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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15240 on: March 11, 2014, 01:29:11 PM »
The BanBossy campaign. Yes, I get what their point is. But no, I'm not going to praise a child for pushing other kids around and pretend it's them showing leadership skills.  ::)

Amen on this because there 's a big difference between being a leader and being bossy.  A good leader is willing to consider the opinions of others.  A bossy person isn't. 

Until recently, it seems that 'bossy' was the female equivalent of the male 'bully'.  Now that bully is an equal opportunity epithet, maybe it is time for 'bossy' to go. 


I've never heard of this. I do regularly have conversations with my students about the difference between being bossy and being a leader. One thing I try to get through to them is a leader makes sure everyone gets heard.

It's a new Girl Scouts campaign. It's supposedly to try and make "bossy" qualities seen as "leadership" qualities. I've had bossy girls in my GS troop (member as a young girl), and trust me, that's not leadership, that's someone who needs to be punished for treating people as lesser-than.

its been on the UK news today. 

i get if someone is overstepping boundaries and trying to get others to do things when its not their place.  however, i got called bossy a couple of times in a job, mannnnny years ago.  my response was "and? do as you're supposed to and i won't have to be bossy."  ftr they knew i was in charge and just disliked being told what to do by someone younger than them!

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15241 on: March 11, 2014, 01:53:04 PM »
People who are completely oblivious to their surroundings.

I was standing with my dog against the wall of a building, a few feet to the side of the door, so that we would be out of the way of both sidewalk traffic and people exiting the door. A woman exited the door but had her head turned to the left and was walking to the right... so she walked straight into me and my dog... and then yelled at us for being in her way. Lady, perhaps you should try looking in the same direction you're walking.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15242 on: March 11, 2014, 02:10:10 PM »
People who are completely oblivious to their surroundings.

I was standing with my dog against the wall of a building, a few feet to the side of the door, so that we would be out of the way of both sidewalk traffic and people exiting the door. A woman exited the door but had her head turned to the left and was walking to the right... so she walked straight into me and my dog... and then yelled at us for being in her way. Lady, perhaps you should try looking in the same direction you're walking.

I'm laughing here, because I was once driving at night, lights on (as more people should do..another up-the-wall for me). I was stopped at an intersection, looking left, as I was going to turn right when the way was clear. I had a stop sign, traffic on the road I was turning onto did not. I had not even begun to move when I heard/felt a *thump* and looked to the right to find a jogger dressed entirely in black had run into my well-lit unmoving silver vehicle. He was angry and cussing me out for being in his way. How he did not see me, I have no idea, but being that he was in all black clothing at night, I'm glad he hit me first, as he would be impossible to see jogging at the side of the dark roadway (Not many streetlights on this portion of the road, and no sidewalk).

Which brings to mind another thing that drives me up the wall: People who go out at night to jog/walk dogs, whatever, and wear dark clothing and no reflectors/lights so they are absolutely invisible!

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15243 on: March 11, 2014, 02:14:41 PM »
^ ITA with the dark clothing. There was a young woman on the very busy road this morning, completely in black and she was invisible unless she was directly under a streetlight.

We had a student that was not paying attention, walking in a busy road, at night, and was hit by a car. She didn't make it.  :(

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« Reply #15244 on: March 11, 2014, 02:27:05 PM »
A former coworker one time came in raving about her new WonderBra.  It was so magnificent that every woman should wear one, no other bras ever needed to be sold.  It gave her clevage, etc.......

I looked from her 32A's to my 38D's and said: "If I wore one, I'd suffocate."  >:D

She had truly never considered that some of us have had a few extra whacks from the b00b fairy & don't want or need pushup, padded make the most of what you have bras.

And those of us who are really large, like my 48DDD, would also be blind because our view is being blocked.

My mom and aunt went on a rampage one year, of insisting that if you couldn't see your feet, your stomach was too big and you needed to lose weight. I can't see my feet over my boobs, not my stomach...not sure what you want me to do about those...
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« Reply #15245 on: March 11, 2014, 02:36:35 PM »
A former coworker one time came in raving about her new WonderBra.  It was so magnificent that every woman should wear one, no other bras ever needed to be sold.  It gave her clevage, etc.......

