thanks for the replies!
yes, now that i look back on it, i do realize that i did sound like i was ranting in the first post. oops! i guess it was late at night and i had just spent a loong day caring for my infant son (who happens to be teething, woo!) so i guess i wasn't in the best of moods.
also, in other forums i frequent, it is common for people to start threads just to rant about random things on their mind, so i've guess i've been partially corrupted by that as well.
anyway, i honestly didn't mean to stir up drama, i really wanted to hear others' stories on similar things. i know i can't be the only one who thinks people post too much information on Facebook! for next time i probably try to make it less rant-like (and also keep it shorter and more to the point too, i now realize in my first post i practically wrote a novel!).