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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #15 on: August 18, 2010, 01:34:02 PM »

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I would wonder why this ex is keeping tabs on PnQ's. It was a very brief less than a month, couple of dates kind of thing, certainly not a long history of d@ting or even having been friends before hand.

Stalkerish... much...??

OP, I'm glad you've blocked him  

I would hardly call his behavior stalkerish.  It's not like he had to go out in search of information on Peas;  they were FB friends.  If Peas didn't want him to see her posts she just had to de-friend him. 

I honestly don't think the guy did anything wrong in responding to a post that more than likely showed up on his feed.  And if Peas doesn't want him privy to her information the right thing to do is de-friend and block. 
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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #16 on: August 18, 2010, 01:42:46 PM »
I would wonder why this ex is keeping tabs on PnQ's. It was a very brief less than a month, couple of dates kind of thing, certainly not a long history of d@ting or even having been friends before hand.

Stalkerish... much...??


OP, I'm glad you've blocked him 

I would hardly call his behavior stalkerish.  It's not like he had to go out in search of information on Peas;  they were FB friends.  If Peas didn't want him to see her posts she just had to de-friend him. 

I honestly don't think the guy did anything wrong in responding to a post that more than likely showed up on his feed.  And if Peas doesn't want him privy to her information the right thing to do is de-friend and block. 

Agreed, and  if you're going to call him stalker-ish for doing something completely with in the realm of normal  for that medium, what does that make PnQ's for friending him after such a casual, short, relationshp in the first place?   It goes both ways.

OP, I'm glad you've resolved this issue in a way that's satisfactory for you. 
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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #17 on: August 18, 2010, 01:43:22 PM »
see i was thinking that this was his unsubtle way of letting her know that he could still see her feeds

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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #18 on: August 18, 2010, 01:47:50 PM »
I agree that he was not stalking at all, I just thought it was wierd that if my post upset him at all he didn't take the steps to hide my feed.

My motives for friending him were a little stalkerish because I wanted to review his FB to get a better idea of his personality!  ;D I think I was on there once or twice and then hid his feed because his updates weren't that interesting and were taking up room on my page lol.
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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #19 on: August 18, 2010, 01:49:49 PM »
I would wonder why this ex is keeping tabs on PnQ's. It was a very brief less than a month, couple of dates kind of thing, certainly not a long history of d@ting or even having been friends before hand.

Stalkerish... much...??


OP, I'm glad you've blocked him 

I would hardly call his behavior stalkerish.  It's not like he had to go out in search of information on Peas;  they were FB friends.  If Peas didn't want him to see her posts she just had to de-friend him. 

I honestly don't think the guy did anything wrong in responding to a post that more than likely showed up on his feed.  And if Peas doesn't want him privy to her information the right thing to do is de-friend and block. 

Agreed, and  if you're going to call him stalker-ish for doing something completely with in the realm of normal  for that medium, what does that make PnQ's for friending him after such a casual, short, relationshp in the first place?   It goes both ways.

OP, I'm glad you've resolved this issue in a way that's satisfactory for you. 

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Re: "Exes" on Facebook
« Reply #20 on: August 19, 2010, 07:57:17 AM »
Don't worry about it Dragons, previous experience is known to mess with your perception. Deity knows it still influences mine.
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