I looked from her 32A's to my 38D's and said: "If I wore one, I'd suffocate."  >:D

She had truly never considered that some of us have had a few extra whacks from the b00b fairy & don't want or need pushup, padded make the most of what you have bras.

And those of us who are really large, like my 48DDD, would also be blind because our view is being blocked.

My mom and aunt went on a rampage one year, of insisting that if you couldn't see your feet, your stomach was too big and you needed to lose weight. I can't see my feet over my boobs, not my stomach...not sure what you want me to do about those...

+1 to not seeing feet past boobs,  although i'll wear a wonderbra on occasion ;) gives the gals a gravity defying ooomph!

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15246 on: March 11, 2014, 04:26:27 PM »
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15247 on: March 11, 2014, 05:18:10 PM »
The BanBossy campaign. Yes, I get what their point is. But no, I'm not going to praise a child for pushing other kids around and pretend it's them showing leadership skills.  ::)

Amen on this because there 's a big difference between being a leader and being bossy.  A good leader is willing to consider the opinions of others.  A bossy person isn't. 

Until recently, it seems that 'bossy' was the female equivalent of the male 'bully'.  Now that bully is an equal opportunity epithet, maybe it is time for 'bossy' to go.

...It's not about letting kids be bullies. It's about preventing girls from being called 'bossy' and shut down when they display genuine leadership skills.

(As with everything else in life, I'm sure some people will do it the wrong way, but that doesn't mean the campaign itself is wrong.)
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15248 on: March 11, 2014, 07:53:07 PM »
When the person who filled their tank before me leaves fuel in the nozzle.  There's nothing quite like a shower of Eau de Diesel on your way to work each morning.   ::)

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15249 on: March 11, 2014, 08:17:34 PM »
People who are completely oblivious to their surroundings.

This one one of my major pet peeves in life. It covers people who
- don't look where they're going,
- stand with their carts in the middle of the aisle in stores,
- somehow don't notice that they're left food smears/crumbs/puddles of liquid on kitchen counters,
- don't notice their kids running amok in public places because they're shopping/reading/whatever,
- talk loudly in quiet areas,

and on and on and on.

I don't understand why more of these people aren't killed in accidents and such. They seem absolutely clueless and unaware of the world around them.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15250 on: March 12, 2014, 05:27:52 PM »
The BanBossy campaign. Yes, I get what their point is. But no, I'm not going to praise a child for pushing other kids around and pretend it's them showing leadership skills.  ::)

Amen on this because there 's a big difference between being a leader and being bossy.  A good leader is willing to consider the opinions of others.  A bossy person isn't. 

Until recently, it seems that 'bossy' was the female equivalent of the male 'bully'.  Now that bully is an equal opportunity epithet, maybe it is time for 'bossy' to go.

...It's not about letting kids be bullies. It's about preventing girls from being called 'bossy' and shut down when they display genuine leadership skills.

(As with everything else in life, I'm sure some people will do it the wrong way, but that doesn't mean the campaign itself is wrong.)

While I understand this, I've never heard someone called bossy just for having leadership skills and being assertive, whether male or female. It seems easier and more productive to me to focus on building leadership skills within Girl Scouts instead of just saying, "We need to ban the word bossy!" Honestly, I've been called just about every word in the book at this point in my life, and, while, yes, it hurts at the time, I've had to learn to just not care. If it's true, I'll take it under advisement. If not, I don't care about the opinion of a jerk.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15251 on: March 12, 2014, 05:42:01 PM »
The BanBossy campaign. Yes, I get what their point is. But no, I'm not going to praise a child for pushing other kids around and pretend it's them showing leadership skills.  ::)

Amen on this because there 's a big difference between being a leader and being bossy.  A good leader is willing to consider the opinions of others.  A bossy person isn't. 

Until recently, it seems that 'bossy' was the female equivalent of the male 'bully'.  Now that bully is an equal opportunity epithet, maybe it is time for 'bossy' to go.

