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cwm

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12150 on: June 19, 2013, 09:33:09 AM »
Lack of empathy.

I am working hard on something right now (sorry I can't give specifics), but may lose it due to the decision being in someone else's hands - and that person is wavering and suggesting that their answer will be "no".  I accept that but I feel sad about it and it will impact my life in a big way.

So I have mentioned to a couple of friends that I may lose this thing after they asked about it, and their response has been "well, I'm sure that's not true".  It bugs me that they think they know more than I do, or that I might be lying.  Why can't they just accept my answer, or not ask me about it if they won't?  It just makes this so much harder.

((hugs)) It's no fun losing something you have no control over. I totally undestand that one, I've had a massive job shift (and susequent raise in pay) out of my control and denied three times at three different companies (for three different reasons, no less). Every time I said I was worried about it and didn't think I'd get it, people would tell me that it was fine or that I was worrying for nothing and everything would be fine.

ladyknight1

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12151 on: June 19, 2013, 05:55:24 PM »
I recently attended an event that features several student programs that I am eligible for and will benefit my education and chosen career greatly. However, I must have a faculty mentor first. I sent an email to a prospective mentor yesterday morning, no response yet. It is driving me up the wall!

People who drive poorly/distractedly are also a big pet peeve today. I saw no less than 10 people weaving in their lanes because they were on their phones.
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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stitchygreyanonymouse

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12152 on: June 20, 2013, 08:36:57 AM »
Every year for my birthday, and sometimes other holidays, I get a message from my mom: "I have a card for you, but I haven't managed to mail it yet because of [long string of excuses]. Sorry Iím such a bad mom." In the past decade, I remember a grand total of maybe two of those cards ever making it to me. At this point, I don't even care. Iíd rather just have a text that says "Happy Birthday" (which she sent this year before the litany of excuses). Other conversations also include similar statements.

I once had a friend who would also constantly say similar things, including stuff like "I don't know why you put up with me, Iím such a terrible friend." (He was't, except when he said things like this. He was actually a very good friend) Itís wearing. Weíre no longer friends, mostly because communicating with him got annoying, purely because of that.

Iím sorry, Iím not going to feed the need by saying "youíre not a bad [whatever]!".

Since I find myself still annoyed by my mom, two days after the fact, I figure Iím still perched on the wall!

A simple, "Sorry, I haven't made it to the post office, but Iím thinking about you. Your card will be a few days late." is more than sufficient.   :(

Piratelvr1121

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12153 on: June 20, 2013, 09:00:23 AM »
I'm not a big one for cards for that reason.  I'll buy them beforehand but keep forgetting to actually put a stamp on the envelpe and put them in the mail.  I hate Christmas cards and this year I swear I'm going to tell DH that if he wants so badly to send Christmas cards, he can do it. 

I laughed once when I got a card from my grandmother that said "This is a before and after card. I thought of it before but didn't send it till after."
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12154 on: June 20, 2013, 09:23:59 AM »
So I have mentioned to a couple of friends that I may lose this thing after they asked about it, and their response has been "well, I'm sure that's not true".  It bugs me that they think they know more than I do, or that I might be lying.  Why can't they just accept my answer, or not ask me about it if they won't?  It just makes this so much harder.

Argh! Yes! This bugs me so much! When you tell someone about a situation and they immediately tell you the future, despite having only just heard about what's going on and knowing less about it than you do. The worst I've had was: "I'm sorry I'm kind of in a funk right now; my friend is in hospital and I'm really worried about her." "She'll be fine, you'll see." Despite them not knowing what she was in hospital for (cancer) or having any medical training, they were able to give me a prognosis! Amazing!

It's very dismissive and patronising. Just freaking say, "I'm sorry to hear that" or something.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12155 on: June 20, 2013, 11:25:12 AM »
Me:  My health insurance premium has gone up from $525 to $625, so I'd like to find a cheaper policy.

Agent finds me one for $450.  Yay!  But now...

Agent:  With the money you're saving, you can now buy <additional coverage that adds up to $625>.
Me:  No thanks, I don't want to spend $625.
Agent:  But you've saved $175.
Me:  No thanks, I'm trying to save money, not spend more than I already am.
Agent:  What about <other additional coverage that adds up to $625>?  Since you're saving money with the new policy.
Me: No thanks.

