When people only contact you when they want something. Especially something that you can no longer assist with and they know that.
Or when people say, "Oh we should get together" and then never make it happen. If you really don't want to get together with me, then STOP SAYING IT. If you do want to get together with me, then contact me. I mean, at this point, my dh and I just roll our eyes at this person -- my former BFF.
She sees him regularly at work and Every. Single. Time she says, "Oh, Cami and I need to get together!" My dh has taken to saying to her, "If so, why don't you call her and make it happen?" Her response is, "Oh, you know me. I'm scatterbrained! She needs to call ME!"
Yeah, I spent years calling her. I'm over that and have been for years. The final straw was when she said she was on FB "all the time" so we should connect that way, but then told me that she's "too busy" to even hit the "like" button on any of my posts or pictures. Seriously? You
suggested using FB to "keep in touch" and then you're "too busy" to spend 1 second hitting the "like" button? LOL At that point, I just wrote her off. So by now, it's no longer hurtful and her comments are just a little thing that's annoying that we wish she'd stop doing.