I've just joined the group in the last week. I've got a question about how to handle the question of "how many children do you have?"
I have two children, both in their early 20's. I am estranged from my daughter. It is sad to say, but I finally had to ask myself in regards to her, is life better without this person in it. The answer was yes. My son made the same choice. It was a difficult decision, one I put off making until one day she just went to far.
I haven't talked to her in well over a year, and don't see the situation changing.
Usually I have been answering that I have 2 children, but often, in further conversation, it becomes obvious that the situation is what it is. That's when the bean dipping starts. People suddenly feel the need to tell me how I should have a relationship with her, no matter what, etc. They have no idea what they are talking about and I don't want to get into a conversation about it. A few people I've had to bluntly tell them "my child, my business". Which can be a bit of a conversation killer.
I've thought about saying there is only one child, but that doesn't feel good to say. And if I get to know the person better, something that at some point with have to be clarified.
Is there anyway I could handle this better?