In a previous post, I told the story of a former friend who keeps saying 'We should get together!' but never makes any attempt to do so and how she keeps seeing and pestering my husband about how I need to contact her (despite his repeated suggestions that she stop bugging him and just call me instead). At a certain point, I was done with always being the one to initiate contact and decided we needed to be former friends and was only aggravated by her insistence that I had to contact her -- hence, why it was a "little thing". Note that I did not send her a birthday card on her day this year as part of my distancing effort.
Update: Yesterday was my birthday. To my surprise, I received in the mail a birthday card from her. I open it to find it's a "Miss you" card on which she's written, "IF you want to see me, YOU know how to contact me."
In the amount of time it took her to buy the card, write the note in it, address it, mail it, she could have contacted me multiple times. What is this mindset that someone else is responsible for her social life? Argh.
Well, as I said to my dd as I threw the card out, "I guess her gift to me this year was a heaping dose of passive aggression."