She guilted me into buying it from her when I was 14. I had some money saved up for my first car. She said that if I paid it off for them, I could have it when I turned 16. It would be mine, absolutely free and clear.
BTW, my sis and brother-in-law, who were living in another country at the time, were FURIOUS that she guilted me into buying it. I didn't want it, but I did it to **help my family**. And look what kind of h3ll I get in return.
I think that I might mention it casually in conversation.."Mom, would you be mad if I took your car without permission?" [Insert noise of disgust from Mom] "Of course I would be!!! You don't have permission!!!" "Then why is it appropriate for you guys to use my car without my permission?"
I think this might be the only way to get it through to her...what do you guys think?
For the record...eventhough I am 17, I am also a full-time college student. I have never done anything remotely "teenager-like", never done anything to destroy her trust or respect in me...heck, I've worked all my life to build that respect. I'm not unworthy of respect because of my date of birth.
Also for the record...it's not like I'm shacking up with my boyfriend when we go out of town, or we're traveling together just the two of us. We travel with his mother, father, and younger sister to their lake house, where they keep a close watch on us, and I do appreciate that I have the freedom to travel with his family, because they are wonderful people. I'm not saying I should be allowed to do whatever I want; I'm just saying that she should reciprocate the level of respect that I give her. I have some freedoms, such as travel, that many teenagers are not granted. I am not granted other freedoms that most teenagers take for granted. I remember one time I was PMSing and my meds had just been changed, so my body was a little haywire and I'd been pretty withdrawn for a couple days. I hadn't been disrespectful or angry or sad or anything, just...staying in my room and not talking much, dealing with my issues in my own way. My mom informed me that she would ground me for a month if I wasn't "happy" by dinnertime tomorrow.
So, fklwmn, while I have the freedom to travel with my boyfriend's family, I don't have the right to my own emotions. Take it or leave it, but I'd rather have the right to emotions than the right to travel anyway.