I received an invitation to my godmother's 50th birthday party yesterday. Her oldest daughter, who is one of my best friends, told me about the party well b/4 invitations went out so that I could plan on coming since the invites weren't going out till late. Great, I passed on the word to my Mom and sisters so that they would all know too. At the same time said daughter tells me that Aunt J (my godmother) would prefer that any gifts might be a picture, memory, recipe, etc (something small that can be put into an album basically) instead of any large gifts (for her 40th there were some rather outrageous gifts that embarrassed her greatly). I thought this was great and also passed word on to mom and sisters about the gifts.
Then I got the invitation, rather prominently on the invite it states "No Gifts! Rather please bring a favorite picture, memory, recipe, etc to share with J." Now the guest list is comprised solely of family members and a very few close friends. Not exactly a huge party and definitely can use the "grapevine" since said family members gossip like its their job.
I know her daughters hearts were in the right place, but it just blew me away. Oldest daughter knows enough about parties to know who can and cannot throw a bridal or a baby shower, to not include registry info, to make sure that there is enough food and drink for guests and all the rest of good hostessing etiquette... so what were they thinking?
More of just a rant, and I'm not sure that theres much of a faux pas here, but please post your thoughts.