@ Matilda- The problem is that you cannot presume to know what others will say on an internet board and you emphatically cannot say "Well, give me advice, but not if it is more exteme that I like, or disagrees with my tolerance level, or is more passive than I would like."
There are questions posters on this board have asked and people have told them honestly- I would not tolerate this. I would leave/kick him to the curb. Or even get out now. Other posters tell them "You are making a mountain out of a molehill." It all balances out (assuming the OP has asked for advice).
What exactly is your solution? Answer questions only if your answer involves...? Do not answer if you feel that the poster doesn't want to hear...? Only give middle of the road answers?
I must say, gently, that it sounds like what you are really saying is "Don't anyone answer in any way that I don't agree with or that I believe is too strong." People are giving honest responses- are you really, really trying to say that people should not answer threads unless their advice meets some kind of criteria (cannot tell OP to leave, must encourage counseling...) you agree with? That is not any kind of place I would want to read, lurk, or post.
If you post on a 'net board you get the advice others offer. You cannot control this as long as it is within the bounds of the board. Everyone is different, with different tolerence levels and different things they find to be absolute no gos. This board will become much less interesting if everyone is afraid of giving answers they are honestly asked for, even if you don't agree with all of the responses.