find it before anyone else, or we are not doing our jobs.

So yesterday I found one, sent it around, and director said please send out, etc.  which my boss did. Great, right? Boss tells me today director commented we "beat" Mr. Type A by 2 minutes!!!!!!  really? Its a p*ssing contest, plain and simple, and no matter how many times we explain to director we cannot be checking every 5 minutes, as we, you know, have other work to do, he still whines about it.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10983 on: February 28, 2013, 05:22:56 PM »
Thanks Pirate, Siamesecat and Kendo.  I hate feeling like I have to defend my parenting choices when I know I'm doing what's best for my kids. It helps to know I'm not nuts. :)

I may have been a little PA tonight though. I would have done it anyway, but it seemed appropriate for youngest DS to do what he could to help make dinner tonight.  I pulled out a bag of frozen stuffed shells, a couple jars of alfredo sauce and a bag of baby spinach.  I put it all out on the table and DS put dinner together.  He needed very little help. :D  The whole time I felt like going "neenerneener", look what he can do *all by himself*.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10984 on: March 01, 2013, 09:01:54 AM »
New FB meme: "Can you name a <thing> that doesn't have a <letter> in it? I'll be you can't!" One recent one was "Can you name a city in California that doesn't have an 'E' in it?" Well, yes, I can. Dozens. It's not very hard unless you know absolutely nothing of California geography. The others are similar -- if you have a vocabulary of more than 10 words, these aren't hard.

So, what's the point of this? To annoy people? If that's true, then they're succeeding. I don't like this junk crowding out my political rants and pictures of otters/owls/puppies/kittens. Leave room for the important stuff on FB!  >:D
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10985 on: March 01, 2013, 09:13:36 AM »
New FB meme: "Can you name a <thing> that doesn't have a <letter> in it? I'll be you can't!" One recent one was "Can you name a city in California that doesn't have an 'E' in it?" Well, yes, I can. Dozens. It's not very hard unless you know absolutely nothing of California geography. The others are similar -- if you have a vocabulary of more than 10 words, these aren't hard.

So, what's the point of this? To annoy people? If that's true, then they're succeeding. I don't like this junk crowding out my political rants and pictures of otters/owls/puppies/kittens. Leave room for the important stuff on FB!  >:D

I guess they're counting on people not thinking of San Francisco? That's not a major CA city at all.   ::)
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10986 on: March 01, 2013, 09:16:33 AM »
I was curious about the same thing… they are all super easy.

My Internet Marketer SO explained that the way it is worded means when you come up with an answer, you think you are super clever, so you are more likely to comment on the post.

That means your friends will see that you commented, and the originating page will look popular (and maybe get more fans if your friends follow suit).

It’s all about marketing and exposure.

And annoyance, to you and me.

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« Reply #10987 on: March 01, 2013, 09:51:20 AM »
New FB meme: "Can you name a <thing> that doesn't have a <letter> in it? I'll be you can't!" One recent one was "Can you name a city in California that doesn't have an 'E' in it?" Well, yes, I can. Dozens. It's not very hard unless you know absolutely nothing of California geography. The others are similar -- if you have a vocabulary of more than 10 words, these aren't hard.

So, what's the point of this? To annoy people? If that's true, then they're succeeding. I don't like this junk crowding out my political rants and pictures of otters/owls/puppies/kittens. Leave room for the important stuff on FB!  >:D

I guess they're counting on people not thinking of San Francisco? That's not a major CA city at all.   ::)
Or, you know, Hollywood.

mmswm

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10988 on: March 01, 2013, 10:01:20 AM »
New FB meme: "Can you name a <thing> that doesn't have a <letter> in it? I'll be you can't!" One recent one was "Can you name a city in California that doesn't have an 'E' in it?" Well, yes, I can. Dozens. It's not very hard unless you know absolutely nothing of California geography. The others are similar -- if you have a vocabulary of more than 10 words, these aren't hard.