Today she emails me that the new health insurance policy for $450 has gone through and we're all set.

Agent:  And since you're saving $175 with the new policy, you should consider buying <third different additional coverage that adds up to $625>.

How many times do I have to tell you that I wanted a new health insurance policy because I DIDN'T WANT TO PAY $625?


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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12156 on: June 20, 2013, 11:59:16 AM »
Right now, people who complain just to hear themselves complain.

I have a relative who is never satisfied with the temperature of the house.  And any suggestions to help make it more comfortable (opening or closing windows, turning fans or off, turning on the A/C) are met with negative responses.  What do you want us to do about it then?


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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12157 on: June 20, 2013, 03:41:00 PM »
2 pairs of jeans went kaput this week, the zip went on one pair, I can still do it up but I live in fear of it opening from the bottom up and the others ripped just above the knee.  This means I have to go jeans shopping which is possibly the worst type of shopping because apparently plain blue denim jeans are impossible to find now.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12158 on: June 20, 2013, 05:18:51 PM »
Co-workers who have decided they are in charge of all employees, including me. Stressed my boss out too, which is not helpful!
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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Mel the Redcap

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12159 on: June 21, 2013, 03:56:22 AM »
So I have mentioned to a couple of friends that I may lose this thing after they asked about it, and their response has been "well, I'm sure that's not true".  It bugs me that they think they know more than I do, or that I might be lying.  Why can't they just accept my answer, or not ask me about it if they won't?  It just makes this so much harder.

Argh! Yes! This bugs me so much! When you tell someone about a situation and they immediately tell you the future, despite having only just heard about what's going on and knowing less about it than you do. The worst I've had was: "I'm sorry I'm kind of in a funk right now; my friend is in hospital and I'm really worried about her." "She'll be fine, you'll see." Despite them not knowing what she was in hospital for (cancer) or having any medical training, they were able to give me a prognosis! Amazing!

It's very dismissive and patronising. Just freaking say, "I'm sorry to hear that" or something.

YES! I'd much rather hear "Oh gosh, I hope everything turns out okay!" than "Ehhhh, it'll be fine." The first is concern; the second sounds a lot like "I don't want to give your worries any time or attention, so I'm going to dismiss them. Now let's talk about ME!"  ::) Even if that's not what is intended, that's what I tend to hear.
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Hillia

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12160 on: June 21, 2013, 11:09:27 AM »
It's iceD tea, not ice tea.  And the word is spelled Y'all, not ya'll.  You all, y'all, see? 

It's tough being a spelling freak.

Lorelei_Evil

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12161 on: June 21, 2013, 11:29:31 AM »
It's iceD tea, not ice tea.  And the word is spelled Y'all, not ya'll.  You all, y'all, see? 

It's tough being a spelling freak.

Thank you!  Also WHOA, not WOAH.  Whoa.


stitchygreyanonymouse

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12162 on: June 21, 2013, 11:32:38 AM »
It's iceD tea, not ice tea.  And the word is spelled Y'all, not ya'll.  You all, y'all, see? 

It's tough being a spelling freak.

And unsweetEND tea, not unsweet tea!

RebeccainGA

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12163 on: June 21, 2013, 11:38:19 AM »
It's iceD tea, not ice tea.  And the word is spelled Y'all, not ya'll.  You all, y'all, see? 

It's tough being a spelling freak.

And unsweetEND tea, not unsweet tea!
Although, really, do we need the neologism there? Should your choices by 'iced tea' or 'sweetened iced tea'? After all, water and tea leaves are the base product, not the sugar.

stitchygreyanonymouse

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12164 on: June 21, 2013, 12:28:12 PM »
It's iceD tea, not ice tea.  And the word is spelled Y'all, not ya'll.  You all, y'all, see? 

It's tough being a spelling freak.

And unsweetEND tea, not unsweet tea!
Although, really, do we need the neologism there? Should your choices by 'iced tea' or 'sweetened iced tea'? After all, water and tea leaves are the base product, not the sugar.

Iím with you, but I don't think most southerners areÖ it seems there, sugar and water are the base product with a few tea leaves thrown in.  ;)