There was a 10 / 11 year old girl, her mom and aunt sitting near me at a buffet restaurant. The girl went off to the drink station and came back with a completely full, about to tip over drink cup. She was basically having to tightrope walk, one step at a time, and hold the drink completely out to keep it from going everywhere. Why was it that full ? She had decided to fill it 1/4 with soda and the rest with chocolate syrup from the dessert buffet, resulting in a oversized, foamy, sloshy drink. I would've been mad if she'd spilled that and my very nice waitress had to clean it up. Not a peep from her mom about not doing that again, just "wow, what is in that" and "careful sliding into the booth."
See? Here it is. The judgment of other people that the parent has all the responsibility here.
Frankly, I think the kid probably learned everything she needed to learn about not filling a glass quite so full. All by herself, she learned that.
if her mother had said, "Don't fill it so full the next time," it would have completely undermined the lesson she was learning--and learning ON HER OWN without a helicopter parent.
I think that parent did great.
As for whether the waitress had had to clean it up? Well, in the first place, the waitress doesn't work for you, so I don't know why YOU are being so determined to be *angry* on her behalf.
Second, nothing DID get spilled--the girl was a careful as she could be after she'd made her miscalculation.
And third, if something *had* been spilled, it probably wouldn't have been the whole glass--just a slop here and there. You didn't get a chance to see if the kid would have been part of the clean-up detail, because nothing got spilled.
And don't tell me that grownups haven't done the same sort of thing--I won't believe it.
As for the "mostly chocolate syrup"--well, it's a buffet, right? And so they don't really care what you eat as long as you eat it there. Honestly, who did it hurt? It's "all you can eat" buffet, So she consumed an extra amount of chocolate syrup. I'm sure the restaurant still turned a profit on her meal. If you can't experiment with stuff like that at a buffet, where can you?
I could totally have been that mom--sending my 10yo off on her own to deal with her own food instead of hovering over her like a helicopter. And not chastising her every time she makes a relatively simple mistake. And not harping about chocolate syrup.