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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12360 on: July 07, 2013, 08:38:45 PM »
I haven't gotten that but I do get "sweetheart" from male clerks, some who I could swear are my age or younger!!!  When I'm with my kids, too!  My oldest is 12 and nearly as tall as I am.  I would think that would give a clue as to my age!

My best friend calls me cute too but I don't mind it so much from her as she's older than me by 20 some years so I think it's a perspective thing.
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« Reply #12361 on: July 07, 2013, 08:51:05 PM »
I get called "honey," "sweetheart," "darling," "love," etc. all the time. I'm quite short (five feet exactly), but not exactly 7 years old or anything. Without exception, it comes from much older men. I absolutely hate it. You can try to excuse it by, "they're trying to be friendly," but the fact that they are completely gender- and age-specific about it makes it creepy and inappropriate, no matter what their intentions are.

I'll be waiting in line and will find that they only use such terms for the younger, relatively attractive female customers. I would complain whenever it happens but it literally is an everyday occurrence and managers, corporate, etc. always write it off as friendliness, even though it clearly has less innocent overtones. I hate it and it's disgusting.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12362 on: July 07, 2013, 09:11:44 PM »
Pizza places who think it's ok to substitute parts of your order without checking with you.  I'm still debating whether or not to contact their customer service.  It was a drink rather than food and the delivery guy did come back with the right thing after I (rather forcefully) told him that was not what I ordered and if I'd known they hadn't had it I would have cancelled the order (it was a package deal) but it annoyed me that they didn't even try to contact me to tell me they didn't have what I'd ordered.  Plus, it turned out they did have what I ordered, either that or the poor delivery guy went and bought it from the shops for us.


UGG - I stopped ordering from a place because they kept switching my 2 20 oz bottles of coke for a 2 liter of coke. In a paternalistic tone the delivery guy and the person a I phone to complain told me it was cheaper. I. did. not. care. I always drink resealable soft drinks to a) keep the fizz in b) keep the soft drink from spilling on any and all electronics.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12363 on: July 08, 2013, 09:53:23 AM »
The fact that the landlord of my building at work cannot keep the a/c running consistently. they turn it off at night, during weekends and holidays, and inevitably, wen they go to turn it back on, there's an issue.

Today i got a text from my boss, that yet again, there's no a/c on our side of the bldg. I figured well, how bad can it be? it was bad. between 90-95 and like a furnace. So i grabbed some work and came home. to find they are replacing the flashing/gutters/some other stuff on my building. so there is hammering, pounding, etcf. not 2 feet from where i'm sitting, trying to work. there's also loud salsa music, and all sorts of other noises. very disruptive. i can't wait to go to my second job to night and QUIET!!!  i know they have a job to do, but hte timing really stinks.

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« Reply #12364 on: July 08, 2013, 10:09:36 AM »
Pizza places who think it's ok to substitute parts of your order without checking with you.  I'm still debating whether or not to contact their customer service.  It was a drink rather than food and the delivery guy did come back with the right thing after I (rather forcefully) told him that was not what I ordered and if I'd known they hadn't had it I would have cancelled the order (it was a package deal) but it annoyed me that they didn't even try to contact me to tell me they didn't have what I'd ordered.  Plus, it turned out they did have what I ordered, either that or the poor delivery guy went and bought it from the shops for us.


UGG - I stopped ordering from a place because they kept switching my 2 20 oz bottles of coke for a 2 liter of coke. In a paternalistic tone the delivery guy and the person a I phone to complain told me it was cheaper. I. did. not. care. I always drink resealable soft drinks to a) keep the fizz in b) keep the soft drink from spilling on any and all electronics.

This was similar, they sent Coke Zero instead of Diet Coke because "it's the same, sugar free".  No it's not the same, which is why Coke markets it as two different drinks!  If they didn't have any of the 20oz bottles I wouldn't have minded 500ml bottles in it's place, but not a completely different drink.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12365 on: July 08, 2013, 10:28:15 AM »
My left pinky being numb...it's like it's trying to wake up from being asleep but the relief of it waking up never comes!  Now it's starting to hurt some, too, all on the day I'm installing a fence.  Grrrr.  I'm irritated it's irritated!

