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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11775 on: May 08, 2013, 06:51:40 PM »
A couple of years ago, my cousin made the off-handed comment that one of her distant relatives was coming in and that "he's an egghead; I can't understand him but you two might get along." I didn't think much of it. Before my brother left for the military, my cousins threw him a big bash. Before I left, they gave me a thumbs up and a "Oh yeah, good luck". My brother and I are coming in on the same day, after having been gone roughly the same amount of time, and my cousin is gushing about how she's "so excited" that he's finally coming home. She then quoted a religious verse about how family is super duper important and tagged him on facebook.  I GET that you don't like me that much, and I GET that I'm a nerd and all, but geez. I'm only irritated that I'm irritated, if that makes sense. At this age I don't really think that I should be caring about what my family thinks of me.  ::) Maybe I should stick this in the Special Snowflake post, since I feel pretty SS about this.

 :-\ Hugses. I don't think that is SS.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11776 on: May 08, 2013, 06:55:00 PM »
You never know how much you brush up against an area of your skin until you get a tattoo there...

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11777 on: May 09, 2013, 06:40:15 AM »
*ETA: There's a photo on Pinterest suggesting "throw colored sprinkles instead of rice at weddings." I guess the fact that it'll attract bugs or mice afterwards doesn't matter ::)

I heard about one church who banned all throwing of rice, confetti, whatever because of the mess it made.  But they made an exception.  If you were outside, you could throw grass seed!

That's quite common, in my experience. When my sister got married were told no confetti in the church yard - they explained that it is almost impossible to clear up, and makes the path slippery. They did say that you can have the kind which is natural petals, provided that is was on the grass , not on the paths. The vicar repeated this at the start of the service. (As it happened, it poured with rain, so the very small amount of confetti-throwing which took place was inside the hall at the reception)

The vicar did explain that if you wanted to have confetti it would be OK if you went out onto the (very quiet ) street at the side of the church, as it's not  much used by people on foot (so minimal risk of slips) and is regularly swept by the councils road-sweeping machine (so the mess is temporary)

On a side note, one thing which baffles, rather than annoys me, is the people who get married at the registry office in my town and then take carefully posed pictures outside. The registry office is part of the council offices but the entrance is part of a very ugly 1970 extension, which has lots of windows filled with posters and notices for various debt/drug support services - not what yo'd think anyone would look for as a backdrop to their wedding pictures.

The main council office (which the registry office is part of) is a very nice Georgian, Doulting Stone building which makes a lovely back drop. There is also a nice lawned area with mature trees outside the registry office, so you don't have to have building in the background at all.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11778 on: May 09, 2013, 12:32:06 PM »

You know what? I take it back--I do remember my MIL doing something like this. And I told her to stop.

And once when DD, then 3, wanted to ride the little coin-op horse outside the grocery store but couldn't because it was broken, MIL told her, "Mommy will fix it."
So of course the moment I arrived to pick DD up from the visit, she said, "Mommy, come and fix the horsie." I told MIL, "Don't lie to her." And then I had to explain that Grandma was wrong, it was "the people's" horse, and they'd need to fix it.

Thanks for making my job tougher, Grandma! Instead, how about teaching the truth, so my kid can learn to handle disappointment (or injury, in the case of the "bad table") like a sensible, learning person.

I had a similar problem with my ILs and the kids.  The ILs would lie to them over the silliest stuff.  I asked them to stop.  I reminded that eventually the children would figure out what they were doing and would stop trusting them.  Nothing worked.  Until Grandma got caught with egg on her face.

A couple of years ago, my ILs were at a restaurant we often visited and had a terrible customer service experience.  They decided that they were done with the restaurant unless there was a management change.

A while later, my ILs told the girls they'd take them out for breakfast, where did they want to go?  ODD suggested the Horrible Restaurant. 

