One a year, a friend of mine visits, and I usually throw a party for her in my apartment. Last year, it was a Soup Partay, this year is Salad Partay (too hot for soup!).
We have a hobby that leads to overlapping friend groups. In one of the groups, one of the women has a physical disability that makes it impossible to climb stairs. I happen to live on the 3rd floor in a non-elevator buiding.
I really like this person, but we aren't close by any means - we maybe run into each other a couple of times a year. Last year I did invite her when I wasn't sure if she'd be able to do the stairs or not - it turned out she couldn't.
This year, I know for sure she can't, but I feel bad not inviting her. I mean, I'd love to have her there, but I know she can't. This year, the group she was apart of was just invited in general, so I didn't have to deal with it in the specific.
But, I'm wonder, in the future, what should I do in that situation? I've thought about trying to find another place to do the party that's accessable, but there isn't really a lot of options, given that we potluck it (believe me, I've tried unpotlucking it, but everyone loves finding something yummy to bring and trading recipes) and drink wine, and sit for hours.