...It's not about letting kids be bullies. It's about preventing girls from being called 'bossy' and shut down when they display genuine leadership skills.

(As with everything else in life, I'm sure some people will do it the wrong way, but that doesn't mean the campaign itself is wrong.)

While I understand this, I've never heard someone called bossy just for having leadership skills and being assertive, whether male or female. It seems easier and more productive to me to focus on building leadership skills within Girl Scouts instead of just saying, "We need to ban the word bossy!" Honestly, I've been called just about every word in the book at this point in my life, and, while, yes, it hurts at the time, I've had to learn to just not care. If it's true, I'll take it under advisement. If not, I don't care about the opinion of a jerk.

Ha.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15252 on: March 12, 2014, 06:29:59 PM »
when i've said, leave the pan i need to use it in 20 minutes, and i come back in just over 20 minutes and its been cleared and put away!!  "but you didn't come back for it/ i didn't hear you say that"  are not acceptable excuses!!! especially when pan-put0away-er was stood next to me when i bleeping said it!!!

then i have to get a different pan out (dishwasher on!!) and thats twice the washing up because they are too impatient!

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« Reply #15253 on: March 12, 2014, 06:59:03 PM »
A pamphlet from a financial advisor stuck in the storm door of my house. Now I have more junk mail to throw away. He must not be very busy, or very good, if he has time to go door to door. Oh wait, I should probably have posted this in the rip-offs & scammers thread.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #15254 on: March 12, 2014, 10:02:43 PM »
The BanBossy campaign. Yes, I get what their point is. But no, I'm not going to praise a child for pushing other kids around and pretend it's them showing leadership skills.  ::)

Amen on this because there 's a big difference between being a leader and being bossy.  A good leader is willing to consider the opinions of others.  A bossy person isn't. 

Until recently, it seems that 'bossy' was the female equivalent of the male 'bully'.  Now that bully is an equal opportunity epithet, maybe it is time for 'bossy' to go.

...It's not about letting kids be bullies. It's about preventing girls from being called 'bossy' and shut down when they display genuine leadership skills.

(As with everything else in life, I'm sure some people will do it the wrong way, but that doesn't mean the campaign itself is wrong.)

While I understand this, I've never heard someone called bossy just for having leadership skills and being assertive, whether male or female. It seems easier and more productive to me to focus on building leadership skills within Girl Scouts instead of just saying, "We need to ban the word bossy!" Honestly, I've been called just about every word in the book at this point in my life, and, while, yes, it hurts at the time, I've had to learn to just not care. If it's true, I'll take it under advisement. If not, I don't care about the opinion of a jerk.

Ha.

http://www.geekculture.com/joyoftech/joyarchives/1973.html

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.........okay, it's nice that some people have the self-esteem to ignore stuff like this, but for other people it's stuff like this that destroys their self-esteem. Yes, i got called 'bossy' in school, for putting my hand up in class when a boy was mad at me for getting more answers right on a test than he had. The teacher told me that maybe I should try not to 'stand out' so much. I still clearly remember feeling crushed and embarrassed, because I'd been so happy to know the answer, but the teacher had taken that boy's side, so I must have been wrong somehow. Being obviously right in class was wrong.

So I stopped putting my hand up in class, at all. And at the end of term that teacher still put on my report card that I had to learn not to 'dominate classroom discussion'.

Did you know that there are studies showing that if girls are taking up 15% of classroom time, boys - and most teachers - think they're getting equal time? And if they get 30% of classroom time, boys think they're never shutting up? And one of the most common ways to get them to shut up is to tell them they're being bossy (or pushy, or unfeminine, or... There are a lot of words that get used against girls). I will look up links and post them when I get home and am not typing on my phone.

So yes, I care about this. I think it could be a good idea, done right. And honestly, having someone object to unfair treatment and immediately be mocked with a joke or made-up story painting them as whiny and petty is one of the ways people try to shut down legitimate complaints, so no, I did not laugh at that comic.
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