Instead of saying something like, "I'd like to but the last time we were there we had a bad time and we're going to take a break from going there for a while.  How about this other restaurant?", she said "Oh, that place burned down."   :o

I didn't hear of the above exchange until 2 days later when we were all together in the car and passed the restaurant.  My youngest asked, "Grandma, I thought you said [restaurant] burned down?"  MIL was very embarrassed and as far as I know, it hasn't happened again.

I mean, we drive past this restaurant on a regular basis.  What on earth was she thinking?   ::)

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11779 on: May 09, 2013, 12:55:12 PM »

You know what? I take it back--I do remember my MIL doing something like this. And I told her to stop.

And once when DD, then 3, wanted to ride the little coin-op horse outside the grocery store but couldn't because it was broken, MIL told her, "Mommy will fix it."
So of course the moment I arrived to pick DD up from the visit, she said, "Mommy, come and fix the horsie." I told MIL, "Don't lie to her." And then I had to explain that Grandma was wrong, it was "the people's" horse, and they'd need to fix it.

Thanks for making my job tougher, Grandma! Instead, how about teaching the truth, so my kid can learn to handle disappointment (or injury, in the case of the "bad table") like a sensible, learning person.

I had a similar problem with my ILs and the kids.  The ILs would lie to them over the silliest stuff.  I asked them to stop.  I reminded that eventually the children would figure out what they were doing and would stop trusting them.  Nothing worked.  Until Grandma got caught with egg on her face.

A couple of years ago, my ILs were at a restaurant we often visited and had a terrible customer service experience.  They decided that they were done with the restaurant unless there was a management change.

A while later, my ILs told the girls they'd take them out for breakfast, where did they want to go?  ODD suggested the Horrible Restaurant. 

Instead of saying something like, "I'd like to but the last time we were there we had a bad time and we're going to take a break from going there for a while.  How about this other restaurant?", she said "Oh, that place burned down."   :o

I didn't hear of the above exchange until 2 days later when we were all together in the car and passed the restaurant.  My youngest asked, "Grandma, I thought you said [restaurant] burned down?"  MIL was very embarrassed and as far as I know, it hasn't happened again.

I mean, we drive past this restaurant on a regular basis.  What on earth was she thinking?   ::)

Likely, she made the mistake of thinking that kids have no attention span and retention of information.  Which is just absurd... it's *adults* that have the attention span of goldfish...
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11780 on: May 09, 2013, 02:26:13 PM »
LOL, no kidding.  If anything, kids will remember *everything* you tell them (unless, of course, it's something tedious like "Please do your homework when you get home from school.")

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11781 on: May 09, 2013, 02:37:53 PM »

You know what? I take it back--I do remember my MIL doing something like this. And I told her to stop.

And once when DD, then 3, wanted to ride the little coin-op horse outside the grocery store but couldn't because it was broken, MIL told her, "Mommy will fix it."
So of course the moment I arrived to pick DD up from the visit, she said, "Mommy, come and fix the horsie." I told MIL, "Don't lie to her." And then I had to explain that Grandma was wrong, it was "the people's" horse, and they'd need to fix it.

Thanks for making my job tougher, Grandma! Instead, how about teaching the truth, so my kid can learn to handle disappointment (or injury, in the case of the "bad table") like a sensible, learning person.

I had a similar problem with my ILs and the kids.  The ILs would lie to them over the silliest stuff.  I asked them to stop.  I reminded that eventually the children would figure out what they were doing and would stop trusting them.  Nothing worked.  Until Grandma got caught with egg on her face.

A couple of years ago, my ILs were at a restaurant we often visited and had a terrible customer service experience.  They decided that they were done with the restaurant unless there was a management change.

A while later, my ILs told the girls they'd take them out for breakfast, where did they want to go?  ODD suggested the Horrible Restaurant. 

Instead of saying something like, "I'd like to but the last time we were there we had a bad time and we're going to take a break from going there for a while.  How about this other restaurant?", she said "Oh, that place burned down."   :o

I didn't hear of the above exchange until 2 days later when we were all together in the car and passed the restaurant.  My youngest asked, "Grandma, I thought you said [restaurant] burned down?"  MIL was very embarrassed and as far as I know, it hasn't happened again.

