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nuit93

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13665 on: November 13, 2013, 03:15:38 PM »
I work with a woman who is also always late and people are annoyed by it.  She even brought up it at a meeting how it is funny that she is always late because only works 2 minutes from the office but I guess since management kind of ignores it, it isn't my problem.  But it does annoy me she thinks it is a cute quirk about herself.  For the record she never stays late though, 4:30 on the nose she is out of here.

I'd say that was me  :-[ but I stay late as often as is needed, or work through lunch if it's really bad.

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« Reply #13666 on: November 13, 2013, 05:13:44 PM »
I work with a woman who is also always late and people are annoyed by it.  She even brought up it at a meeting how it is funny that she is always late because only works 2 minutes from the office but I guess since management kind of ignores it, it isn't my problem. But it does annoy me she thinks it is a cute quirk about herself. For the record she never stays late though, 4:30 on the nose she is out of here.

I once had a co-worker like this.  Lived three blocks away from the office, didn't take her proper turn relieving the receptionist for lunch, argued with her mother at top volume over the phone (with serious TMI).  What finally got her terminated was her cocaine habit.  Good riddance.





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« Reply #13667 on: November 14, 2013, 12:21:49 AM »
I have a former coworker that keeps coming back into the store trying to get her job back. She quit with no notice or anything. No one heard a peep from her for weeks until a few days ago. She came in today whining about how poor she was and asked for a drink for free and a discount on cigarettes.  ::)

Cherry91

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13668 on: November 14, 2013, 07:49:42 AM »
When you're on a train, and you know you're going to have to take another train afterwards to get to your final destination, but then the first train passes through your final destination without stopping! It just feels like the train is taunting me. I want to grab my bag and yell "Open the doors, I'll tuck and roll!"
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13669 on: November 14, 2013, 08:18:57 AM »
Those chronically late people need to start using Outlook calendar for meeting reminders (or some other system).  That is just so unprofessional!
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Venus193

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13670 on: November 14, 2013, 09:23:13 AM »
Unfortunately, most chronically late people would consider an Outlook calendar an authority figure and rebel against it.





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« Reply #13671 on: November 14, 2013, 09:36:31 AM »
I read a story once about a college instructor who had a student in a  night class who was consistently 15 minutes late to class...class started at 7, student was there at 7:15 every night.  The instructor had a conversation with the student and expressed her opinion that chronic lateness was a statement of rebellion, in an attempt to control the situation.  The student protested: she worked full time and had small children, so it by the time she got her kids home from school and dinner on the table, 7:15 was the earliest she could make it.  The instructor was sympathetic, and they agreed that 7:15 would be considered 'on time' for that student.

After that conversation, the student arrived at 7:30 for each class.

Piratelvr1121

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« Reply #13672 on: November 14, 2013, 10:01:33 AM »
I will say some chronically late folks can reform, though it does require wanting to.  I was one of them, and it was mostly a matter of poor time management in my case, knowing how much time to leave myself in order to get places on time.

And in my case, it was being married to someone in the military that cured me.  While I don't subscribe to the "hurry up and wait" mentality of getting to a place 15 minutes early to wait around for things to start, I do try to be somewhere at least 5 minutes early.  I was rather pleased when another mother at my church who has two boys said she marveled at my ability to get 3 boys up and ready, and myself put together and to church on time and no one in tears.

I've gone from seeing the clock and thinking "Ah, ten minutes to nine, I have time to do x!" To "Whoah, ten minutes to nine, we're running late!" (We have to be at church at 9 for Sunday School and we're 5 minutes drive from our church)
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« Reply #13673 on: November 14, 2013, 10:16:44 AM »
Something that bugs me to no end (somewhat related) is the stereotype that women take forever to get ready for things. Nope. I can get up at 7 and be at work by 7:30 with a 20 minute commute. I get up, bathroom, dressed, out the door. Getting ready for a party, I make sure my clothes look nice and throw on my coat, I'm ready to go. Boyfriend takes at least 45 minutes to get ready, dithering about what game to bring, but maybe people would want this one, but I want that one, but we won't have enough people for XYZ, but we'll have too many people for ABC, but this, but that, but infinity. He has it in his head that he can start getting ready with about half an hour to the start of the party and make it on time, but his "on time" is usually an hour or more late.

Now for most parties is fine, and I don't stress about that, but when we're planning on dinner at a VERY SLOW restaurant before a show next door and I've told him repeatedly to get there by 6:30 to be on time, it is not okay to show up at 7:15 and try to placate me that it'll be fine. No. You're late, we're rushed finishing our food, and my evening has started on a sour note because of it. It is on you and your inability to plan ahead. Do not blame anything else, I know better. None of your excuses hold water.

Hopefully (I can dream, can't I?) he learned that he cannot pull that with me any more, I was a very UNhappy camper that evening, and he was all over himself the rest of the weekend trying to make it up to me. Whether that translates to planning ahead in the future has yet to be seen.

