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MadMadge43

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Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« on: July 31, 2010, 12:41:26 PM »
So it was my birthday yesterday and I received a massive amounts of "happy birthday posts". Now normally I reply individually to each post I get, but in this case I think this might actually be rude to others. As in no one wants to have their thread filled with a 100 thank yous from me. And sending a 100 personal notes would just be a way I don't want to spend my morning.

So ladies of e-hell making up these rules, can we say a general thank you post on my page suffices?

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2010, 12:49:17 PM »
I've seen it done both ways, and I'm not bothered by either.  :)

Also, happy birthday ;D

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2010, 12:50:05 PM »
Yes. I had that happen, and I just did two status updates with Thank Yous. I do not have time to thank each person individually. Some people do that, and that's great, but I don't think it's rude not to, as long as you acknowledge it in some way.

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2010, 01:27:36 PM »
I think you're fine with another status update of "thanks for all the great birthday wishes yesterday!" 

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #4 on: July 31, 2010, 01:33:02 PM »
Last year I responded to each note individually, but I didn't have as many connections as I do now.

I think that the important thing is that you thank people.  If you prefer, you could send a separate message to each person who E-mails you through Facebook, but post in your status update a general thank-you.
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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #5 on: July 31, 2010, 01:58:24 PM »
I've been in the same place!  First I spent way too much time going to every individual page and thanking every person. Seriously, hours. Thankfully, other friends have been far more clever than I have.

The one status update note is nice, but people may or may not see it. I've had friends do both of the following that have worked for me -
- gone to every birthday post on their wall and "liked" it. That way I knew they saw it, and they responded casually. Quite fine for the casual-ness of FB.
- gone to every birthday post on their wall and commented with a "thanks" or response to the specifics of the note.

I've also seen combos of those. I think the "like" works well for the people that just wrote "Happy Birthday", and sometimes longer notes are better served with a response in the comment line.

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #6 on: July 31, 2010, 02:09:22 PM »
DH's bday was on Tuesday, and rather than reply to every "Happy birthday!" he posted "Thanks for all the birthday wishes!" as his status. 
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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #7 on: July 31, 2010, 02:35:29 PM »
Good question!  I never quite know what to do with things like that.  I think I just put a thank you in my status update this year.

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #8 on: July 31, 2010, 04:05:01 PM »
I think that's a good way to handle it.  I've done some individual thank yous, but I usually post directly on their pages instead of replying on mine so that if I miss someone, they won't see all the responses on my page.  Now I usually just do a status update.

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #9 on: August 01, 2010, 02:35:09 PM »
I thanked individually, and DH thanked in bulk (if you will).  I think next BD, I'll do it his way.  I see it done more and more "in bulk," and I'm fine with that.

Happy birthday!  


eta:  I like the "like" idea.  I think I'll do that next time.  Assuming, of course, that I get BD wishes!   ;)




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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #10 on: August 01, 2010, 02:47:07 PM »
I might say something about being overwhelmed by all the wishes,a nd how much you appreciate it, but I think a status update is ok. 
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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #11 on: August 03, 2010, 07:57:10 PM »
Got overwhelmed this year and just replied in bulk.
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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #12 on: August 03, 2010, 08:02:42 PM »
Can I be jealous?  Last year I didn't get a single birthday wish on my birthday.  Plenty the day before and after, but none the day of.  It was so bizarre.  Even my parents didn't talk to me that day!  I'd love to have the problem of too many birthday wishes to respond to. ;)

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #13 on: August 04, 2010, 01:54:28 PM »
Well that's what I did for my birthday in February. I just posted one general thank you along the lines of Thank you to everyone who wished me a happy birthday it was great, or something like that. If there were any people who were offended I didn't thank them individually, oh well.

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Re: Birthday Wishes on FB and responding
« Reply #14 on: August 05, 2010, 04:41:01 PM »
I commented on each one, that way it doesn't fill up people's feed, but everyone gets thanked.