I mean, we drive past this restaurant on a regular basis.  What on earth was she thinking?   ::)

Likely, she made the mistake of thinking that kids have no attention span and retention of information.  Which is just absurd... it's *adults* that have the attention span of goldfish...

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Diane AKA Traska

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11782 on: May 09, 2013, 02:57:04 PM »
When you're in a discussion, and people insist on answering you as if you said something you didn't say (i.e., a strawman argument).

Example:  Two jobs are being compared.  One is exceptionally common (say, widget polishers) and the other is exceptionally uncommon (say, world-class whatsis jugglers).  The argument is made that the world-class whatsis jugglers (or WCWJs) are overpaid as compared to the widget polishers.  When it's pointed out that there are literally a thousand widget polishers for every WCWJ, they argue the position of "well, it's not like just anyone can be a widget polisher!  That's a trained job!"

Well, yes, that's true.  On the other hand, no one said that.  What was said is that some people are paid more because they do a job that has fewer people that can perform it.  That's simple supply and demand, yes?

Has discourse gotten so stripped down that we can't even agree to argue the actual point being made anymore?
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11783 on: May 09, 2013, 03:27:57 PM »
Limitations that make no Earthly sense.

I am on my very first tablet, and one of the reasons I wanted one was the ability to use an online game site while away from my desktop.  But this game site uses Java, and for some reason the manufacturer of this tablet, which has a quad core processor, declined to include Java in its device.


It's a great tablet, so it's not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying.
  JAVA had/has some huge security issues that may/may not have been resolved. The DHS sent out a warning not to use it, Java has done updates but security ban not lifted. Norton says it blocks it but both yahoo and norton flash a security risk warning still. I don't know why Oracle stock has not tanked and don't know what is now being done. Javascript is a different animal and not included.

Well, that's wonderful.  It also contributes to making Android a less-than-useful OS.

I don't think that the Java-on-Android issue has anything to do with the security problems. I think it has more to do with the fact that Oracle was suing Google for copyright/patent violations related to Java.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11784 on: May 09, 2013, 03:29:40 PM »
Limitations that make no Earthly sense.

I am on my very first tablet, and one of the reasons I wanted one was the ability to use an online game site while away from my desktop.  But this game site uses Java, and for some reason the manufacturer of this tablet, which has a quad core processor, declined to include Java in its device.


It's a great tablet, so it's not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying.
  JAVA had/has some huge security issues that may/may not have been resolved. The DHS sent out a warning not to use it, Java has done updates but security ban not lifted. Norton says it blocks it but both yahoo and norton flash a security risk warning still. I don't know why Oracle stock has not tanked and don't know what is now being done. Javascript is a different animal and not included.

Well, that's wonderful.  It also contributes to making Android a less-than-useful OS.

I don't think that the Java-on-Android issue has anything to do with the security problems. I think it has more to do with the fact that Oracle was suing Google for copyright/patent violations related to Java.

Whatever the case, I won't be buying an Android device again until they sort out some compatibility issues.  Android is literally my only complaint about this tablet.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11785 on: May 09, 2013, 03:47:45 PM »
On a side note, one thing which baffles, rather than annoys me, is the people who get married at the registry office in my town and then take carefully posed pictures outside. The registry office is part of the council offices but the entrance is part of a very ugly 1970 extension, which has lots of windows filled with posters and notices for various debt/drug support services - not what yo'd think anyone would look for as a backdrop to their wedding pictures.

The main council office (which the registry office is part of) is a very nice Georgian, Doulting Stone building which makes a lovely back drop. There is also a nice lawned area with mature trees outside the registry office, so you don't have to have building in the background at all.

Sounds exactly like the registry office near me, except the registry office is a 1950s prefab  :-\

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11786 on: May 09, 2013, 05:00:32 PM »
A new one...

