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Animala

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #15 on: August 25, 2010, 07:23:09 PM »
As someone acting as a representative of your school, is that how your school wishes to be perceived.  If not, then report him.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #16 on: August 26, 2010, 10:55:59 PM »
College is a different world, and college-age boys are a world unto themselves.  The F bomb, as offensive as it is to most of the population, is considered almost normal in some college circles.  You'd be hard put to find a college athletic department where it isn't used often. 

Yes, its impolite and downright crude.  You can report it.  You can tell the young man its not acceptable.  But don't expect it to change.  You can expect to hear it from other recruits, too. 

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #17 on: August 26, 2010, 10:57:53 PM »
College is a different world, and college-age boys are a world unto themselves.  The F bomb, as offensive as it is to most of the population, is considered almost normal in some college circles.  You'd be hard put to find a college athletic department where it isn't used often. 

Yes, its impolite and downright crude.  You can report it.  You can tell the young man its not acceptable.  But don't expect it to change.  You can expect to hear it from other recruits, too. 

It wasn't the recruit who used it.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #18 on: August 27, 2010, 08:59:50 AM »
I think it depends on your office culture. I work in a university and my boss regularly drops f-bombs and no one blinks an eye.



I agree. My coworkers and I have been known to cuss the air blue (well away from where we can be overheard by anyone) and we all have sick senses of humor. An "f"bomb here and there is no big deal to us, but there are floors where it would be a hanging offense.

I think that I would let it go.
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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #19 on: August 27, 2010, 09:58:40 AM »
I think it ceases being an "office culture thing" when there is a guest in the room whom you are trying to impress, not with your office but with your university.
 
I just don't see any way that using the F-word in this case was not only rude and unprofessional but counter-productive to the goals of the department he was a part of.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #20 on: August 27, 2010, 10:34:52 AM »
I think it ceases being an "office culture thing" when there is a guest in the room whom you are trying to impress, not with your office but with your university.
 
I just don't see any way that using the F-word in this case was not only rude and unprofessional but counter-productive to the goals of the department he was a part of.

I agree but in an office culture where it's not seen as being a big deal, reporting it may be seen as a step too far.

I don't think anyone is arguing that it wasn't a bad idea for him to curse, just that in particular office cultures, reporting it for only doing it once may impact negatively on the OP.
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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #21 on: August 27, 2010, 12:59:08 PM »
I'm with the posters that are in favor of letting it go since it was a one-time offense.  Sounds like an awkward campus visit for all parties, really.  Just move on to impressing the next recruit - good luck!

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #22 on: August 27, 2010, 01:13:36 PM »
Well, I'd let it go this one time in terms of reporting it to campus personnel as an HR issue, but I do think I'd bring it to the attention of the athletics department that it needs to be expressed more firmly to the staff that f-bombs are not acceptable or professional because an escort used such language in the presence of a recruit, and the recruit was clearly uncomfortable.
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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #23 on: August 28, 2010, 11:33:44 PM »
Don't report him. Talk to the athletics dept. about making sure the athletes are aware that talking to a potential recruit or anyone else off the field requires different language skills.

If the f-bomb shows up again, I bet a simple "Dude! We're not in the locker room!" will set everything straight without making anyone feel embarrassed.

I did this recently while shopping when the young man, while on the cell phone with his sweetie, kept describing the ironing board as the "f=ing" board in a very loud voice. It probably helped that I looked about the same age as his mother, but still, it worked. "Dude, the ironing board doesn't actually F."






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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #24 on: September 01, 2010, 08:29:31 AM »
I thikn it depends what "report it" means.  If "report it" means tell his superiors so he gets in trouble and/or loses his job then probably not.  If "report it" means bring to their attention the fact that their seems to be a lack of awareness or sensitivity to what might offend prospspective recruits then I think it shuold be reported.  This young man also tried to tell a joke that for whatever reaosn didn't scan well so maybe he would benefit from some training/insight on how to read his audience.  That wouldn't be punishment but rather might be beneficila in this and other positions.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #25 on: September 01, 2010, 08:47:45 AM »
I think it ceases being an "office culture thing" when there is a guest in the room whom you are trying to impress, not with your office but with your university.
 
I just don't see any way that using the F-word in this case was not only rude and unprofessional but counter-productive to the goals of the department he was a part of.

I agree but in an office culture where it's not seen as being a big deal, reporting it may be seen as a step too far.

I don't think anyone is arguing that it wasn't a bad idea for him to curse, just that in particular office cultures, reporting it for only doing it once may impact negatively on the OP.

I work in oil and gas. If I reported every f-word I heard each day, I'd get about an hour of actual work done. I expect college athletics is like that, but squared.
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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #26 on: September 01, 2010, 08:50:10 AM »
if the office culture is that it is no big deal then I would guess that reporting it won't carry any big rerecussions anyway.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #27 on: September 01, 2010, 08:54:13 AM »
Yes, I would agree that it's reportable.  Many young people might figure that it's no bid deal, but obviously this person does, and I agree.

Where did you get that from? A poll of all young people?

I work in an office where cursing runs rampant and its not the young people who are the worse offenders! I think generalizations about people are best kept out of etiquette discussions. His swearing has nothing to do with his age. As a young person, I don't appreciate the generalization :)

As for reporting him. I think you could have pulled him aside and said something...but reporting him is IMO OTT and will get you looked as someone who reports on the littlest thing. I am careful around the people who like to tattle on other's at work. Something truly bad is reportable...one curse word is not really to that standard.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #28 on: September 01, 2010, 08:55:50 AM »
Yes, I would agree that it's reportable.  Many young people might figure that it's no bid deal, but obviously this person does, and I agree.

Where did you get that from? A poll of all young people?

I work in an office where cursing runs rampant and its not the young people who are the worse offenders! I think generalizations about people are best kept out of etiquette discussions. His swearing has nothing to do with his age. As a young person, I don't appreciate the generalization :)

As for reporting him. I think you could have pulled him aside and said something...but reporting him is IMO OTT and will get you looked as someone who reports on the littlest thing. I am careful around the people who like to tattle on other's at work. Something truly bad is reportable...one curse word is not really to that standard.

I think the words "many" and "might" are probably adequate qualifiers.

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Re: Dropping the F bomb
« Reply #29 on: September 01, 2010, 09:09:00 AM »
Yes, I would agree that it's reportable.  Many young people might figure that it's no bid deal, but obviously this person does, and I agree.

Where did you get that from? A poll of all young people?

I work in an office where cursing runs rampant and its not the young people who are the worse offenders! I think generalizations about people are best kept out of etiquette discussions. His swearing has nothing to do with his age. As a young person, I don't appreciate the generalization :)

As for reporting him. I think you could have pulled him aside and said something...but reporting him is IMO OTT and will get you looked as someone who reports on the littlest thing. I am careful around the people who like to tattle on other's at work. Something truly bad is reportable...one curse word is not really to that standard.

I think the words "many" and "might" are probably adequate qualifiers.

OK...I disagree however. :)