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« Reply #12366 on: July 08, 2013, 12:01:18 PM »
when I walk out to the mailbox to mail something, get silentlhy ogled by the workers having lunch, and trip and fall coming back inside. I coudn't do it when NO ONe was around, oh no, it had to be in front of like 10 people. I am a clumsy beast. Not hurt but hopefully they will be gone by the time I have to elave for work.

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« Reply #12367 on: July 08, 2013, 12:50:23 PM »
One of my bosses always uses ect. instead of etc.

It's Latin. It's the shortened form of et ceteri (or et cetera, for one item being left off a list).

People who can't use it properly bother me to no end.

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« Reply #12368 on: July 08, 2013, 01:59:30 PM »
My brother and I are currently sharing a house.  It's pretty big, having five bedrooms and two baths, and it's been working out fairly marvelously!  I have one kid, 16,and he has shared custody of his two daughters, ages 11 and 13. 

His kids are great kids, but they do a few things that drive me up a wall.  The main thing is the length of their baths.  We all mostly use the upstairs bathroom,as the one downstairs is super small, and in a weird quirk of the home, the shower part, (no tub), is across a small separate hall from the actual bathroom.  The upstairs bathroom is large and airy, and as my bedroom is up there, too, I prefer the convenience rather then the downstairs.

It's normally fine, but my nieces are in the habit of taking two-hour-long baths.  They play with a bucket of Barbies, read, etc., and just take their good old time, one after the other.  It gets super frustrating, waiting for them to be done, so I can grab a quick shower.  I never say anything, as it's nowhere near close to a hill to die on, but still, it can be annoying.  They also don't use a mat or towel to step on and thus get water all over the floor, and they make messes in there they don't clean up.  I give it a thorough cleaning once a week, and I'm tired of having to move a stack of books back into their bedroom or stepping on Barbies!
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12369 on: July 08, 2013, 02:09:57 PM »
I would recommend that you address this with your brother now before it becomes a hill to die on.





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« Reply #12370 on: July 08, 2013, 03:15:55 PM »
My brother and I are currently sharing a house.  It's pretty big, having five bedrooms and two baths, and it's been working out fairly marvelously!  I have one kid, 16,and he has shared custody of his two daughters, ages 11 and 13. 

His kids are great kids, but they do a few things that drive me up a wall.  The main thing is the length of their baths.  We all mostly use the upstairs bathroom,as the one downstairs is super small, and in a weird quirk of the home, the shower part, (no tub), is across a small separate hall from the actual bathroom.  The upstairs bathroom is large and airy, and as my bedroom is up there, too, I prefer the convenience rather then the downstairs.

It's normally fine, but my nieces are in the habit of taking two-hour-long baths.  They play with a bucket of Barbies, read, etc., and just take their good old time, one after the other.  It gets super frustrating, waiting for them to be done, so I can grab a quick shower.  I never say anything, as it's nowhere near close to a hill to die on, but still, it can be annoying.  They also don't use a mat or towel to step on and thus get water all over the floor, and they make messes in there they don't clean up.  I give it a thorough cleaning once a week, and I'm tired of having to move a stack of books back into their bedroom or stepping on Barbies!

The girls are 11 and 13.  Surely they could be addressed directly, and also should be responsible for cleaning up after themselves.   If necessary, put a time-limit on baths.  Get a timer to remind them it's time to be done.  One hour is more than enough time to wash, relax, read or play a bit in the bath.  This bathroom is shared by up to 5 people, it sounds like, and it is unfair to everyone else in the household to occupy it for excessive time.  After their hour is up, the girls should exit the bathroom, taking all their toys/books with them, and leaving the bathroom reasonably clean and dry for the next occupant.  Maybe have a sit-down with the girls (and their father, and your own teen) and agree on how to share the space/time and also how to share responsibility for cleaning the space, and consequences for leaving a mess/clutter (books/barbies disappear for a time if left there?)

