But are they trying to lie to "you" (generic) or themselves? If they really think that they can "pass" for that age (and it's a decade or three younger than they really are) - does anyone want to deal with someone who is refusing to grow up?
Ugg, my best friend dies this & it drives me cr-AAAAAAA-zy. She'll list her age as 5-7 years younger. She rationalizes it by saying that her mind-set is so much younger than her actual age. I've tried to explain that a dude who's into her won't care about her age, and a dude who does won't be happy about being lied to. She's very adept at the circular reasoning, so linear logic doesn't convince her too often.
Her "mindset" may be younger than her actual age, but she's still the age she is. I don't why some people insist on lying about their age.
What I hate is, "I'm 45...but I act like I'm 30." (Or whatever age they are and claim to "act.")
So....they are saying they are immature?
Heh. There is a certain immaturity to it, isn't there? She's never been able to convice me that it's a reasonable thing to do, and I've never been able to convince her that she's completely wrong & she should just do what I tell her.
But I've also never heard her tell me about people who objected to the deception, and I don't know if that's because no one's told her that they had a problem with it, or if it's because she didn't want the "I told you so*". I don't know if she rationalizes it away or pretends it didn't happen or decides that those suitors were just shallow or what. OP, I wonder if your date has any sense of your discomfort. Will he continue to use that same photo, or find one more appropriate?
OK, I've lied about my age. I claimed to be 15 years older than I really was.
I lost all urge to claim to be older as soon as I turned 21. Funny how that happens!
*Not that I'd say that to her. But she'd know I was thinking it.