I woke up and jumped in the pool at 6AM.  I was being kinda lazy and the swim suit I wore this morning has bottoms that look like little shorts, so I just threw a t-shirt over the top and went about my day (housecleaning and such).  At 2pm, I finally decided to get a shower and put real clothes on because I needed to go to the grocery store.  No sooner do I step out of the shower than my youngest son decides that he wants to go swimming.  Because of his bone issues, somebody has to be in the pool with him, and my father was working on his truck and had my oldest son helping him, so I was the only choice.  I really didn't want to get back into the pool, but he was so heartbroken (and the water exercise is good for him), that I put my swim suit back on.  What drives me nuts is couldn't he have decided sometime in the previous 8 hours, when I was wearing my swim suit, that he wanted to swim?  Ugh.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11787 on: May 09, 2013, 06:51:10 PM »
When you're in a discussion, and people insist on answering you as if you said something you didn't say (i.e., a strawman argument).

Example:  Two jobs are being compared.  One is exceptionally common (say, widget polishers) and the other is exceptionally uncommon (say, world-class whatsis jugglers).  The argument is made that the world-class whatsis jugglers (or WCWJs) are overpaid as compared to the widget polishers.  When it's pointed out that there are literally a thousand widget polishers for every WCWJ, they argue the position of "well, it's not like just anyone can be a widget polisher!  That's a trained job!"

Well, yes, that's true.  On the other hand, no one said that.  What was said is that some people are paid more because they do a job that has fewer people that can perform it.  That's simple supply and demand, yes?

Has discourse gotten so stripped down that we can't even agree to argue the actual point being made anymore?

I feel like this whenever someone says "100 years from now (topic at hand) won't matter, why discuss it ever" or "Who cares about (whatever topic at hand). There are people dying / starving / turning into giant blueberries in Willy Wonka's factory."

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11788 on: May 09, 2013, 06:56:22 PM »
When you're in a discussion, and people insist on answering you as if you said something you didn't say (i.e., a strawman argument).

Example:  Two jobs are being compared.  One is exceptionally common (say, widget polishers) and the other is exceptionally uncommon (say, world-class whatsis jugglers).  The argument is made that the world-class whatsis jugglers (or WCWJs) are overpaid as compared to the widget polishers.  When it's pointed out that there are literally a thousand widget polishers for every WCWJ, they argue the position of "well, it's not like just anyone can be a widget polisher!  That's a trained job!"

Well, yes, that's true.  On the other hand, no one said that.  What was said is that some people are paid more because they do a job that has fewer people that can perform it.  That's simple supply and demand, yes?

Has discourse gotten so stripped down that we can't even agree to argue the actual point being made anymore?

I think this is because many people see a discussion as a contest that needs to be "won" rather than as an opportunity to learn from each other.
They are more interested in proving themselves right than in actually listening to the others and learning from them.
And that is sad.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #11789 on: May 09, 2013, 07:01:13 PM »
When you're in a discussion, and people insist on answering you as if you said something you didn't say (i.e., a strawman argument).

Example:  Two jobs are being compared.  One is exceptionally common (say, widget polishers) and the other is exceptionally uncommon (say, world-class whatsis jugglers).  The argument is made that the world-class whatsis jugglers (or WCWJs) are overpaid as compared to the widget polishers.  When it's pointed out that there are literally a thousand widget polishers for every WCWJ, they argue the position of "well, it's not like just anyone can be a widget polisher!  That's a trained job!"

Well, yes, that's true.  On the other hand, no one said that.  What was said is that some people are paid more because they do a job that has fewer people that can perform it.  That's simple supply and demand, yes?

Has discourse gotten so stripped down that we can't even agree to argue the actual point being made anymore?

I feel like this whenever someone says "100 years from now (topic at hand) won't matter, why discuss it ever" or "Who cares about (whatever topic at hand). There are people dying / starving / turning into giant blueberries in Willy Wonka's factory."

You know now when Gish and our friend Che get into one of their hours long debates i am going to have to tell them people are turning into giant blueberries in Willy Wonka's factory and they should be more concerned with that.
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