So, what's the point of this? To annoy people? If that's true, then they're succeeding. I don't like this junk crowding out my political rants and pictures of otters/owls/puppies/kittens. Leave room for the important stuff on FB!  >:D

I guess they're counting on people not thinking of San Francisco? That's not a major CA city at all.   ::)
Or, you know, Hollywood.

lol.  That too.  San Francisco was the first city that popped into my head, and I didn't think beyond that.  Far too much effort before my first pot of coffee.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10989 on: March 01, 2013, 10:09:25 AM »
New FB meme: "Can you name a <thing> that doesn't have a <letter> in it? I'll be you can't!" One recent one was "Can you name a city in California that doesn't have an 'E' in it?" Well, yes, I can. Dozens. It's not very hard unless you know absolutely nothing of California geography. The others are similar -- if you have a vocabulary of more than 10 words, these aren't hard.

So, what's the point of this? To annoy people? If that's true, then they're succeeding. I don't like this junk crowding out my political rants and pictures of otters/owls/puppies/kittens. Leave room for the important stuff on FB!  >:D

I guess they're counting on people not thinking of San Francisco? That's not a major CA city at all.   ::)
Or, you know, Hollywood.

lol.  That too.  San Francisco was the first city that popped into my head, and I didn't think beyond that.  Far too much effort before my first pot of coffee.

Oh, yes.  The first one I saw was about naming a movie without an "S" in it.  The very first movie that popped into my head, without even trying, was Braveheart.  I thought maybe there was something I was missing (like it was a trick question), and I'm relieved to know it wasn't just me!
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10990 on: March 01, 2013, 12:23:17 PM »
Amazon. My order hasn't arrived and it is 2 weeks past the estimated delivery date. First, finding the correct link to report this was nearly impossible, as it was buried under a FAQ and the link stated "check the estimated delivery time for your country", not "report a problem" or anything like it (I expected to find a table of countries and deliveries, not a form to complain!). Second, this problem is classified as "Where is my stuff?" which sounds abrupt and rude to my ears. Couldn't they have used "Order not delivered" or standard business wording, instead of trying to sound "cool"?

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10991 on: March 01, 2013, 12:24:38 PM »
Amazon. My order hasn't arrived and it is 2 weeks past the estimated delivery date. First, finding the correct link to report this was nearly impossible, as it was buried under a FAQ and the link stated "check the estimated delivery time for your country", not "report a problem" or anything like it (I expected to find a table of countries and deliveries, not a form to complain!). Second, this problem is classified as "Where is my stuff?" which sounds abrupt and rude to my ears. Couldn't they have used "Order not delivered" or standard business wording, instead of trying to sound "cool"?

I've always been kind of amused by "Where's my stuff?". Because it's usually what I'm thinking anyway. :D But "track my order" is a version I've seen elsewhere.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10992 on: March 01, 2013, 01:41:24 PM »
I was curious about the same thing… they are all super easy.

My Internet Marketer SO explained that the way it is worded means when you come up with an answer, you think you are super clever, so you are more likely to comment on the post.

That means your friends will see that you commented, and the originating page will look popular (and maybe get more fans if your friends follow suit).

It’s all about marketing and exposure.

And annoyance, to you and me.

I suspect you're right about that.  One of the many things that irritate me about fbook.  The other being that apps like Farmville/Farmtown, can't remember which stupid farm game it is but it always claims I played it recently when I haven't in 3 years.  ::)

I've seen that one too and one was a name that doesn't have an E in it.   I could think of several off the top of my head.  Or movies without an S. 
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10993 on: March 01, 2013, 01:52:17 PM »
One of the many things that irritate me about fbook.  The other being that apps like Farmville/Farmtown, can't remember which stupid farm game it is but it always claims I played it recently when I haven't in 3 years.  ::)

Facebook is convinced that I live in Nantes, Frances. It's got it marked on a map on my timeline and everything - and it also says that I'm asleep. It's been that way for months and I've got no clue why. I've never even been to France.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #10994 on: March 01, 2013, 02:40:27 PM »
Do you have fbook linked to your yahoo account (if you have one, or some other messenger)?  DH had his fbook and yahoo messenger accounts linked and for a while anytime he changed his status on Yahoo it would enter that as his status on fbook. 

So for a few days his status would be "Sleeping" or "At work".  My bff would reply "At home", "Awake", or "Chatting with your wife."
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata