Oh, and "hum, no, maybe it's too late, I'm not sure it's usefull that we get into a civil union this year because it won't affect our taxes" should have been a sure way to get a slap, as it is he was too far away. I was speechless but did tell him that that was -32 in romanticism.
If the only reason he wants to get into a civil union is to pay less taxes there's only one answer he'll get, a big no.
He saw no problem in what he had say. I should tell him to talk to some of his girl friends before he tells me these things, pretty sure they agree with me.
He would drive me crazy as well. But, if you want a civil union, then argue it his way: "let's do it now, so we don't miss next year's deadline as well."
I'd love to spend the rest of my life with him, but right now I feel that it would be too soon to commit like that.
And I don't know, for me a marriage seems like a bigger commitment, more set in stones than a civil union, and that's what I want.
Civil unions works for those who want it, no doubt about it, and a marriage doesn't mean it will last longer (just be more trouble if it end actually).
But at least I want a "I want to spend my life with you,..., and save some money", not just a "hey, we could save some money!" because then it sounds like "we could save some money and it's not a problem if we end things up". The civil union was created just for this purpose, nothing romantic in it!