My own DD has been responsible for keeping her own bedroom/bathroom clean since she was half your nieces' age, and from earlier than that was trained to pick up after herself and not leave giant messes.

I would recommend that you address this with your brother now before it becomes a hill to die on.

I agree, discuss with your brother and also with the girls so that this currently little thing doesn't become a huge annoyance (at which point, would the girls wonder why nobody mentioned it was an issue before?)

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« Reply #12371 on: July 08, 2013, 03:49:45 PM »
People who don't take into account their surrounding in a shared space. This, yet again, at the pool.
There was three lanes open today (lane four is for those having a private lesson), it's a no brainer, lane one is slow/ people not really swimming/kid hanging on the side wall, two is moderate, and three had the 'fast swimming' placard.
I tried the fast one at first (since I can keep a good, constant swim) but there was this slooowwww guy in it that you just had to bypass every time you came behind him.
The lane is 25m/82 f long, he took a full minute and a half for this, where the others in the lane took 30sec (and that's counting the few seconds bypassing him).
It was bordering ridiculous to watch, and irritating to wistand - I moved to the middle lane quickly.
In the middle lane it was more 40 sec to cross 25m, he should have been in lane minus 3.

So he's either the most clueless person ever (when the 7 other people sharing your lane have to bypass you everytime it means there's a problem, and you are it ::) ), or a special snowflake there to bother everyone.

I asked the lifeguard/instructor if they could do anything (like if they even had the right to say something or enforce their 'rule'), not much he could do... maybe if the other 7 people had complained  :-\

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12372 on: July 08, 2013, 06:00:03 PM »
Sometimes I'm driven a little crazy that I'm fairly busty with a petite frame. Petite cute dresses and tops with a square or v-neck that look perfectly decent on other petite women make me look like a freaking pin-up girl, aka, not appropriate for work or church. And yes, I know I can add a camisole but it has been HOT lately and I don't want to wear extra layers.

I have this issue. A pretty square of lace in the colour of choice (I have a black, a white and a red) and a couple of little gold safety pins - Ta Da!!! no more boobage!



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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12373 on: July 08, 2013, 07:47:59 PM »
Sometimes I'm driven a little crazy that I'm fairly busty with a petite frame. Petite cute dresses and tops with a square or v-neck that look perfectly decent on other petite women make me look like a freaking pin-up girl, aka, not appropriate for work or church. And yes, I know I can add a camisole but it has been HOT lately and I don't want to wear extra layers.

I have this issue. A pretty square of lace in the colour of choice (I have a black, a white and a red) and a couple of little gold safety pins - Ta Da!!! no more boobage!

Most busty women I know run into this.  Most clothing is made to fit a B/C cup.  Even modest cut tops can look obscene on me.  Oddly enough, the more modest/higher neckline, the more obscene it looks on me.  V necks are okay most of the time, most square cut necklines make me look like I'm offering up my breast on a platter.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #12374 on: July 09, 2013, 12:36:42 AM »
Sometimes I'm driven a little crazy that I'm fairly busty with a petite frame. Petite cute dresses and tops with a square or v-neck that look perfectly decent on other petite women make me look like a freaking pin-up girl, aka, not appropriate for work or church. And yes, I know I can add a camisole but it has been HOT lately and I don't want to wear extra layers.

I have this issue. A pretty square of lace in the colour of choice (I have a black, a white and a red) and a couple of little gold safety pins - Ta Da!!! no more boobage!

Most busty women I know run into this.  Most clothing is made to fit a B/C cup.  Even modest cut tops can look obscene on me.  Oddly enough, the more modest/higher neckline, the more obscene it looks on me.  V necks are okay most of the time, most square cut necklines make me look like I'm offering up my breast on a platter.

Oh, square cuts are the worst. I wore one last night where the fabric stopped 4 inches below my collar bones. But with my DDs it looked like they were out there for the world to see.