The other thread made me think of this incident.
My DH and I used to attend a church that had dinner before the weekly Wednesday evening services. For a small fee (around $3), you got a serving of entree, whatever sides/veggies/salad, drink, and dessert. Overall, it was a pretty good deal and the food was usually quite good.
On the evening in question, the entree was dark meat chicken portions, which I just do not care for. I gave my serving of chicken to my DH and just ate the sides and dessert. Another couple in the same situation as DH and I did likewise. Someone showed up after all of the food had been served and found there was no more chicken; however, she saw my DH with two pieces and complained to the pastor, who in turn, publicly chastised my DH and anyone else who had "taken seconds before everyone had had firsts." Technically, my DH didn't take a second piece. I had taken a piece and, upon discovering that it was not something I could eat, I gave it to him rather than throw food away. I doubt that it would have been appropriate for me to put my piece back into the common serving dish once it had been on my plate.
So, my question is - who was rude? Me for not eating my piece of chicken and giving it to my DH? The late-comer who made the assumption? The pastor for the public chastisement?
This incident happened many years ago, and it has always bothered me. We stopped attending that church shortly after this incident and the pastor's subsequent actions toward us, which could be another thread in itself.