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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11070 on: March 08, 2013, 10:04:23 PM »
Piratelvr, I can commiserate with you on that one.  I have three boys and I'm forever hearing from people about trying for a girl.  Ummm.  No.  I nearly died trying to bring DS3 into the world, he was born at 24 weeks weigh a whopping 504 grams.  The problems I had with his pregnancy were the same problems I had with the other two, just worse.  I am not doing that again.  Even if my useless ex didn't pull a disappearing act, the kids I have now need a mother.  Not that I share all that with people, but it seems like some people can't get over the fact that some of us are quite happy with our families just the way they are.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11071 on: March 08, 2013, 10:22:02 PM »
Saying something on the phone only to be met with silence.  The worst part?  The multiple times he's been told that if he doesn't respond in some way, even a grunt, I don't know that he's heard me.  The other worst part?  My mom did the same thing on the phone not five minutes before he did.  I've also told her numerous times that if she needs me to hold on for a moment, I'd be happy to, but she needs to tell me.
Start talking nonsense.  Something silly, like you took a trip to the moon last week and now you have a lifetime's supply of green cheese to go with your green eggs and ham. THAT will get a response.  And if it doesn't, you know they weren't listening.

Oh, I know he's not listening; my mother is listening to someone else.  I have told both of them a number of times that I don't appreciate it, but nothing ever changes.  I decided today to just say goodbye and hang up without the usual pause/give and take at the end of a conversation.

When that happens with mom or DH, I say "Love you, I will talk to you later" and end the call. With mom, she gets 2-3 days without me calling and DH gets the rest of the morning or afternoon. I will answer if they call me, but I usually just switch to something else I need or want to do.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11072 on: March 09, 2013, 06:04:13 AM »
Piratelvr, I can commiserate with you on that one.  I have three boys and I'm forever hearing from people about trying for a girl.  Ummm.  No.  I nearly died trying to bring DS3 into the world, he was born at 24 weeks weigh a whopping 504 grams.  The problems I had with his pregnancy were the same problems I had with the other two, just worse.  I am not doing that again.  Even if my useless ex didn't pull a disappearing act, the kids I have now need a mother.  Not that I share all that with people, but it seems like some people can't get over the fact that some of us are quite happy with our families just the way they are.

Yeah there seems to be some unwritten law that some of us don't know about that requires both genders to be represented in one's offspring.

Have all boys? You must keep trying for a girl!
Have all girls? When are you going to give your husband a son?
Have just one child and prefer it that way? Sorry, you must keep trying for the opposite gender!

My go to line is "We don't have the room for more than 5 people."
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11073 on: March 09, 2013, 06:06:49 AM »
And now for something completely different, a man with three buttocks.

No seriously, I just got an email from Payless shoes which reminded me of another irritant.  Getting a coupon for something you already bought the day before. Yesterday I bought Piratebabe new shoes at Payless.  Today? I get an email coupon for 30% off.  Grrr.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11074 on: March 09, 2013, 07:13:51 AM »
Piratelvr, I can commiserate with you on that one.  I have three boys and I'm forever hearing from people about trying for a girl.  Ummm.  No.  I nearly died trying to bring DS3 into the world, he was born at 24 weeks weigh a whopping 504 grams.  The problems I had with his pregnancy were the same problems I had with the other two, just worse.  I am not doing that again.  Even if my useless ex didn't pull a disappearing act, the kids I have now need a mother.  Not that I share all that with people, but it seems like some people can't get over the fact that some of us are quite happy with our families just the way they are.

I'll expect to get this.  I have a little girl and another one on the way.  DH and I are very thrilled.  I told somebody that baby #2 was to be a girl and got back an "aww, maybe next time you'll get a boy" type response.  Most likely there will not be a next time and if there was, we'd be happy with whatever we get.  My DH used to work with a woman who was the last of 12 girls and know of other large families 6 or 8 kids that are all the same gender so simply 'trying for a boy/girl' doesn't mean you will get one.  Besides, with that attitude, a child of the 'wrong' gender would be a failed attempt.  I hate the notion that having a family without a certain gender of child is somehow 'incomplete' (and if somebody feels that way, they should keep the feelings to themselves).

Today an older woman at the park's art museum chatted with me as we were leaving started up a conversation about my having 3 boys. It was around 4 and as I had bought a veggie lasagna and wanted to get home to throw it in the oven.

She had 4 kids, three of which were boys and she was commiserating on how much they eat in the preteen and teen years.   She shared that her fourth was a girl, said with a wink.  I said "Well this is it. No more for us."

She gave a smug look and said "Hm, We'll see."  Um, no.  We've taken measures to prevent further children after the last surprise. It's not going to be happening again.

This may be an interesting assumption, but what she said makes it seem like her boys are failed attempts at girls.  I feel really bad for them if that is the case.

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« Reply #11075 on: March 09, 2013, 07:39:33 AM »
Well she shared that her fourth child was a surprise.  I took it as "Just wait your fourth could be a girl!" And I wasn't going to waste any more breath trying to make it clear that there was not going to BE a fourth. 

A friend of mine is married to a guy who is the last of 3 and the only boy, and she said his sisters are very nice women, but she suspects his behavior is largely due to the fact that he was the baby and the only boy and as a result got spoiled rotten and his parents still think he can do no wrong.   He's moving up to his parent's house soon and she admitted she hopes they get to see even a glimmer of the way he's treated her in their marriage.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11076 on: March 09, 2013, 08:30:36 AM »
Not to mention that teenage sons don't have a corner on eating.  DD14 can outeat her 6'2" father.  We call her the Human Food Vacuum.



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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11077 on: March 09, 2013, 08:39:07 AM »
Oh yeah, had I been allowed to as a teen I could have easily put away a good amount of food.  As it is I ran cross country in high school and I remember saying to my mother (who I don't think liked hearing it but oh well) that the good thing about exercise is it gave me an excuse to eat more because I'd burn it off in practice or at a meet.

That made up for the super short shorts we had to wear....almost.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11078 on: March 09, 2013, 08:52:31 AM »
When, after spending time with someone, as you're leaving they say, "Are you around this weekend? I need to talk to you about something." But...we were just talking...now I'm wracking my brain trying to figure out what we need to "talk about" that couldn't be talked about in a public place.

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« Reply #11079 on: March 09, 2013, 12:29:34 PM »
When, after spending time with someone, as you're leaving they say, "Are you around this weekend? I need to talk to you about something." But...we were just talking...now I'm wracking my brain trying to figure out what we need to "talk about" that couldn't be talked about in a public place.

That's similar to people who ask, "Are you free any days between A and B?" meaning that they want you (meaning anyone) to devote your time to something, but not giving you a specific date.  'Working with your schedule' is usually how it's presented.  This is fine, if it's something you're willing to do.  If it isn't, the pressure is still on to say yes.  I hate that.  Before finding this site, I didn't think it was possible to say no to some of these requests and still be in the clear!  Now, if only that would guarantee that the other person would take denial gracefully...

One thing that really drives me up the wall, but that many people would find trivial?  Retcons.  Not all of them, but the childhood-crushing kind?  Ugh.  Oh well, that's what fanfic is for.  :)

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« Reply #11080 on: March 09, 2013, 12:34:04 PM »

 
That's similar to people who ask, "Are you free any days between A and B?" meaning that they want you (meaning anyone) to devote your time to something, but not giving you a specific date.  'Working with your schedule' is usually how it's presented.  This is fine, if it's something you're willing to do.  If it isn't, the pressure is still on to say yes.  I hate that.  Before finding this site, I didn't think it was possible to say no to some of these requests and still be in the clear!  Now, if only that would guarantee that the other person would take denial gracefully...

 

Or, simply ask "are you free on x day?" I hate that, since as you say, its usually to ask if you want to do something you don't want to do!  I've gotten better at saying "it depends" or "let me check and get back to you" I will also admit to playing dumb and saying things like "I know I have something going on one night next week but can't remember" and this is where the let me get back to you comes in handy.

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« Reply #11081 on: March 09, 2013, 12:42:42 PM »
I'm getting really annoyed with the phrase "flyover country".  I talked to a woman this past week who lived down in the Florida Keys, and she asked where I was.  I told her Minnesota, and she said, "oh, flyover country" in the most dismissive tone I can imagine!  When I was applying for grad school a few years back, my uncle told me about a friend of his, who upon being told that I was going to school in Minnesota, said, "Are there really any good schools between here (Massachusetts) and LA?  It is all just flyover country".  There are also tons of people who don't use that exact phrase, but the meaning is there when they express shock and surprise that there are national and international companies that aren't based on either coast but are in the Midwest or Mountain states. 

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11082 on: March 09, 2013, 12:47:15 PM »
I'm getting really annoyed with the phrase "flyover country".  I talked to a woman this past week who lived down in the Florida Keys, and she asked where I was.  I told her Minnesota, and she said, "oh, flyover country" in the most dismissive tone I can imagine!  When I was applying for grad school a few years back, my uncle told me about a friend of his, who upon being told that I was going to school in Minnesota, said, "Are there really any good schools between here (Massachusetts) and LA?  It is all just flyover country".  There are also tons of people who don't use that exact phrase, but the meaning is there when they express shock and surprise that there are national and international companies that aren't based on either coast but are in the Midwest or Mountain states.

Just ask them where they think all their food comes from. I refused to watch "Brokeback Mountain", not because of the subject matter, but because the author is one of those "If it's not New York, Boston, or Los Angeles, then it's untamed savagery" types. She makes her living off writing about how everyone not from one of those cities is either a hypocrite or a barbarian, including one gem suggesting that people in Wyoming relieve their dull evenings with serial killing and cannibalism. It's a hobby out there, apparently.

It's insulting, because everyone knows Virginia is the most important state in the Union, and the center of all culture  ;)

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« Reply #11083 on: March 09, 2013, 01:18:00 PM »
I would have been tempted to say SnarkyTraska would have said to the woman "Florida's flyover country.  Whenever a hurricane rolls through, all I see is helicopter flyovers."

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11084 on: March 09, 2013, 01:24:53 PM »
I'm getting really annoyed with the phrase "flyover country".  I talked to a woman this past week who lived down in the Florida Keys, and she asked where I was.  I told her Minnesota, and she said, "oh, flyover country" in the most dismissive tone I can imagine!  When I was applying for grad school a few years back, my uncle told me about a friend of his, who upon being told that I was going to school in Minnesota, said, "Are there really any good schools between here (Massachusetts) and LA?  It is all just flyover country".  There are also tons of people who don't use that exact phrase, but the meaning is there when they express shock and surprise that there are national and international companies that aren't based on either coast but are in the Midwest or Mountain states.

Just ask them where they think all their food comes from. I refused to watch "Brokeback Mountain", not because of the subject matter, but because the author is one of those "If it's not New York, Boston, or Los Angeles, then it's untamed savagery" types. She makes her living off writing about how everyone not from one of those cities is either a hypocrite or a barbarian, including one gem suggesting that people in Wyoming relieve their dull evenings with serial killing and cannibalism. It's a hobby out there, apparently.

It's insulting, because everyone knows Virginia is the most important state in the Union, and the center of all culture  ;)

But of course! Everything good in the United States got its start in Virgina!  ;)  ;D My dad says that all the time, because he himself is from that land, the best of all possible worlds.
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