It was DS's birthday party today. He turned 8, and he invited 8 friends to enjoy the afternoon at our house. The program was focussed on keeping boys busy (paintball shooting, making a fire and grilling sausages, and bike races).
The party was an undisputed success, bar *one* incident.
One of the neigbours have a 5 year old daughter (almost the same age as DD). Jamie and DD play almost every day, and they are good friends. Jamie's mum is not a friend of mine, and she never will be, but I quite like her daughter. DS's party started at 1 this afternoon, and DD told Jamie that she had to go home. Not five minutes later, the phone rang for the first time.
Jamie's mum: Jamie wants to know why she is not invited to DS's party.
DH: It's a boys party, he invited no girls.
Jamie's mum: Jamie is upset, you need to explain to her.
DH: No, I am busy with the boys.
Jamie's mum: *whine, whine, whine*
DH: I'm sorry, I can't talk now. (hangs up)
Five minutes later, the phone rings again. This time I answer.
Jamie: sob, sob (she was crying uncontrollably)
Me: Jamie, put your mum on the phone please.
Jamie's mum: Jamie wants to know why she was not invited.
Me: I can't supervise a 5 year old today. I have 8 eight year olds here, doing things 5 year olds can't do. I'm sorry.
Jamie's mum: Well, you can explain that to Jamie.
Me: No, you can explain to Jamie that there will be parties she is not invited to. You need to make her understand. That's not my job.
Jamie's mum: *silence*
Me: OK, Jamie's mum. Bye!
Five minutes later, the phone rings again!
Jamie: sob, sob, can I speak to DS?
Me: Sure (hands the phone to DS)
DS: I will get call you when the party is over, ok?
*SECONDS* later. Jamie arrives. I see her mum DRIVING OFF.
Jamie joins the party. I can't send her home, there is nobody there. My DS didn't get a party pack (there wasn't enough) or a prize after the paintball shooting (again, not enough prizes).
I am LIVID at myself.
How could I have dealt with this differently?