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« Reply #13674 on: November 14, 2013, 10:22:49 AM »
Something that bugs me to no end (somewhat related) is the stereotype that women take forever to get ready for things. Nope. I can get up at 7 and be at work by 7:30 with a 20 minute commute. I get up, bathroom, dressed, out the door.

Last weekend I went out of town to watch an event.  I stayed with a friend.  We had to leave by 7:30.  It had been a late night the night before, and neither of us woke up until 7.  I got in the shower first.  I guess he figured he'd have a lot of time, so when I emerged from the shower 3 minutes later the look of shock on his face was rather priceless.  He was even more impressed that I was on the back porch playing on my computer, completely dressed and ready to go when he got out of his own shower. 
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« Reply #13675 on: November 14, 2013, 10:26:52 AM »
I agree, as my brother is one of them.  In fact, anytime my brother tells me "We'll be there at 10" I add an hour to that time.  Though I will say that the last time they came up, he asked if we were okay with them changing their arrival time, as his gf had some things she needed to get prior to showing up to get ready for something at work the next day.  I was fine with that and said as much.

And if there's something time sensitive, as in going to see a movie or something with a set start time, they'll show up on time, even early. Like for the little pirate's baptism this past Mother's Day, the service started at 10:15 and he and his gf showed up before my IL's.

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cwm

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« Reply #13676 on: November 14, 2013, 10:29:24 AM »
And completely unrelated, one from work. The terminally clueless, or those who absolutely refuse to take a clue or use the proper channels.

My company services lots of smaller companies. We have different tiers of service for different companies. When we started the most basic program for the smallest companies, I was the point person and emailed the person of contact at those companies. I have not been involved in this email campaign for well over 6 months now. It is over.

"Susan" at CompanyQ still has my email address. And the old form of sending orders in. We've recently had the problem where she and another person at her company were using old form and new form, resulting in lots of duplicate orders that we had to sort out. Okay, fine, it's been taken care of.

Susan still emails me on a weekly basis about the status of the orders and her own company's clients that we're working with. There is a shared email inbox that she should be using. I've told her this before. Repeatedly. And if I wasn't one of the two people maintaining that inbox, I would send everything there. As it is, it would just be another step in the process, I'd probably end up dealing with it anyway.

She's emailing me about things that have nothing to do with me or my position in the organization. When the orders are off to be processed, or we're on a backlog waiting for the government to do their thing with the order, or her end client has spoken to someone several months ago and wants us to call him back, she emails me. I assign files. I don't deal with files once they're assigned, I don't deal with files in processing.

The best part? Half the time she doesn't wait more than five minutes for an answer, she calls me. I had one question that I didn't know how to answer. I asked the salespeople around me. Their answer was "Well, it depends on X, Y, Z, and QRS, we can't tell until we get the file and can get into it." I emailed her this answer, saying she should tell her clients that we need an active file to know for sure. She responded TO THAT EMAIL saying that she was calling me. My phone rang. She asked what she should tell the clients, they were in her office. Now I don't have qualifications to give out any sort of advice, and my industry is such that if I were to give advice while unqualified, I could be fined lots of money and end up in jail, so I read my email to her word for word. Her response: "Oh, so should I just have them fill out an application and start a file?" *head meets desk repeatedly*

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13677 on: November 14, 2013, 10:45:04 AM »
Something that bugs me to no end (somewhat related) is the stereotype that women take forever to get ready for things. Nope. I can get up at 7 and be at work by 7:30 with a 20 minute commute. I get up, bathroom, dressed, out the door. Getting ready for a party, I make sure my clothes look nice and throw on my coat, I'm ready to go. 

I agree. I am not a morning person, and am happy to putter about for a couple of hours, IF I have nowhere to be. However, if I'm visiting someone, and we need to be up and out by a certain time, and once i start getting ready for work, I can be up, dressed, makeup on, etc. in a bout 20 mins. It does help I shower at night, but I can't stand taking more than that to get ready.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #13678 on: November 14, 2013, 12:49:32 PM »
I refuse to put up with constantly late people.

People in a professional setting who are grumpy because of something they have control over in their life.
  • Fad diet they chose to be on
  • Going to a midnight movie when you have to be at work the next day

Do what you please, but don't be grumpy with me the next day!
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Cherry91

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« Reply #13679 on: November 14, 2013, 01:55:15 PM »
Something that bugs me to no end (somewhat related) is the stereotype that women take forever to get ready for things. Nope. I can get up at 7 and be at work by 7:30 with a 20 minute commute.

I'm probably in the middle category - I like to take my time getting ready when I can, depending on the situation, how much time I have, etc.

When I've overslept, on the other hand, I can do 30 minutes of preparation in 5.
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