This week, Lady Gaga returned to her former high school for her younger sister's graduation. She wore a really outlandish outfit; several papers were saying it was designed as a snub toward her former school, where she was an outcast because people thought she was "weird."http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/manhattan/agog_at_gaga_style_of_revenge_2ykp1SCjjoABfmp0js6zdP
(Note: the outfit was really outlandish by normal standards. By Lady Gaga standards, it was fairly appropriate daywear.
This reminded me of a story from a few years ago, referenced in this thread: http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=18741.0
In that one, Rihanna was asked to leave her cousin's wedding for dressing and behaving in a manner that attracted attention away from the bride.
So my question: if one is a celebrity, and one is invited to a social event that has nothing to do with you, per se: a wedding, graduation, birthday party, etc., what is the appropriate thing to do? Each of these women seems to be in trouble mostly for carrying what is seen as their "stage persona" into the social arena. Is that always inappropriate? Wouldn't their very presence at the event be a distraction? And how would you feel, if you were the non-famous relative who is the honoree at the event, if your famous sibling/cousin/distant relative came and the event ended up being more about her?
(For the record, I think each of these ladies, if their behavior was as reported, acted inappropriately. Gaga would have made even more headlines if she had worn a sweater set and a simple skirt, though. I wonder if there was a way for her to win.)